If a fiancé is not satisfied with say, a $6,000 ring, then my sense is things are probably not going to turn out well in the long run.

posted by OSH

Gave my wife my mom's first set. They upgraded after 10 years. I told my wife that was her option -- upgraded ring or hot tub. She'll get a hot tub.

Diamonds are a scam. Ain't no reason to put that much money into something that truly doesn't mean/do anything. I'll never allow my kids to do the same with a ring (2 girls and 1 boy). Young marriages could do so much more than spending thousands on a circular band.

Diamonds are not a scam. You’re just cheap and have no style. And LOL @ you thinking your son is going to listen to ANYTHING you say at that point. Hopefully he buys a nice diamond ring for his fiancé and doesn’t think like you do. 

posted by j_crazy

got mine at kohls, 70% off sale. paid $749 for the engagement ring and the wedding band combo. absolutely best decision ive ever made.

Is this for real? $749 ring? Why even buy a ring? Why not just propose to her and say “sorry honey I don’t have a ring because  I don’t believe in spending money on my fiancé”

How much did you drop on a ring?

About $8,500

What's the amount needed to spend to show that you believe in spending money on your fiance? Does the 3 month salary rule apply?

posted by Automatik

What's the amount needed to spend to show that you believe in spending money on your fiance? Does the 3 month salary rule apply?

Guess that depends on who you're trying to impress, and where you buy it from. My ring, I bought from a client of mine who owns a jewelry store. He could have probably sold my ring for $10-12k in his store. So I knew I was getting a good diamond. 

My fiance' wanted an oval diamond. So I was able to sacrifice a little on karat because oval's naturally pop out. I went highest possible quality on color (D), but little less on quality of the diamond--but you'd literally have to look through a microscope to see the imperfections on the ring. I was cool with that. 

If you're ever in Chicago, let me know and i'll hook you up with this guy. He educates on what to look for, and then spends a few weeks looking for what you want. Sells it to you a few hundred bucks more than what he buys it for so that he can buy some blackhawks tickets or something for his kids. You know you're getting top quality at a fair price.

https://www.brilliantearth.com/rings/cyorings/purchase_review/?sid=1279023&did=6830005

looking at something like this..i am still a few months away from having the money aka. tax time and then i will adjust to the specific diamond i want.  i would like to get a full carat center stone.

posted by SportsAndLady

Diamonds are not a scam. You’re just cheap and have no style. And LOL @ you thinking your son is going to listen to ANYTHING you say at that point. Hopefully he buys a nice diamond ring for his fiancé and doesn’t think like you do. 

Do you work for big diamond?

posted by SportsAndLady

Diamonds are not a scam. You’re just cheap and have no style. And LOL @ you thinking your son is going to listen to ANYTHING you say at that point. Hopefully he buys a nice diamond ring for his fiancé and doesn’t think like you do. 

Cheap? Sure. Not sure why that'd be a bad thing. Being sentimental isn't bad, nor is it "unstylish" if that's what you want.

If he wants to buy a nice ring, so be it. But, it'll be communicated the thoughts. My wife will do the same, as she doesn't think it's wise to drop that much money on a ring either. Same with our two girls, they'll understand the value of the marriage is bigger than anything a ring can buy.

posted by Automatik

100% agree. I wouldn't even consider being with, let alone marrying a girl that would get off to a 30k ring.

Yeah that is insane.

Personally, I was not willing to spend thousands on a ring. Thankfully my wife has a similar value and didn't want an engagement ring so it was never an issue. I don't judge others that want a ring, more power to em!

Honestly out of my friends, I've had two instances where the guy wanted to buy an engagement ring and the women did not want one. To each their own.

posted by OSH

An attorney friend of mine told me when I was engaged that whoever gave the ring is entitled to get it back. Courts will rule in their favor, if needed.

ironically I was told by my son-in-law's sister (also an attorney) just the opposite--unless it's in writing

posted by Commander of Awesome

Yeah that is insane.

Personally, I was not willing to spend thousands on a ring. Thankfully my wife has a similar value and didn't want an engagement ring so it was never an issue. I don't judge others that want a ring, more power to em!

 

Honestly out of my friends, I've had two instances where the guy wanted to buy an engagement ring and the women did not want one. To each their own.

It's way too early to tell in my situation, but I assume if I proposed with a 10k ring, she'd flip the fuck out. I'm somewhat materialistic, I spend money, I like nice things. She's the complete opposite.

posted by Commander of Awesome

Do you work for big diamond?

No. I knew jack shit about diamonds up until a year ago when I got engaged. 

posted by OSH

Cheap? Sure. Not sure why that'd be a bad thing. Being sentimental isn't bad, nor is it "unstylish" if that's what you want.

If he wants to buy a nice ring, so be it. But, it'll be communicated the thoughts. My wife will do the same, as she doesn't think it's wise to drop that much money on a ring either. Same with our two girls, they'll understand the value of the marriage is bigger than anything a ring can buy.

 

 

Yeah keep thinking that Lol

posted by geeblock

 

https://www.brilliantearth.com/rings/cyorings/purchase_review/?sid=1279023&did=6830005

 

looking at something like this..i am still a few months away from having the money aka. tax time and then i will adjust to the specific diamond i want.  i would like to get a full carat center stone.

I might be in the minority, but I prefer just one big center stone and a thin, plain-ish band. 

https://www.foxsports.com/nfl/laces-out/story/mario-williams-wants-his-785k-engagement-ring-back-050613

He got his ring back

I'm gonna guess OSH has the type of woman who gives fuck all about flashing her ring to a group of friends and saying her fiance spent $xxx.

posted by Fab4Runner

I might be in the minority, but I prefer just one big center stone and a thin, plain-ish band. 

i said the same thing and was intent on doing it anyway, but her bff has told me that would be a death sentence.  My first marriage i bought a solitaire just one big $15,0000 diamond.  (her parents gave me half the money).

posted by vball10set

ironically I was told by my son-in-law's sister (also an attorney) just the opposite--unless it's in writing

No idea about the legalities, but understood that the proper thing depended on who broke up with whom (if he ended it, she keeps the ring and vice versa).

I grew up thinking  it was not classy to have anything but a single stone, but since im not the one wearing it...

posted by OSH

An attorney friend of mine told me when I was engaged that whoever gave the ring is entitled to get it back. Courts will rule in their favor, if needed.

Unless it's done on Christmas or birthday, or valentines day, or any day that it could be seen as a "gift."  I can't verify this, but they were talking about it on the radio.  Fake news?

Wow.  I haven't looked at the cost of loving index for a while, that's for sure.  Think I paid $200 at Roy's for a 1/4 carat engagement ring for Mrs. Z, that was 30 years ago.  I may be a cheap bastard, but it WAS a diamond ring. 

Four years later, paid about $1000 for diamond "wrap" for the first ring.  Told me wife that was it on the diamonds, they'd have to last her a long time.

Sports, if you want to drop that kinda coin on a ring, that's all you.  Who am I to judge you for doing that?  But who TF are you to judge others for not basing their love on an expensive material possession?  What's next?  You going to buy fully loaded Benz over a more practical car (for the wife), just b/c more money = more love?