Marriage

• Raw Dawgin' it

  

  Whoever said that having a wedding ring makes women hit on you more is a retard.
• thePITman

  

  I am engaged and excited to get married in June. I've always wanted kids, and I cannot have kids unless I get married (my personal beliefs). The woman I found 3 years ago is perfect for me - we share the same Faith, which was most important, and we also both love sports and doing lots of the same things. She is the one person I can see myself hanging out with every day the rest of my life. Also, if we were not to get married, because of her career/field, she would be hard-pressed to find any type of insurance coverage or financial stability.
  

  Raw Dawgin' it;1393717 wrote:Whoever said that having a wedding ring makes women hit on you more is a retard.

  I've read countless reports that say a man wearing a wedding ring is 7x more attractive a woman than without the ring. That's why I'm getting married...
• thePITman

  

  Raw Dawgin' it;1393717 wrote:Whoever said that having a wedding ring makes women hit on you more is a retard.

  I've read countless reports that say a man wearing a wedding ring is 7x more attractive a woman than without the ring.
• FatHobbit

  

  Raw Dawgin' it;1393717 wrote:Whoever said that having a wedding ring makes women hit on you more is a retard.

  I think part of that is when you are married and you meet a woman who seems interested you think she is hitting on you but you don't actually pursue it. When you are single and you think she is hitting on you, then you ask her out and possibly (probably lol) find out she wasn't. It's just the thought that women are interested vs reality.
• thavoice

  thePITman;1393721 wrote:I am engaged and excited to get married in June. I've always wanted kids, and I cannot have kids unless I get married (my personal beliefs). The woman I found 3 years ago is perfect for me - we share the same Faith, which was most important, and we also both love sports and doing lots of the same things. She is the one person I can see myself hanging out with every day the rest of my life. Also, if we were not to get married, because of her career/field, she would be hard-pressed to find any type of insurance coverage or financial stability.
  
  
  
  I've read countless reports that say a man wearing a wedding ring is 7x more attractive a woman than without the ring. That's why I'm getting married...

  So u are marrying her so you can have kids and she is marrying your because she of money.
  
  Seems logical.
• thePITman

  

  thavoice;1393728 wrote:So u are marrying her so you can have kids and she is marrying your because she of money.
  
  Seems logical.

  LoL! That's not why, and you know it. But it's funny hearing you say that. Haha!
• Pick6

  

  thavoice;1393728 wrote:So u are marrying her so you can have kids and she is marrying your because she of money.
  
  Seems logical.

  Wut.
• FatHobbit

  

  Pick6;1393731 wrote:Wut.

  I think he means she is marrying him for the insurance, not money.
• thavoice

  " hard-pressed to find any type of insurance coverage or financial stability"
  
  MONEY.
• hoops23

  

  thavoice;1393742 wrote:" hard-pressed to find any type of insurance coverage or financial stability"
  
  MONEY.

  Take this guys word for it as he's currently living it.
• FatHobbit

  

  thavoice;1393742 wrote:MONEY.

  Isn't that why most women get married?
• Raw Dawgin' it

  

  thePITman;1393721 wrote:I've read countless reports that say a man wearing a wedding ring is 7x more attractive a woman than without the ring. That's why I'm getting married...

  Yeah...crock of shit. You talk to single women wearing a ring and they'll think you're an asshole.
• ohiobucks1

  

  I hope to get married someday. Because I want more people to share my last name.
• thavoice

  FatHobbit;1393744 wrote:Isn't that why most women get married?

  Well that and so they dont have to put out as much.
  It is like kissing ass in an interview/probationary period at work. Once you get past that time where you are hired full time ya just do what ya gotta do to stay employed but the ass kissing and extra favors ya did are finished because ya dont have to anymore.
• O-Trap

  

  Raw Dawgin' it;1393745 wrote:Yeah...crock of shit. You talk to single women wearing a ring and they'll think you're an asshole.

  This depends. If you're aggressive at all, then sure. If you're just friendly, it's not necessarily true.
• HitsRus

  

  I am struck by reading some of these posts that people just don't understand marraige because they don't understand or are afraid of commitment. They either underestimate what real commitment means, or they overestimate or overimagine the sacrifice that it takes to be committed in a relationship.
  
  It's funny because alot of those same people understand the power and advantages of committment in a business setting or in committing their efforts to a sports team. All the time you hear coaches talking about committment to their players, because mutually committed players bring out excellence in themselves, their teammates, the team as a whole and in whatever endeavors the team takes on in challenges that it faces.
  
  It is the same when two mutually committed partners go thru life....it brings out the best in each other individually, the best in themselves as a pair, their family, their children and in the challenges, endeavors, and trials that the family might face.
  
  I'm sure someone can/will offer the sophomoric observation that you don't need 'marraige' to be committed....but then again, if you are really committed (really) you should have no problem with a public acknowledgment of the status.
  
  One thing is for sure, marraige is probably not the place for a narcissitic man/woman child. Check your selfishness and ego at the door.
  
  
  Last week, one of the girls at the office was explaining that her 20 something son and his live-in girlfriend decided to have a baby, and that she was going to be a grandma!(both have worked inconsistently and live with/off grandma-to be) After congratulations were offered all around(somewhat disingenuously), someone asked if they planned to get married. "Nope." was grandma-to be's response..."They can't afford it."laugh:
  
  Are we ****ed as a country or what?
• OSH

  

  Commander of Awesome;1393341 wrote:Again, don't need to be married to do this.

  That is correct. But, I believe I did answer the OP's questions. I didn't reply to anyone else.
• FatHobbit

  

  HitsRus;1393878 wrote:someone asked if they planned to get married. "Nope." was grandma-to be's response..."They can't afford it."laugh:

  wtf
• sleeper

  

  "Nope." was grandma-to be's response..."They can't afford it."

  I think she is talking about getting less money back from the government when you get married. The mom is probably getting a bunch of assistance for being a single mother + the income from the father. You can fix this problem easily by getting rid of the welfare safety net.
• fan_from_texas

  Getting married has its pros and cons, but on the whole, it's a great thing. People who are married are happier. They have more and better sex. They're more financially secure. Study after study confirms these findings. But it's also more of a commitment than a "fall in love" sort of thing--you've gotta be willing to set aside your ego and devote yourself to someone else, through thick and thin. It's tough but very rewarding.
  
  

  Raw Dawgin' it;1393717 wrote:Whoever said that having a wedding ring makes women hit on you more is a retard.

  I disagree. In my experience, I get hit on a lot more now, when I'm wearing a ring, than before I was married. Of course, that probably has something to do with the fact that I'm much richer and better looking than I was before I got married.
• Commander of Awesome

  

  HitsRus;1393878 wrote:I am struck by reading some of these posts that people just don't understand marriage because they don't understand or are afraid of commitment. They either underestimate what real commitment means, or they overestimate or over imagine the sacrifice that it takes to be committed in a relationship.
  
  It's funny because a lot of those same people understand the power and advantages of commitment in a business setting or in committing their efforts to a sports team. All the time you hear coaches talking about commitment to their players, because mutually committed players bring out excellence in themselves, their teammates, the team as a whole and in whatever endeavors the team takes on in challenges that it faces.
  
  It is the same when two mutually committed partners go thru life....it brings out the best in each other individually, the best in themselves as a pair, their family, their children and in the challenges, endeavors, and trials that the family might face.
  
  I'm sure someone can/will offer the sophomoric observation that you don't need 'marriage' to be committed....but then again, if you are really committed (really) you should have no problem with a public acknowledgment of the status.
  
  One thing is for sure, marriage is probably not the place for a narcissistic man/woman child. Check your selfishness and ego at the door.
  
  
  Last week, one of the girls at the office was explaining that her 20 something son and his live-in girlfriend decided to have a baby, and that she was going to be a grandma!(both have worked inconsistently and live with/off grandma-to be) After congratulations were offered all around(somewhat disingenuously), someone asked if they planned to get married. "Nope." was grandma-to be's response..."They can't afford it."laugh:
  
  Are we ****ed as a country or what?

  lol fucked because they can't afford a $20k wedding? lol calm down there little chicken.
  
  Also lol at not being able to spell marriage (I fixed the typos). And again, I'll respond to your other points, you don't need a marriage license to be committed to someone in a relationship. Marriage has a distinct religious undertone that I disagree with. That's my problem with it. I don't need a license or a ring to be committed, and society commitment? Excuse me while I LMAO. If you live with your partner, love each other etc.... that's good enough for me. Do you have a best friend license as well? Come on man, get with the program. This isn't the 1930s where you need to be married to have sex.
  
  If a wedding/marriage is important to you or your partner that's fine. But I still haven't heard a good argument for it other than social norms or wanting to have a party.
• Raw Dawgin' it

  

  Commander of Awesome;1394160 wrote:lol fucked because they can't afford a $20k wedding? lol calm down there little chicken.
  
  Also lol at not being able to spell marriage (I fixed the typos). And again, I'll respond to your other points, you don't need a marriage license to be committed to someone in a relationship. Marriage has a distinct religious undertone that I disagree with. That's my problem with it. I don't need a license or a ring to be committed, and society commitment? Excuse me while I LMAO. If you live with your partner, love each other etc.... that's good enough for me. Do you have a best friend license as well? Come on man, get with the program. This isn't the 1930s where you need to be married to have sex.
  
  If a wedding/marriage is important to you or your partner that's fine. But I still haven't heard a good argument for it other than social norms or wanting to have a party.

  My wife was all about the ceremony and party. I gotta say - while I would've been fine with going to a courthouse and having a small party, it was still a lot of fun and really cool to have so many people there to celebrate. She is also more religious than I am so that was another reason. My dad and his girl friend have been together for a while and she keeps asking if they're going to get married and i said they never will. They're happy with their situation and there is no need to change it. She has this theory, like most people, that if you're not married you're not completely committed.
• HitsRus

  

  lol ****ed because they can't afford a $20k wedding?

  lol at $20K. How much you spend on getting married is a choice. LOL at 'commitment' if you can't come up with $150 bucks for a marriage license and a Justice of the Peace. You won't get married because you're a cheap ****? You are so committed that you can't put it in writing.? You just want to be able to bail and not cost you anything. Yeah, that's full committment. Thanks for proving my point. I rest my case.:laugh:
• sleeper

  

  HitsRus;1394260 wrote:lol at $20K. How much you spend on getting married is a choice. LOL at 'commitment' if you can't come up with $150 bucks for a marriage license and a Justice of the Peace. You won't get married because you're a cheap ****? You are so committed that you can't put it in writing.? You just want to be able to bail and not cost you anything. Yeah, that's full committment. Thanks for proving my point. I rest my case.:laugh:

  True commitment is commitment without legal force.
  
  /Con_Alma'd
• HitsRus

  

  ^^^^and as I said, that is a sophomoric observation, because while it is true that you don't need a piece of paper or legal force, in reality it is more often an excuse for not publicly acknowledging that you assume the financial and legal responsibilities that a relationship can bring. If you are really committed, than you should have no problem with that acknowledgment. Just as in a business relationship, you should have no problem signing a contract that you intend to honor.