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bigdaddy2003

So I'm out at my parent's house and my brother/his wife and their kids show up. So about twenty minutes later the two oldest kids (9 and 7) start fighting and my sister in law tells them to get against a tree for a time out. Now I'm not telling anyone how they should parent but why do people feel time outs are the way to go for punishing their kids? As for these kids it hasn't worked. What say you?

gorocks99

Hot sauce them, then send a dramatic video of it to Dr. Phil.

vball10set

swat 'em in the ass--it worked for us

BR1986FB

F'in "time outs"....WORST. IDEA. EVER. Light the bastards up with a belt or a willow switch. Or better yet, a taste of Lava soap.

gorocks99

Lock 'em in a cage, feed them a bucket of fish heads every week.

Fab1b

gorocks99;871366 wrote:Hot sauce them, then send a dramatic video of it to Dr. Phil.

I know the jury was deliberating this case yesterday, anyone know what the mom got for this? Too lazy to look.

gorocks99

Fab1b;871389 wrote:I know the jury was deliberating this case yesterday, anyone know what the mom got for this? Too lazy to look.

No decision yet.

FatHobbit

Time outs worked really well for me. But I always made my daughter sit with her nose in the corner.

Raw Dawgin' it

Cigarette burns on the back of the neck

password

I say screw the timeouts, Warning the very first time and then good old fashioned grounding always worked. I am a little curious about the kids that had to stand at the tree for their timeout, were they still able to use their iPhones while in the timeout? Kids are a reflection of their parents and you have to teach the kids from a young age, what is acceptable behavior and what you will not tolerate. Just my opinion.

BORIStheCrusher

It depends on the situation. My daughter is 4 and I've spanked her, and she's received time outs. I agree parents should be more aggressive when times call for it, but they don't need to hit their kids every time they act up.

Captain Cavalier

FatHobbit;871392 wrote:Time outs worked really well for me. But I always made my daughter sit with her nose in the corner.

What kept her in corner?

Generally "timeouts" or the like only work if there is a true threat of a more, how should I say, "effective" form of discipline.

WebFire

BORIStheCrusher;871587 wrote:It depends on the situation. My daughter is 4 and I've spanked her, and she's received time outs. I agree parents should be more aggressive when times call for it, but they don't need to hit their kids every time they act up.

Agree. There is no single punishment that is right for every situation. I find that when I am at someone else's house, I am less likely to spank or get angry. It's usually a trip to the bathroom if it warrants.

vball10set

BORIStheCrusher;871587 wrote:It depends on the situation. My daughter is 4 and I've spanked her, and she's received time outs. I agree parents should be more aggressive when times call for it, but they don't need to hit their kids every time they act up.

WebFire;871595 wrote:Agree. There is no single punishment that is right for every situation. I find that when I am at someone else's house, I am less likely to spank or get angry. It's usually a trip to the bathroom if it warrants.

agree with both...let the punishment fit the crime, and try and not to overreact--it sends your kid mixed messages, and could lessen the effect when the situation warrants a sterner (?) reaction.

dwccrew

Cut fingers off. Worked for me, although I have to type with my nose now.

Con_Alma

bigdaddy2003;871362 wrote:... Now I'm not telling anyone how they should parent but why do people feel time outs are the way to go for punishing their kids? As for these kids it hasn't worked. What say you?

I say the "timeout" was to stop the action and the punishment is forthcoming if warranted.

Belly35

Wooden spoon at a young age sends the message when they get older.
Punishment is to be swift, direct and now . . . . wrong behavior get quick reaction

rydawg5

time outs are good for daughters.. feelings get hurt. boys may need a bit more than a time out.

4cards

Fab1b;871389 wrote:I know the jury was deliberating this case yesterday, anyone know what the mom got for this? Too lazy to look.

...She was found guilty of child abuse and hope she gets the max (1yr in jail + fine)

FatHobbit

Captain Cavalier;871590 wrote:What kept her in corner?

I stood behind her and watched. If she looked around, then time started over.

Raw Dawgin' it

4cards;872176 wrote:...She was found guilty of child abuse and hope she gets the max (1yr in jail + fine)

Is putting hot sauce on their tongue really any different than soap? At least hot sauce is edible

1_beast

When I made my daughter stand on the wall, it was more effective than a spanking....she would get pissy and say "dad, why dont you just spank me and let me go" she HATED standing on the wall

thePITman

FatHobbit;872187 wrote:I stood behind her and watched. If she looked around, then time started over.

So what you're saying is YOU had a timeout, as well?

WebFire

1_beast;872206 wrote:When I made my daughter stand on the wall, it was more effective than a spanking....she would get pissy and say "dad, why dont you just spank me and let me go" she HATED standing on the wall

They were talking about punishments on 92.5 this morning, and one caller mentioned that they had to stand with their nose on a light switch for 10 minutes. I may have to give that a try.

FatHobbit

thePITman;872208 wrote:So what you're saying is YOU had a timeout, as well?

I guess you could say that.

WebFire;872210 wrote:They were talking about punishments on 92.5 this morning, and one caller mentioned that they had to stand with their nose on a light switch for 10 minutes. I may have to give that a try.

10 minutes seems really long to me. Did they say how old they were? (I'm thinking if they were old enough to stand there for 10 minutes, they were too old to be put in time out, but that's just me.)