Relationship with your boss/supervisor

• Fab4Runner

  

  BR1986FB;1536114 wrote:We need Fab4runner to chime in on this...lol. Her boss sounds like a real peach.

  THE WORST!!!!!!!
  
  [video=youtube_share;qdchLT81ygc][/video]
  
  But seriously. The worst. Very small office here (just him, his son, and me), so it's basically impossible to not have a relationship. I try to keep it professional, but he takes it very personally that we are not "close" or "family-like" and that we do not do more activities outside of work.
• Commander of Awesome

  

  Raw Dawgin' it;1536111 wrote: Also - i wouldn't get too close with a female boss, especially if she were close in my age, god knows what HR nightmare is waiting around the corner.

  Yeah bc every girl is just looking to have sex with you. : thumbup:
• SportsAndLady

  

  queencitybuckeye;1536143 wrote:I really don't mean to be cold, and I hope your girlfriend gets better soon, but it's a little disingenuous to bitch about a couple of texts while having a conversation here.

  I know. Guess I'm just venting here.
  
  I just, as a supervisor, would never text and call someone numerous times if they said they won't be in due to someone close to them being in the hospital.
  
  I would just move on with the day assuming they won't be back and if they show back up, fine.
• Heretic

  

  BR1986FB;1536114 wrote:We need Fab4runner to chime in on this...lol. Her boss sounds like a real peach.

  Heh, reps for the lulz.
  
  At work, I'm cool with my immediate boss. Friendly, I'd say. Heh, at work, with all the stuff I bitch about, it's nice to have at least one thing that I'm cool with.
• GoChiefs

  

  ernest_t_bass;1536112 wrote:No way, dude. He HAS to be qualified, amirite?

  Absolutely not. He's been there 2 years and still knows nothing. He took over our shift about a year ago. Whenever you go to him with a problem that he needs to solve it's always "well, what would you have done before?" Umm, we would go to our boss and she'd make a fucking decision.
• queencitybuckeye

  SportsAndLady;1536146 wrote:
  I just, as a supervisor, would never text and call someone numerous times if they said they won't be in due to someone close to them being in the hospital.
  
  I would just move on with the day assuming they won't be back and if they show back up, fine.

  I would try not to bother someone with a bunch of questions. I would certainly not ask if you're planning on being back today.
• Dr Winston O'Boogie

  

  From my experience, it is better to keep your relationship with a boss on a strictly professional level. Friendly conversation in the context of working is fine. But becoming friends and socializing together caries a lot of risk. It's not a guaranteed problem, but the odds are high that it can be. I've tried it both ways. When a "friend" boss ends up making a decision that I don't like, I have felt pissed at the "friend". Then I have to remind myself, "This is your bosss; you shouldn't have put yourself in the postion of being upset>"
• Iliketurtles

  

  My boss and I have a pretty good relationship. Never really gone out for drinks or anything but did do dinner once with her and my wife. She always says we need to go to a minor league hockey/baseball game but haven't yet. We do some small talk here and there as well. She has been really helpful in teaching me stuff to help me move up.
  
  Sadly she won't be my boss much longer as she is moving up in our corporate office.
  
  As for your situation S&L I like you handled it best. Hopefully your GF is ok.
• queencitybuckeye

  Dr Winston O'Boogie;1536153 wrote:From my experience, it is better to keep your relationship with a boss on a strictly professional level. Friendly conversation in the context of working is fine. But becoming friends and socializing together caries a lot of risk. It's not a guaranteed problem, but the odds are high that it can be. I've tried it both ways. When a "friend" boss ends up making a decision that I don't like, I have felt pissed at the "friend". Then I have to remind myself, "This is your bosss; you shouldn't have put yourself in the postion of being upset>"

  This. Friendly, not friends.
• ZWICK 4 PREZ

  

  My boss and I are pretty decent friends. We both are U of Akron engineering grads and still go to a lot of Akron games and events. He's from Medina and we'll be tailgating for the Massillon- Medina highland game at Akron U tonight. People say I'm his pet since he usually talks to me but it doesn't bother me.
• ernest_t_bass

  

  Raw Dawgin' it;1536137 wrote:clearly she isn't that bad if you're on OC...jk.

  I guess I can agree with this, without the JK. You can talk work with him, if you can talk on the OC.
• Gblock

  GoChiefs;1536109 wrote:My boss is an ignorant asshole that has no business being a supervisor. He only has the job because off affirmative action. No desire to be cool with him. I show him respect as my boss, that's as far as it goes.

  
  do you work for city/state? where do they make people supervisors because of AA?? not sure im buying it
• SportsAndLady

  

  queencitybuckeye;1536151 wrote:I would try not to bother someone with a bunch of questions. I would certainly not ask if you're planning on being back today.

  His latest text "I would appreciate it if you would be back at least by the end of the day to make sure everything is closed properly"
• Automatik

  

  sleeper;1536113 wrote:Female bosses are the worst.

  THIS!!!
  
  I've always heard about it before entering the corporate world and it's true.
  
  I can't speak for all, but it seems hard for them to separate their personal emotions from the workplace. Numerous times my old boss would fly off the handle over very very minor issues. She once gave a coworker the silent treatments for around 2 months. LOL...it was fucking bizarre.
• ernest_t_bass

  

  SportsAndLady;1536167 wrote:His latest text "I would appreciate it if you would be back at least by the end of the day to make sure everything is closed properly"

  Regardless of texting business back and forth, that's an asshole move.
• Automatik

  

  ernest_t_bass;1536172 wrote:Regardless of texting business back and forth, that's an asshole move.

  Yes, very bush league. You called off, you're entitled to those days. Fuck that guy.
• OSH

  

  Our work environment is professional, but everyone is pretty close. We have to support each other here...if not, it would be miserable.
  
  We are all in it together, so we understand if one of us is succeeding/failing the rest of us do the same. It's best if we are all working together to succeed.
  
  My boss is cool. I am glad I have the chance to work with him in my first full-time career opportunity. He had to fire his best friend one day...that would suck. But his boss gave him the order to fire, tough place to be in.
• Iliketurtles

  

  Automatik;1536168 wrote:THIS!!!
  
  I've always heard about it before entering the corporate world and it's true.
  
  I can't speak for all, but it seems hard for them to separate their personal emotions from the workplace. Numerous times my old boss would fly off the handle over very very minor issues. She once gave a coworker the silent treatments for around 2 months. LOL...it was fucking bizarre.

  
  That's fucking crazy.
  
  Since I've graduated college all 3 of my bosses have been woman and they have been great. 1st was just a manager working nights at Kroger. But the other 2 have been in the corporate world and they were both in the military so maybe that's helped.
• Gblock

  SportsAndLady;1536167 wrote:His latest text "I would appreciate it if you would be back at least by the end of the day to make sure everything is closed properly"

  depending on how your sickleave/vacation time is set up, if im taking a full day sick time im not coming in, as a supervisor i would assume he would know how to close things and thats part of his job if an employee is out. i guess it all depends on if you take hourly comp time or whatever
• queencitybuckeye

  SportsAndLady;1536167 wrote:His latest text "I would appreciate it if you would be back at least by the end of the day to make sure everything is closed properly"

  Agree with the others. Asshole move. The correct answer is "we have you covered, worry about taking care of the gf".
• Raw Dawgin' it

  

  Commander of Awesome;1536144 wrote:Yeah bc every girl is just looking to have sex with you. : thumbup:

  In the situation of being too close with a boss and going out for drinks, I definitely think it could be a problem. I wouldn't want to put myself in a position to say/do something stupid or have that person take something i say wrong. I'm not saying it's cause I think she wants to bang me, but things could definitely get weird.
• sleeper

  

  ernest_t_bass;1536172 wrote:Regardless of texting business back and forth, that's an asshole move.

  Agreed. Bush league.
• BR1986FB

  Gblock;1536178 wrote:depending on how your sickleave/vacation time is set up, if im taking a full day sick time im not coming in, as a supervisor i would assume he would know how to close things and thats part of his job if an employee is out. i guess it all depends on if you take hourly comp time or whatever

  This is extremely bush league on his bosses part. If he doesn't go in his boss is probably going to hold this against him which is bogus considering he has the right to time off.
• Gblock

  Raw Dawgin' it;1536182 wrote:In the situation of being too close with a boss and going out for drinks, I definitely think it could be a problem. I wouldn't want to put myself in a position to say/do something stupid or have that person take something i say wrong. I'm not saying it's cause I think she wants to bang me, but things could definitely get weird.

  
  had a buddy who went out for drinks with the gm and regional gm and then got drunk and talked poorly of his direct manager performance and got fired the next day. apparently they were close friends with his direct supervisor lol
• sleeper

  

  Automatik;1536168 wrote:THIS!!!
  
  I've always heard about it before entering the corporate world and it's true.
  
  I can't speak for all, but it seems hard for them to separate their personal emotions from the workplace. Numerous times my old boss would fly off the handle over very very minor issues. She once gave a coworker the silent treatments for around 2 months. LOL...it was fucking bizarre.

  I just hate how passive aggressive they are about everything. I worked(past tense) with a guy who was clearly incompetent and never did any work; and any work he did do was absolute shit. I went to her and told her that his poor performance was dragging the team down and I had to work extra in order to keep everything running smoothly. So she called a meeting with the team and went over what everyone was working on and when she got to the guy she never pressed into him about the clear disparity between the work he was doing vs. the work everyone was doing. She ended up leaving the company and was replaced by a male and within 2 weeks the new supervisor fired the guy.
  
  And yes this guy was a minority.