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Is Homosexuality a Choice or Are You Born That Way?

  • GoChiefs
    september63 wrote: a nice guy with repsected opinions, likeable to all, witty and very intelligent are your other things? Damn!! TY Chiefs. So nice of ya.
    Yep..that's clearly what I was thinking. :rolleyes:
  • september63
    Liar! OK, Im off to cause distruction on the college side. Have a good night.
  • BRF
    GoChiefs wrote:
    BCSbunk wrote: The correct answer is both. There is a genetic predisposition to sexual preference but you have to act upon them.
    I, too, can agree with that statement.
    And I'm going to agree with this also. As I was asking my wife, in our continuing debate, could there be different degrees of "macho-ness" or "girlie-ness" that you are born with? And the "lower" ends of those, culled with "allowing" it, brings it "to the top"?

    I have a question. Do you think there are more homosexuals today than, say, 500 years ago (percentage of population, of course)? I would say, yes........due to the permissiveness (and even encouragement) of our society today.

    I also brought up a point that has been touched on here, and that is someone not feeling good about how to approach and deal with the other sex. So they just say........I'm gay. And find willing partners to take up the slack.

    I still think that darbypitcher hit it on the head.
  • GoChiefs
    I would agree there are more 'gays' today than before. Society is more accepting now than before.
  • Apple
    I tend to believe that the answer to the OP is both.

    In nature, there is documented proof that some within a species naturally seek out those of the same sex. I can't site the exact data, but I know there has been research conducted that proves this theory.

    There is also documented proof, again I cannot site the exact data but can remember that it has been compiled, that shows that homosexuality can be a learned sexual practice that can become a personal preference.

    My own contention is that it all comes down to the stimulation that results in orgasm, be it masturbation or with an actual sexual partner.

    Some reach orgasm with the stimulation that the same sex provides.
    Some can reach orgasm with either sex.
    Some can only reach orgasm with the opposite sex.

    Are these desires innate or learned/chosen? Yes.
  • ernest_t_bass
    Choice.
  • berry
    Choice. Although that cruise price is tempting.
  • Swamp Fox
    I believe that the tendency is with them from birth but because of societal taboos and familial pressures and/or personal embarrassment , it sometimes never manifests itself in overt lifestyle habits. In other words, homosexuals attempt to live a lie rather than face all of the problems that will engulf themselves and their families and in doing so, make their lives more miserable than they would have been by honestly facing the facts and living the "normal" way for them.....and yes heterosexuals out there, I did use the word normal.
  • BRF
    Hey berry, I saw that you got called out by 2kool4skool on another thread! ;)

    Are you going to let that lay, or pass it over?

    p.s. - I kinda agree with him. :D
  • Al Capone
    september63 wrote: Someone said earlier............ask Al Capone. Let the record show it wasnt me!!
    Ask your mom and sister about me. When you get married I'll show your wife.
  • v_falcons
    haha is the lesbian romance ad above random?
  • september63
    Al Capone wrote:
    september63 wrote: Someone said earlier............ask Al Capone. Let the record show it wasnt me!!
    Ask your mom and sister about me. When you get married I'll show your wife.

    LOL No where in this thread did I comment in a bad way about you!!

    Keep showing your true colors bud. Really I never even mentioned ya.
  • september63
    miller45452003 wrote: Just ask Al Capone...:D
    You have a problem young Capone, take this one up with him!!
  • royal_k
    Born
  • hasbeen
    Born and I have to agree with just about everything Gut posted.
  • gerb131
    Choice.
  • berry
    BRF wrote: Hey berry, I saw that you got called out by 2kool4skool on another thread! ;)

    Are you going to let that lay, or pass it over?

    p.s. - I kinda agree with him. :D

    Of course I am gonna let it pass over. You know that I never attack down. :(
  • Cat Food Flambe'
    I've seen too many gays go through agony for too many years to believe that your sexual orientation is purely by choice.

    However, I believe that some do choose to pursue their own gender either from events in their life or by choice - in fact, it seems to be the "flavor of the day" in some circles (particularly among women).
  • GoPens
    Born. I too have seen and talked to too many gays to believe it's a choice.
  • gut
    GoChiefs wrote: I used to agree with the whole 'born' thing. Until an old friend of mine was screwed over by a couple of women...then he decided...fuck it...women cause too much drama...and he has never dated a woman since. He made that choice. Since then..my opinion on the topic changed.
    That undoubtedly applies to some, but I would be very careful in making a blanket statement. There are some as you describe, but undoubtedly some who don't have a choice. They are born gay, and engaging in a sexual act is a choice. However, one can be gay and be celibate.
  • gut
    BRF wrote:
    I have a question. Do you think there are more homosexuals today than, say, 500 years ago (percentage of population, of course)? I would say, yes........due to the permissiveness (and even encouragement) of our society today.
    Depends on your frame of reference. Homosexuality and bisexuality was widespread practice in ancient Greece, particularly among the wealthy/elite.
  • ts1227
    The better question is: does it even matter?

    Regardless of how it exactly happens, we should just live with it and not hold it against them.
  • hasbeen
    ts1227 wrote: The better question is: does it even matter?

    Regardless of how it exactly happens, we should just live with it and not hold it against them.
    Good point.

    But we are here to argue, so you shut up.
  • gut
    I think everything's been pretty well covered in this topic, so I'll try to leave this as a final thought:

    No man or woman would say they made a choice to fall in love with their spouse (or that they chose to no longer love them!). Why then would you say a man who fell in love with another man made a choice to do so?
  • GoChiefs
    ts1227 wrote: The better question is: does it even matter?

    Regardless of how it exactly happens, we should just live with it and not hold it against them.
    Does it matter? Maybe..depends on who you ask. And some just find it so hard to not hold it against them!