Wedding Gifts

• wildcats20

  

  Commander of Awesome;1846855 wrote:Interesting, why?

  Couples showers? I have no idea. I would zero desire to go to one.
  
  I've just heard of people doing it.
• Con_Alma

  sleeper;1846770 wrote:I'll let Con_Alma answer this question first.

  I'll respectfully decline.
• Automatik

  

  SportsAndLady;1846856 wrote:LOL you donate to charity instead of giving the bride and groom a gift?
  
  You're a fucking douchebag lol

  I've heard it all now LOL
• like_that

  

  Commander of Awesome;1846851 wrote:The idea of a wedding gift should go the way of a dinosaur. It's absurd. I usually go the donate to a charity in their name aspect. If they try and guilt trip me, they look like dicks.
  
  Sidebar- Do ppl still have wedding showers? My mom got invited to one recently for a friend of her's daughter. The couple has lived together for 4 yrs, and are now getting married. WTF? The idea of a wedding shower back in the day sort of made sense. Ppl historically lived with their parents and didn't have things like plates, etc...Now, GTFO

  Yes, and I have the same thoughts. Some families are just big on tradition and all about those gifts.
• like_that

  

  And wtf on couples showers?!?
• sleeper

  

  Well since Con_Alma doesn't want to participate, I'll answer.
  
  Wedding guests should never be obligated to give a gift.
• like_that

  

  sleeper;1846878 wrote:Well since Con_Alma doesn't want to participate, I'll answer.
  
  Wedding guests should never be obligated to give a gift.

  Well the question was party members, but this covers it all.
• Bio-Hazzzzard

  

  Crock pots, panini grills, coffee pots, could go on and on. If I am part of a wedding and have to pay for a tux/dress etc, I would look for the cheapest gift that would become a lifetime memory for the B&G. If I am invited to a wedding as a guest I would probably spend a bit more. It is a difficult task to buy for someone that you are just acquainted with than someone you really know. A cheap meaningful gift from a true friend from my wedding party would hover over a gift of expense from some rich dude I barely know, my personal thoughts.
• ernest_t_bass

  

  Automatik;1846789 wrote:The nerve of people in these situations blows my fucking mind.

  A millennial being self-centered? Get out of here...
• ernest_t_bass

  

  SportsAndLady;1846831 wrote:It's more than $10k for a wedding these days, belly lol

  Doesn't have to be. Wasn't for my wife and I.
• Fab4Runner

  

  ernest_t_bass;1847630 wrote:Doesn't have to be. Wasn't for my wife and I.

  Mine was about $12,000. National average is a lot more, but you can have a legit wedding for way less.
• sleeper

  

  ernest_t_bass;1847630 wrote:Doesn't have to be. Wasn't for my wife and I.

  I've been to one wedding that was sub $10k and it was terrible. The food sucked, the DJ sucked, the venue sucked, the drinks sucked; hope you had a good one!
• SportsAndLady

  

  ernest_t_bass;1847630 wrote:Doesn't have to be. Wasn't for my wife and I.

  Anywhere other than smalltown, OH it's more than $10k. A lot more.
• sleeper

  

  SportsAndLady;1847635 wrote:Anywhere other than smalltown, OH it's more than $10k. A lot more.

  Yeah for example, the last wedding I went to the couple told me they negotiated the venue price from $100k to $90k for the day. $90k just for venue; you can imagine that the wedding was pretty solid but it wasn't over the top.
• Automatik

  

  ernest_t_bass;1847628 wrote:A millennial being self-centered? Get out of here...

  
  Some are way out of the millennial range. But the one I'm referring too, we're right on the cusp. We don't/can't relate to these millennials of today.
• ernest_t_bass

  

  sleeper;1847634 wrote:I've been to one wedding that was sub $10k and it was terrible. The food sucked, the DJ sucked, the venue sucked, the drinks sucked; hope you had a good one!

  Man, you didn't like someone else's wedding? YOU didn't like their special day? I bet that really upset them.
• sleeper

  

  ernest_t_bass;1847639 wrote:Man, you didn't like someone else's wedding? YOU didn't like their special day? I bet that really upset them.

  I have class so I didn't say anything. I did leave early though.
• wkfan

  sleeper;1847636 wrote:Yeah for example, the last wedding I went to the couple told me they negotiated the venue price from $100k to $90k for the day. $90k just for venue; you can imagine that the wedding was pretty solid but it wasn't over the top.

  You have some stupid friends......
  
  Charging $90K for a wedding venue is awful.....agreeing to it is stupid.
• sleeper

  

  wkfan;1847773 wrote:You have some stupid friends......
  
  Charging $90K for a wedding venue is awful.....agreeing to it is stupid.

  It was at the Mayflower in DC; probably one of the most historic hotels in the country that's hosted inaugural balls for Presidents among other key notable events(Obama launched his Presidential campaign there for example).
• like_that

  

  sleeper;1847780 wrote:It was at the Mayflower in DC; probably one of the most historic hotels in the country that's hosted inaugural balls for Presidents among other key notable events(Obama launched his Presidential campaign there for example).

  When was this wedding? I went to the a wedding at the same spot. I actually thought it would be more than 90K.
• sleeper

  

  like_that;1847788 wrote:When was this wedding? I went to the a wedding at the same spot. I actually thought it would be more than 90K.

  It was ~ 2 years ago. I don't remember the exact date.
• like_that

  

  sleeper;1847789 wrote:It was ~ 2 years ago. I don't remember the exact date.

  I stand corrected anyway. The wedding I was thinking of was at the Willard. They had a "welcome" cocktail event the night before at the Hay Adams. Probably more/less the same price range as the Mayflower. It's definitely a ridiculous amount of $$ for a wedding.
• sleeper

  

  like_that;1847791 wrote:I stand corrected anyway. The wedding I was thinking of was at the Willard. They had a "welcome" cocktail event the night before at the Hay Adams. Probably more/less the same price range as the Mayflower. It's definitely a ridiculous amount of $$ for a wedding.

  I don't disagree but it's not my money. I didn't find the wedding any more fun than other much cheaper weddings except for the food/drink being much better.
• like_that

  

  I have been to cheap weddings that have been fun and cheap ones that have sucked. I also have been to expensive weddings that have sucked and expensive weddings that have been fun. I think the main factors are the people and music.
• wildcats20

  

  like_that;1847898 wrote:I have been to cheap weddings that have been fun and cheap ones that have sucked. I also have been to expensive weddings that have sucked and expensive weddings that have been fun. I think the main factors are the people and music.

  This x384727583628493.
  
  It's all about the people, music, and drinks. I'm in the same boat. I've been to weddings that you know they spent a fortune and they sucked. And I've been to backyard shindig weddings that have been awesome.