Asking father for daughters hand in marriage?

• cbus4life

  I did not.
  
  No reason to, IMO. The father and i had already spent lots of time together, at their family gatherings, etc. Was already "a part of the family," as it were, and i just didn't see the point.
  
  Also, the fiancee thinks it is incredibly lame to spend any amount of money on a wedding, except for the bare minimum, so not like we needed family support in that regard.
  
  We're getting married at the courthouse before we go to New Zealand, and having a big cookout at her uncles property in Sunbury, and inviting friends/family. Won't even be spending $1,000.
  
  Lots of better things to do with that money. I mean, i would have sucked it up if the fiancee had wanted a large wedding, but she did not, thankfully.
  
  My twin brother is getting married in June, and he is spending thousands. All while they are trying to save up money to buy a house. Idiot.
• thePITman

  

  My girlfriend doesn't have a father (basically was their "sperm donor"), but I will ask their mother if/when it gets to that point.
• McFly1955

  

  I did....We started dating at 16, got engaged at 22 after we both finished our bachelors in business.
  
  She is very close with her family, and even though I knew the answer would be yes, it was just a formality that I know he appreciated. We get along great, and have spent a couple full 12-14 days in my basement finishing it together in the past couple weeks.
• justcompete

  Belly35 wrote: 1. Have a job before asking
  2. Respect the parents
  3. Show you're an adult
  4. Present yourself as a respected individual
  5. No criminal record is helpful
  6. Get a hair cut
  7. Don't mention the Ohio Chatter
  8. No Chatter name dropping (don't mention my name)
  9. Show a saving account/checking account
  10. She not pregnant ????
  11. Don’t ask if you’re drunk
  12. Say Thank you when your done even if you don’t mean it

  13. Ask him to smell your finger, then raise it to him.
• jmog

  BlueJayRay wrote: Hmmm.
  So... what do you suppose it means when the Father asks ME to marry his daughter?!? (LOL)

  Actually happened to me, my father in law basically asked me if I wanted to marry his daughter long before our first date.
  
  Then about 5 months later I asked him if he still wanted me to marry her, because I planned on asking...lol.
• fan_from_texas

  I spoke with Mrs. FFT's parents (both of them together) before proposing. I didn't ask for "permission"--Mrs. FFT was an adult and could make her own decisions. I did ask for their blessing. When you marry someone, you're marrying into her family, which means you get the in-laws as well. It's always a good idea to be respectful and checking with them first.
  
  I don't really buy into the concept of asking just the dad for permission. That seems outdated and offensive to the mom, as though she doesn't have a say in anything, and offensive to the daughter, inasmuch as it's ultimately her decision.