Why I have been a jerk lately

• LJ

  

  Since last July my dad has been barely able to eat due to great stomach pain. Antacids would help a bit, but never really got the pain to go away. Finally 2 fridays ago he went in for a barium scan. They didn't find anything in his stomach but saw a large mass pushing on the top of his stomach causing his pain. He was then scheduled for a blood workup and a CT scan. We all got really scared seeing as how the #1 reason for an enlarged spleen is Leukemia.
  
  Fast forward to last friday and he goes in and has the CT and bloodwork done. The specialists tell him that his Dr. will get back to him with the results on Monday. So today the Dr. calls him and lets him know that his spleen is not enlarged and has nothing wrong with it. It seems that an accident earlier last night knocked it slightly out of place.
  
  The bad news is that he has a giant mass on his one kidney. He has an appointment scheduled with a urologist for a consultation for surgery. They don't mess around with this kind of mass, they just go straight in and remove the mass or just straight up remove the kidney. That is the point where they will be able to biopsy the mass and determine if it is benign or malignant. So needless to say we are all quite shaken up and I am pretty scared for my dad.
  
  So, point is, I'm sorry for taking this out on everyone.
• Fab1b

  

  No apology needed dude!! Thoughts are with your father, best of luck!!
• DeyDurkie5

  

  sorry to hear that brother
• ytownfootball

  

  Sorry to hear that. Hope that all goes well and wishes for a speedy recovery.
• ZWICK 4 PREZ

  

  That sucks homey.. I hope for the best.
• The Equalizer

  

  Damn. Many prayers for you and your's.
• LJ

  

  Just to clarify, the stomach pain has nothing to do with the kidney mass. It's the displaced spleen pushing on the stomach causing pain. So not only might he have cancer, but there is nothing they can do for the stomach pain except elective surgery to remove the spleen.
• se-alum

  

  Best wishes to your famiy LJ, I know exactly what ur goin' through. I know when my father was diagnosed w/ cancer, my first reaction(other than shock) was anger. I asked myself many times why this had to happen to such a good person. Why was the man that spent his life taking care of his family, and many other people, put in this situation. It took me awhile to get over that, but eventually the feelings changed to appreciation and hope. In the end, it changed my life for the better. I learned that you can't take anything or anyone for granted, because it might not always be there. Luckily my father was in a position where he could get the best treatment out there, and was able to overcome the cancer. He has now been cancer free for 5 years, and I still live in appreciation everyday of the things I have.
• ohiotiger33

  

  Don't apologize to us man, we are behind you. We are all rooting for him to be healthy and for everything to work out. No added pressure to feel the need to apologize to Freehuddle. Focus on your family (which it sounds like you have).
  
  I don't know what I would do if this kind of thing happened to my dad.
• LJ

  

  se-alum wrote: Best wishes to your famiy LJ, I know exactly what ur goin' through. I know when my father was diagnosed w/ cancer, my first reaction(other than shock) was anger. I asked myself many times why this had to happen to such a good person. Why was the man that spent his life taking care of his family, and many other people, put in this situation. It took me awhile to get over that, but eventually the feelings changed to appreciation and hope. In the end, it changed my life for the better. I learned that you can't take anything or anyone for granted, because it might not always be there. Luckily my father was in a position where he could get the best treatment out there, and was able to overcome the cancer. He has now been cancer free for 5 years, and I still live in appreciation everyday of the things I have.

  Thank you for your story. We are all hoping it's benign, but from what I have read, chances are not good that it is.
  
  Thanks for the words of encouragement everyone.
• gibby08

  

  We haven't always agreed on stuff man...but no one should have to go through this
  
  
  Prayers to you and your father
• UA5straightin2008

  

  hope it all works out, prayers from me to your father/you
• september63

  

  I had a kidney removed 4 years ago from a tumor. If they catch it in time, he will have a normal lifestyle. (IF I am considered normal) Good Luck to him and your family!!
• LJ

  

  september63 wrote: I had a kidney removed 4 years ago from a tumor. If they catch it in time, he will have a normal lifestyle. (IF I am considered normal) Good Luck to him and your family!!

  Care to take the time to PM me your story? It would probably help me out a lot right now.
• darbypitcher22

  

  thoughts are with you dude
• justincredible

  

  Sorry to hear about this, you guys will be in my thoughts.
• september63

  

  LJ wrote:

  september63 wrote: I had a kidney removed 4 years ago from a tumor. If they catch it in time, he will have a normal lifestyle. (IF I am considered normal) Good Luck to him and your family!!

  Care to take the time to PM me your story? It would probably help me out a lot right now.

  Sure will. Give me 15 mins.
• coyotes22

  

  Sorry to hear about this, LJ.
  
  As I have not gone through this with my dad, I have lost my Grandfather, and an Uncle to cancer. I was very close to both!! I had to watch both suffer, as they went through it together (they were father and son). So, I kinda know how you feel. You and your father will be in my prayers every night, that this is not cancer.
  
  Prayers from Stark County!!
• BigAppleBuckeye

  

  Classy post LJ, much respect ... best wishes to your dad.
• derek bomar

  

  best wishes man, hope everything turns out ok
• september63

  

  Sent you that Pm.
• LJ

  

  september63 wrote: Sent you that Pm.

  I've been trying to respond, says ur box is full.
• september63

  

  I been trying to clear that. It says I have. It was full earlier. Ill look back into it.
• september63

  

  Fixed. I never knew there was a junk box folder here for Pm's. It was full of Mantooth's Pm's I never even knew I had?
• killdeer

  

  thoughts and prayers.