The ex is getting married...

• bwcomet89

  enigmaax;778514 wrote:So why did she dump you?
  
  And my general philosophy on exes of any kind is, "she's someone else's problem now".

  
  She kind of gave up on us. We had a rough patch for like 2 weeks, but otherwise things had been solid since the day we met. It was weird, but we had a really long talk a little while afterwards and she said she had made a mistake and she missed me, but stuck with the d-bag. Don't understand how a person could give up like that, know they made a mistake, and then do nothing about it.
• bwcomet89

  Frothy Walrus;778522 wrote:This thread is sorting the men from the vaginas, that's for sure.
  
  Make a voodoo doll of her. Poke, prod, molest....set on fire as needed for comfort. WWJD? JWD that.
  
  Oh and sneak into her apartment while she is sleeping, clip a piece of her hair and store in a small bag for sniffing when you really get down.

  
  I like the way you think. However I already have a lock of her hair, I saw her at a park one day, ripped a handful out of her, and ran. Best decision of my life.
• Big_time_fan

  

  Stop being a fucking pussy, that's what I would suggest.
  
  /threadshit.
• jcrazynephew

  

  Don't ask my uncle for advice. He's a huge douche bag. He plans on ruining my graduation.
  
  I'd say man up and fuck mad bitches.
• bwcomet89

  Big_time_fan;778580 wrote:Stop being a fucking pussy, that's what I would suggest.
  
  /threadshit.

  
  Maybe I should listen to you, Barack. Good to see the prez lookin out for his citizens.
• Dr Winston O'Boogie

  

  Tell crude women jokes to make yourself feel better. Ones like: What do you say to a woman with two black eyes? Nothing, she's been told twice already.
• enigmaax

  bwcomet89;778573 wrote:She kind of gave up on us. We had a rough patch for like 2 weeks, but otherwise things had been solid since the day we met. It was weird, but we had a really long talk a little while afterwards and she said she had made a mistake and she missed me, but stuck with the d-bag. Don't understand how a person could give up like that, know they made a mistake, and then do nothing about it.

  
  Yeah, um, she doesn't feel like she made a mistake....at all. You are probably a little too emotionally needy for her. I doubt things were as "solid" as you thought they were from the beginning - that "rough patch" had been in the works for some time, she just needed the courage and "a reason" to start the break. She just wasn't that into you. Now, it is possible she said she made a mistake because she doesn't like to be disliked in general (or she might be afraid for her life) but most likely she was simply trying to help salvage what little self-esteem you have/had.
  
  Now, I'm sure she did miss some things about you and the relationship. That doesn't mean you were the best person or it was the best relationship for her, it just means that you had some good times and she appreciated those. Once you're detached from a situation, it is easier to focus on what was good about it because you no longer have to try and balance all of the negative aspects on a daily basis. Sometimes, people let that lead them back into a bad situation and in most of those cases they realize pretty quickly why they left in the first place. Fortunately for this young lady, she remained strong. Perhaps her new dude is a d-bag like you say. Maybe she's jumping into marriage too soon and maybe it won't work out in the long run. But at the least, she believes she's happy enough to make the commitment right now and obviously she didn't feel that way with you.
  
  Get secure with yourself first before you try another relationship. Work on those things that you aren't so good at - don't expect someone to just accept them unless you're man enough to say, "this is me, take it or leave it" and then actually be able to walk away when someone isn't ready to deal with your shit.
• Con_Alma

  enigmaax;778641 wrote:...
  Get secure with yourself first before you try another relationship. ...

  
  
  This.
• ZWICK 4 PREZ

  

  bwcomet89;778577 wrote: I saw her at a park one day, ripped a handful out of her, and ran. Best decision of my life.

  
  lol what?
• thavoice

  ZWICK 4 PREZ;778689 wrote:lol what?

  
  Wondered wtf that was too. Maybe he is asome crazy stalker type
• O-Trap

  

  Commander of Awesome;778562 wrote:Yeah for sure, thank god you saved the receipt.

  Yeah, I didn't even really mean to save it. Was just glad I did.
  
  I kicked myself less than a year later when her younger sister (the hotter sister, for what it's worth) was showing interest, but I was already starting to get involved with someone else. If I hadn't been dating someone already ... and if her brother wasn't in the Rangers ... I might have done it, though.
  

  enigmaax;778641 wrote:Get secure with yourself first before you try another relationship.

  This. In the meantime, fill your waking hours with things to keep you busy. Hang out with friends often. Start looking into starting a business. Write a book. Pick up a hobby, or learn a new skill. Make sure you're employed.
  
  Don't let yourself just sit around, ever.
  

  ZWICK 4 PREZ;778689 wrote:lol what?

  Yeah, that statement was creepy.
• justincredible

  

  I was in an ex-girlfriend's wedding because she married one of my best friends. We only dated in high school so it wasn't anything serious anyway. Another ex-gf was in the wedding as well but she was a giant bitch.
• ernest_t_bass

  

  justincredible;778796 wrote:I was in an ex-girlfriend's wedding because she married one of my best friends. We only dated in high school so it wasn't anything serious anyway. Another ex-gf was in the wedding as well but she was a giant bitch.

  
  Slut
• enigmaax

  O-Trap;778782 wrote: In the meantime, fill your waking hours with things to keep you busy. Hang out with friends often. Start looking into starting a business. Write a book. Pick up a hobby, or learn a new skill. Make sure you're employed.

  
  Blah blah blah.
  
  Hookers. Blow. You'll be fine.
• OSH

  

  I haven't talked to or seen any of my past ex's. The ones that I had "serious" relationships with. I think I can say there are 3 of them.
  
  One from high school got married this past August, a month after I got married.
  One got married in spring 2010, she got fat -- my wife is thrilled about that one.
  One got married a year and a half after we split, she's the only one where the relationship ended decently.
  
  I really don't care to speak or see any of my ex's. It doesn't bother me that they got married. My girl is great, wouldn't have it any other way.
• O-Trap

  

  enigmaax;778831 wrote:Blah blah blah.
  
  Hookers. Blow. You'll be fine.

  Well, obviously. I've never met a miserable person addicted to drugs or who has to pay for the clap. We can't all be Charlie Sheen.
  
  In all seriousness, an urgent need to stay busy is great motivation to do something to earn some extra money.
• bwcomet89

  enigmaax;778641 wrote:Yeah, um, she doesn't feel like she made a mistake....at all. You are probably a little too emotionally needy for her. I doubt things were as "solid" as you thought they were from the beginning - that "rough patch" had been in the works for some time, she just needed the courage and "a reason" to start the break. She just wasn't that into you. Now, it is possible she said she made a mistake because she doesn't like to be disliked in general (or she might be afraid for her life) but most likely she was simply trying to help salvage what little self-esteem you have/had.
  
  Now, I'm sure she did miss some things about you and the relationship. That doesn't mean you were the best person or it was the best relationship for her, it just means that you had some good times and she appreciated those. Once you're detached from a situation, it is easier to focus on what was good about it because you no longer have to try and balance all of the negative aspects on a daily basis. Sometimes, people let that lead them back into a bad situation and in most of those cases they realize pretty quickly why they left in the first place. Fortunately for this young lady, she remained strong. Perhaps her new dude is a d-bag like you say. Maybe she's jumping into marriage too soon and maybe it won't work out in the long run. But at the least, she believes she's happy enough to make the commitment right now and obviously she didn't feel that way with you.
  
  Get secure with yourself first before you try another relationship. Work on those things that you aren't so good at - don't expect someone to just accept them unless you're man enough to say, "this is me, take it or leave it" and then actually be able to walk away when someone isn't ready to deal with your shit.

  
  I agree with some of what you said, disagree with others. Either way I appreciate the advice. The thing was more along the lines that I was a little too emotionally cut off for her actually, and the other guy was the occasional cryer and after the stone heart like me she really digged that. I believe she meant what she said, and wasn't trying to protect my self esteem, because of the circumstance, but no matter. I didn't start this thread because I'm an emotional wreck weeping on my keyboard, I did because I was pissed off and the initial thought to vent my rage by finding him and hurting him wasn't the best idea, so I thought maybe one of you guys on here had a better idea. Some are good, and I'm kind of glad to see others have been in this situation as well. It's less of misery loves company, and more that it's good to see all women are crazy bitches, doing things irrationally because they damn well feel like it.
• Rocketsfan

  When Genoa wins a state football title BW will feel better.
• bwcomet89

  thavoice;778694 wrote:Wondered wtf that was too. Maybe he is asome crazy stalker type

  
  It was an overly sarcastic comment to what Frothy Walrus had said above. Calm down, guys.
• ernest_t_bass

  

  bwcomet89;778888 wrote:It was an overly sarcastic comment to what Frothy Walrus had said above. Calm down, guys.

  
  Whatever, stalker.
• JerseyBuck

  

  LJ;778473 wrote:And ex and I broke up in November 2008, a new guy started at her work Jan 1 2009 , they were married in March 2009 and had a kid sometime last spring.
  
  I guess they started dating as soon as they met, then he proposed after 2 months and they went to the court house. I dodged that nutjob.

  
  Sounds like my brothers ex. They broke up in a few years ago in December, she had a new guy she met at work by January, she got knocked up in March, married in September and divorced by the following March.
  
  He dodged a real winner.
• bwcomet89

  ernest_t_bass;778891 wrote:Whatever, stalker.

  
  Stalking is probably more work than I'm willing to commit.
• enigmaax

  bwcomet89;778884 wrote:I agree with some of what you said, disagree with others. Either way I appreciate the advice. The thing was more along the lines that I was a little too emotionally cut off for her actually, and the other guy was the occasional cryer and after the stone heart like me she really digged that. I believe she meant what she said, and wasn't trying to protect my self esteem, because of the circumstance, but no matter. I didn't start this thread because I'm an emotional wreck weeping on my keyboard, I did because I was pissed off and the initial thought to vent my rage by finding him and hurting him wasn't the best idea, so I thought maybe one of you guys on here had a better idea. Some are good, and I'm kind of glad to see others have been in this situation as well. It's less of misery loves company, and more that it's good to see all women are crazy bitches, doing things irrationally because they damn well feel like it.

  
  Oh, I got it now. Stealing locks of hair. Uncontrollable rage. Emotionally distant. You're more of the pompous ass control freak type that thought there was no way she could ever leave you because you're so tough and manly. But since she did, you either have to beat up the girly guy who stole her (AND your manhood) or convince yourself that it isn't you, it's the rest of the world. In that case, lay off the roids and learn to love like a lesbian.
• ernest_t_bass

  

  I'd like to buy enigmaax a drink
• sleeper

  

  ernest_t_bass;778913 wrote:I'd like to buy enigmaax a drink

  
  +20000