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What would you think and do? Should I be pissed.

  • dwccrew
    thavoice;844346 wrote:About a .000007 percent chance of that. The two boys were outside playing baseball. The girl, well, she is so glued to her own phone and ipod and computer that she is oblivous to anything else.

    It is the wife who questions me all the time about it. Even though I turn my phone off when I am home and she does 3X the texting as me I get teh third degree if I ever get a text or call.

    99,99999999999999 percent sure it is her. She is busted. She says she has no idea how to even check the voicemail, which is BS as its the same way as it is on her phone.

    She isnt getting aggravated at me that I insinuated that she checked it...I would think if she really didnt then she would be offended and mad that I even suspected her.

    It sounds like you know the answer to whether she did it or not, but only you can answer whether you should be mad or not. Have you given her reason in the past to not trust you? If not, then you should be pissed.
    Con_Alma;844353 wrote:I would have no problem with that if I had a phone. Do people really hide things from their spouse?

    Apparently people do hide things from their spouses, since it is likely she his hiding the fact that she checked his phone. That really wasn't a serious question though, right? I mean it is common knowledge that SOME people hide things from their spouses all the time.

    thavoice;844389 wrote:GOod idea, but ya see, that wreaks of hiding something though.

    One thing that has me is this...........she says they were not home. So..SOMEONE had to do it and not once has she brought up about someone possibly coming into our house, or shown any 'fear' or concern that someone was in the house while we were gone.


    I have grown up believing that those who are accuse or worry or are always suspicious when there is no reason do so because either they are guilty of it themselves, or the feel vulnerable that they would do that themselves.

    Your last statement I agree with 100%.
  • Con_Alma
    dwccrew;844409 wrote:...

    ... I mean it is common knowledge that SOME people hide things from their spouses all the time.

    ....
    to the best of my knowledge not the ones that plan on the relationship being a giving, loving one for the rest of their lives.
  • thavoice
    dwccrew;844409 wrote:It sounds like you know the answer to whether she did it or not, but only you can answer whether you should be mad or not. Have you given her reason in the past to not trust you? If not, then you should be pissed.



    Apparently people do hide things from their spouses, since it is likely she his hiding the fact that she checked his phone. That really wasn't a serious question though, right? I mean it is common knowledge that SOME people hide things from their spouses all the time.




    Your last statement I agree with 100%.


    Nope. Not a thing. Other than going to work or a run I have done absolutely nothing without her. No nights on the town, Nada. Nothing.
  • Heretic
    dwccrew;844409 wrote:I mean it is common knowledge that SOME people hide things from their spouses all the time.

    Usually heroin.
  • Scarlet_Buckeye
    Lets face facts, if a random "someone came into your house" they would not "listen" to your phone, they would "steal" your phone. Also, how would a random "someone" know your password to retrieve and listen to your voice mail messages?
  • thavoice
    Scarlet_Buckeye;844424 wrote:Lets face facts, if a random "someone came into your house" they would not "listen" to your phone, they would "steal" your phone. Also, how would a random "someone" know your password to retrieve your voice mail messages.
    Agreed. But I dont have a password on it.

    The more I think of it..the more I get pissed. I got home at 718. This happened at 657. when I get home supper was already started and such. So...either someone came in MINUTES before they came home or she did it.
  • Scarlet_Buckeye
    Again, I reiterate, your bigger problem here is the lie when confronted a day after the fact.
  • Con_Alma
    I understand your disappointment thevoice but be careful with getting "pissed". If she screwed up, and it sounds like she did, it's because of an insecurity she may have. This is your wife and she will make mistakes just as you will. Getting pissed is going to make her even more defensive and possibly lead to more lies.

    You might think about being calm before you discuss this with her further. Anger tends to make things worse even when you're right.

    The goal isn't to be right and make sure that all know it. The goal is to determine why the lies exist and solve that problem so that you two can move forward with a strong, healthy marriage.
  • Scrawney
    Divorce
  • Steel Valley Football
    LOL at Con Alma asking if people really lie to their spouses. Again and again, he tries to show everyone here how special and different he is.
  • power i
    You know the truth and she knows you know the truth. Without calling her a bold face liar, I would let her know that you know it was her. People check phones for 2 reasons, the first is because they know somethings going on and want to find out or two, they are doing shady things and expect the same from you. I was out of town for 5 days and the last thing to cross my mind when I got home was to check my husband's phone. One of my girlfriends who went with me checked her husband's phone as soon as she got home and found he'd call the town skank about 30 times while she was gone.

    If my husband's phone rings and he's not home, I usually look to see who it is, but very rarely answer it unless it's family. But as soon as he comes home I'm telling him he had a call.
  • Con_Alma
    power i;844525 wrote:You know the truth and she knows you know the truth. Without calling her a bold face liar, I would let her know that you know it was her. ....
    I think that's good advice power i. I really hope this works out for you thevoice. Hopefully it can be a strengthening experience for you and your wife.
  • queencitybuckeye
    Steel Valley Football;844511 wrote:LOL at Con Alma asking if people really lie to their spouses. Again and again, he tries to show everyone here how special and different he is.

    Sorry if my superior dance offends you, but I've never lied to my wife. Ever.
  • Con_Alma
    queencitybuckeye;844557 wrote:...my superior dance ...
    You elitist you. Lol.
  • gorocks99
    PIIHB as payback.
  • Steel Valley Football
    queencitybuckeye;844557 wrote:Sorry if my superior dance offends you, but I've never lied to my wife. Ever.

    Aside from missing the point completely, were you aware there are people out there who lie to their spouses?
  • queencitybuckeye
    Steel Valley Football;844598 wrote:Aside from missing the point completely, were you aware there are people out there who lie to their spouses?

    People seem to miss your point frequently. Perhaps if you wrote above a middle school level...
  • earwig
    definitely grounds for a trial separation.
  • thavoice
    power i;844525 wrote:You know the truth and she knows you know the truth. Without calling her a bold face liar, I would let her know that you know it was her. People check phones for 2 reasons, the first is because they know somethings going on and want to find out or two, they are doing shady things and expect the same from you. I was out of town for 5 days and the last thing to cross my mind when I got home was to check my husband's phone. One of my girlfriends who went with me checked her husband's phone as soon as she got home and found he'd call the town skank about 30 times while she was gone.

    If my husband's phone rings and he's not home, I usually look to see who it is, but very rarely answer it unless it's family. But as soon as he comes home I'm telling him he had a call.

    Good points. There is no reason for her to expect anything so who knows....maybe she is up to something.
  • 4cards
    ...Check and see what happens if you leave your phone at home & ring/send yourself a text from another phone when your positive she is the only one who would look at it. When you get home if the phone mssg or text has been looked at, you have your answer and that is your wife is nosey or she doesn't trust you for whatever reason. The bottom line is that you will know where the problem lies and then you can figure out how to handle it.
  • Steel Valley Football
    queencitybuckeye;844619 wrote:People seem to miss your point frequently. Perhaps if you wrote above a middle school level...

    My writing skills are probably in the 90th percentile or above on the OC. Don't be a dickkhole just because you missed the point.
  • thavoice
    Steel Valley Football;844636 wrote:My writing skills are probably in the 90th percentile or above on the OC. Don't be a ****khole just because you missed the point.



    90th percentile of this shit is still shit!!!
  • Steel Valley Football
    thavoice;844651 wrote:90th percentile of this **** is still ****!!!

    Good point, but my writing skills are the least of your concerns right now.
  • superman
    Does she have a sister? If so, you know what to do.
  • password
    You need to set her up, have one of your friends ask their woman to help you out. You leave your phone at home next time you go for a run, have the girl call your phone and leave a sexy message asking where you are at, because she is still waiting for you but she only has about a hour or two to meet before her husband gets home from work and she really wants to feel you explode inside her. Then have her comment on how nice it was for you to pay for the new lingerie that she is wearing right now.

    I guarantee, who ever is checking your phone will come forward and admit to the crime as soon as you walk through the door.