Do you think gay couples should be able to adopt children?

• newarkcatholicfan

  

  First I am not ragging on anyone I’m just asking the question.
  Why do you think they should or shouldn’t?
• dwccrew

  

  Yes, there is plenty of gay couples that could provide a better and more loving home than some straight couples. Sexual orientation shouldn't have anything to do with someone's ability to raise a child. JMO
• justincredible

  

  Of course they should. dwccrew answered it perfectly.
• dlazz

  Yeah. ^^ What they said.
• cat_lover

  What dwccrew said.
• cbus4life

  Pretty much what Crew said.
  
  Would much rather see a child with a loving, caring family made up of two committed adults who will love and care for the child as if it were their own.
  
  Seen far too many homosexual couples acting as wonderful parents to think otherwise.
  
  Not sure how anyone could ever claim that it "isn't good for the child" when the alternative for that child is to languish in some foster home, orphanage, or other less than ideal situation. If you truly care for the children, then you would fully support allowing adoption.
  
  Have yet to see any real evidence that it "isn't good for the child," as many against this claim it to be.
• derek bomar

  

  well it's "there are" not "there is"...so he didn't answer it perfectly...just sayin'
• queencitybuckeye

  There's no legitimate reason for it not to be allowed.
• se-alum

  

  Absolutely they should.
• Manhattan Buckeye

  I have mixed feelings on the subject, given that we know several heterosexual couples that have gone through the adoption process, it is stressful, painful and very expensive. It is the one thing about the movie Juno that was halfway accurate (certainly the ridiculous dialogue wasn't realistic) re Jennifer Garner and Jason Bateman's situation. Too many people have the wrong idea that adopting a kid is just like going up to the local Wal-Mart and picking a kid up off of the rack or otherwise that there is a shortage of willing and capable adoptive parents.
  
  Fortunately our closest friends that went through the process ended up a success story, although it took them close to 3 years and God knows how much money they spent - although I'm sure they had help from their respective parents.
• Soda Popinski

  dwccrew wrote: Yes, there is plenty of gay couples that could provide a better and more loving home than some straight couples. Sexual orientation shouldn't have anything to do with someone's ability to raise a child. JMO

  Correct answer.
• Bio-Hazzzzard

  

  I don't they should IMO. I think of it this way in the childs point of view, imagine being raised by a gay couple the ridicule a child would get primarily in their teenage years that could have a lifetime effect on them. When I was in high school that kid would have been picked on endlessly which makes high school a place where they don't want to be. It does depend on the kids personality, but I don't think he/she would have a fighting chance around other teens. Man+woman=child, I hope a child with gay parents will realize that as they get older. This is my opinion.
• ZWICK 4 PREZ

  

  Only if they're lesbians.
• Fab4Runner

  

  Fo sho.
• j_crazy

  

  yep, but adoption in this country is incredibly flawed anyway. it's more about how much money you have than how loving/caring you will be with the child.
• Bigred1995

  

  I don't they should IMO. I think of it this way in the childs point of view, imagine being raised by a mixed couple the ridicule a child would get primarily in their teenage years that could have a lifetime effect on them. When I was in high school that kid would have been picked on endlessly which makes high school a place where they don't want to be. It does depend on the kids personality, but I don't think he/she would have a fighting chance around other teens. Man+woman=child, I hope a child with mixed parents will realize that as they get older. This is my opinion.

  I respect your opinion, but I changed your quote slightly to reflect what people thought not to long ago! Children will tease no matter what, to use getting teased as an excuse is pretty weak.
• power i

  

  There is a lesbian couple in our town who have adopted 4 kids. They range in age from elementary school to high school. Add on the fact that they are all black and the women are white, they are also the only black kids in our school system, which could lead to even more ridicule. They are great kids, have tons of friends and if some did make fun of them, they would probably get their asses kicked by those friends.
  
  There are shitty parents out there. They can be any color or sexual orientation.
• ts1227

  

  dwccrew wrote: Yes, there is plenty of gay couples that could provide a better and more loving home than some straight couples. Sexual orientation shouldn't have anything to do with someone's ability to raise a child. JMO

  /thread
• Manhattan Buckeye

  ts1227 wrote:

  dwccrew wrote: Yes, there is plenty of gay couples that could provide a better and more loving home than some straight couples. Sexual orientation shouldn't have anything to do with someone's ability to raise a child. JMO

  /thread

  Sexual orientation isn't the issue, it is the sex (or gender if people prefer that word) that matters. When looking at adoptive parents IMO it should be the ideal situation, not necessarily a question of legality. There is no way that two guys (whether they are a gay couple or just happen to be heterosexual roomates) can provide an upbringing to a girl that is more ideal than a couple with at least one female, particularly during puberty. My wife has experience with this.
• Fabio

  TWO DADDIES TWO DADDIES
  
  
• Bio-Hazzzzard

  

  Bigred1995 wrote:

  I don't they should IMO. I think of it this way in the childs point of view, imagine being raised by a mixed couple the ridicule a child would get primarily in their teenage years that could have a lifetime effect on them. When I was in high school that kid would have been picked on endlessly which makes high school a place where they don't want to be. It does depend on the kids personality, but I don't think he/she would have a fighting chance around other teens. Man+woman=child, I hope a child with mixed parents will realize that as they get older. This is my opinion.

  I respect your opinion, but I changed your quote slightly to reflect what people thought not to long ago! Children will tease no matter what, to use getting teased as an excuse is pretty weak.

  Ok, fair enough. I do not believe in it in a religious aspect. I didn't state this in my other post because I didn't want to alter this thread into a religious thread. As a christian, I cannot support gay/mixed marriages or their adoption of children. I agree with other posts that some of these couples would make outstanding parents, but that don't make me believe in it.
• Writerbuckeye

  

  Absolutely.
  
  I was very good friends with a lesbian couple (still am with the surviving partner) who raised two beautiful daughters.
  
  There was absolutely nothing wrong with them having kids and they brought them up to be responsible, productive, respectful members of society.
  
  You can't ask for more.
• cbus4life

  Well said, Writer.
  
  Two of my neighbors in Clintonville, a homosexual couple, recently had a pre-graduation party for their daughter who will be graduating from Brown this spring. Absolutely wonderful parents. And, raised a wonderful, successful daughter.
  
  I completely disagree with those who think that two males cannot raise a girl properly, or what have you. In my experience with homosexual males who have raised girls from infancy to adulthood, there have been absolutely no problems whatsoever. Hell, i even dated a girl in college who was raised by two men, and she always said she couldn't have asked for anything more, even with the whole "puberty" thing.
• visionquest

  Heck yes they should be allowed to adopt....I bet most gay dudes would make a better father than myself, and thus, why I don't have children. So yeah, let them have children....sexuality doesn't determine whether or not you are good at raising chiddens.
• Writerbuckeye

  

  These gals went out of their way to find good male role models to interact with their daughters, too. Some gay, some straight.
  
  Obviously, the strategy worked well.