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Sonofanump

ernest_t_bass;1538615 wrote:Young kids are great. A lot of time and effort, but it is these days that will be missed the most. I have an 8/4 year old daughter. 8 year old is already reaching the age of attitudes, but she's still very sweet. 4 year old reminds me daily of why I will miss them being young.

I think once they turn four and self dependent it becomes a great time to enjoy, until they turn 13.

Sonofanump

TedSheckler;1538843 wrote:So you just haven't told them you're gay then....

Beat me to it.

Automatik

TedSheckler;1538843 wrote:So you just haven't told them you're gay then....

Straight as an arrow. My family is old school though, they probably do think I'm doing it wrong.

"Maybe he's one of them gaysssss?!" :laugh:

TedSheckler

Automatik;1538858 wrote:Straight as an arrow.

Burden of proof is on you.

BR1986FB

Automatik;1538858 wrote:Straight as an arrow. My family is old school though, they probably do think I'm doing it wrong.

Enjoy your youth. I was always told "if you're going to get married, wait until you're at least 30."

Automatik

Sorry to disappoint you Ted.

BR1986FB;1538862 wrote:Enjoy your youth. I was always told "if you're going to get married, wait until you're at least 30."

My parents had me when they were 21, my sister at 24. I couldn't imagine dealing with a kid at that age. People in the 70s were gettin downnn.

ernest_t_bass

Had one daughter at 24, and one at 29.

HitsRus

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/seth-adam-smith/marriage-isnt-for-you_b_4209837.html

I hardly have everposted anything from HuffPo, but this article is the honest to goodness truth.

Marraige isn't for you....having kids is not for you....and you can take that to the bank.

I have been married 33 years with 3 kids, and I cannot even imagine doing anything differently....nor would I ever want to.

sleeper

HitsRus;1538886 wrote:http://www.huffingtonpost.com/seth-adam-smith/marriage-isnt-for-you_b_4209837.html

I hardly have everposted anything from HuffPo, but this article is the honest to goodness truth.

Marraige isn't for you....having kids is not for you....and you can take that to the bank.

I have been married 33 years with 3 kids, and I cannot even imagine doing anything differently....nor would I ever want to.

Are you a chick? This is perhaps the dumbest blog post ever and every woman seems to be gushing over it.

Tiernan

Heretic;1538819 wrote:Being a guy who runs around a board complaining about mods ain't gonna get you anything besides an unattended funeral after the end.

I hope all your friends have the opportunity to attend yours sooner than you'd like.

ernest_t_bass

Tiernan;1538895 wrote:I hope all your friends have the opportunity to attend yours sooner than you'd like.

I get it... you want him to die.

HitsRus

[INDENT]Not a guy, but I will chime in. I am 28 and am currently in a relationship. Kind of. I have been in several serious relationships, but the longest I have ever dated anyone was 2-2.5 years (which has happened four times). I am not super confident that I can make it past that mark, or that marriage is for me. I hope that that's not true, but I just really don't know.

I am not in any hurry to be married or have children, but I also know that I want at least three kids. If I end up waiting until I am 35ish to have the first one, a big family probably won't happen, and that will be a huge bummer for me. [/INDENT]

In your own words...so of course you disagree. Good luck in your plans, but if you want a succcessful marraige then you have to put your partner on at least equal terms with you.

The roughest times in my marraige have come when I (or my spouse) failed to act in each other's interest and were selfish. If you truly believe that after marraige that the two you become one entity, then by acting for your spouses best interest, benefits not only the union, but you yourself.

queencitybuckeye

HitsRus;1538911 wrote:In your own words...so of course you disagree. Good luck in your plans, but if you want a succcessful marraige then you have to put your partner on at least equal terms with you.

The roughest times in my marraige have come when I (or my spouse) failed to act in each other's interest and were selfish. If you truly believe that after marraige that the two you become one entity, then by acting for your spouses best interest, benefits not only the union, but you yourself.

If your interests aren't the same most of the time (and almost always the same for anything of importance), it will likely fail. It's not about the other person or about oneself, it's about us. That's why the article is poor.

Fab4Runner

HitsRus;1538911 wrote:In your own words...so of course you disagree. Good luck in your plans, but if you want a succcessful marraige then you have to put your partner on at least equal terms with you.

The roughest times in my marraige have come when I (or my spouse) failed to act in each other's interest and were selfish. If you truly believe that after marraige that the two you become one entity, then by acting for your spouses best interest, benefits not only the union, but you yourself.

No, I really mean that I don't know if it is the cards for me to be married at all. It has nothing to do with the partner/equality/selflessness thing. I just really don't know if I will ever get married. I have felt that way since I was about 23.

wes_mantooth

Fab4Runner;1538915 wrote:No, I really mean that I don't know if it is the cards for me to be married at all. It has nothing to do with the partner/equality/selflessness thing. I just really don't know if I will ever get married. I have felt that way since I was about 23.

Lol...I call bullshit

Fab4Runner

wes_mantooth;1538921 wrote:Lol...I call bullshit

Lol, we'll see. There is a ways to go before the 2.5 year test, haha.

wes_mantooth

Fab4Runner;1538924 wrote:Lol, we'll see. There is a ways to go before the 2.5 year test, haha.

We'll end up married...then divorced

dlazz

Get a room

wes_mantooth

dlazz;1538944 wrote:Get a room

What kind?

sleeper

queencitybuckeye;1538913 wrote:If your interests aren't the same most of the time (and almost always the same for anything of importance), it will likely fail. It's not about the other person or about oneself, it's about us. That's why the article is poor.

Actually the problem with marriage is it provides near zero benefits for men and a load of benefits from the woman. Marriage isn't for men, it's for women. Men are simply a sperm donor who provides milk to the children until that milk isn't as sweet anymore and the wife looks for more milk.

I'd advise any man from getting married without a pre-nup and you can take that to the bank.

LJ

My advice for single childless guys....

Enjoy doing whatever you want, whenever you want.
Enjoy sprawling out in your bed alone.
Enjoy sleeping till noon on the weekends

and most importantly

Heretic

wes_mantooth;1538947 wrote:What kind?

Hopefully one with a sun roof. If you're going to be confined somewhere, you might as well catch a few rays while there.

sleeper

LJ;1538951 wrote:My advice for single childless guys....

Enjoy doing whatever you want, whenever you want.
Enjoy sprawling out in your bed alone.
Enjoy sleeping till noon on the weekends

and most importantly

Good advice.

HitsRus

If your interests aren't the same most of the time (and almost always the same for anything of importance), it will likely fail. It's not about the other person or about oneself, it's about us. That's why the article is poor

No, it will fail because you seperate your interests. When you realize your interests are in fufilling your spouse's needs ( and vice versa)...and I say 'needs' versus 'wants'...without keeping score... is when your relationship solidifies and really good things start to happen. The article is about loving selflessly, and the rewards that come from that.

ohiobucks1

wes_mantooth;1538947 wrote:What kind?

Wait wait wait. So Fab is now dating you?

Where have I been this entire time. Primetime drama.

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