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Is it bad to talk to ex's while in a relationship?

  • Ytowngirlinfla
    Curious to see what the freehuddle thinks. I'm currently in a situation like this where ex's and former f buddies are calling/texting my current a lot. I'm not jealous I just don't think this is a good thing because I know therevis probably feelings still involved.
  • Nate
    Drop it while you can. It will just bite you in the ass eventually. I speak from experience.
  • Con_Alma
    Move on...I agree.
  • LocoEngineer66
    a bit disrespectful by your current (on his part) I would think.
  • Nate
    I actually had an ex send me a picture of her engagement ring.
    She did it because she thought we were still good friends.
    I was like WTF? do you think I care that much?
    I proceeded to quit talking to her permanently after that.
  • newarkcatholicfan
    Back when I had a real life my one rule for me was not to talk to any ex just to make sure it did not come back to kick me in the backside.
  • Ytowngirlinfla
    Oh yeah I was in the room for one convo about 2 months ago when they said "I miss you too". I was like WTF why would you say that to an ex. I got the we are friends BS.
  • j_crazy
    talk, in the biblical sense?

    yes.
  • capninsano
    I think it's bad to consistently talk to an ex while in a relationship. At that point, someone in the equation still has feelings for the other. Either because they regret the way things went down or they are just feeling lonely and seek to be comforted by someone who used to be there. Obviously the person most likely having these feelings is the one who is not in a relationship...so I wouldn't worry if I were you.
  • LocoEngineer66
    Get out before ya get your heart broken.
  • capninsano
    Ytowngirlinfla wrote: Oh yeah I was in the room for one convo about 2 months ago when they said "I miss you too". I was like WTF why would you say that to an ex. I got the we are friends BS.
    This was written during my response....if your current is a Type B then I wouldn't worry....he's most likely just being nice....but if he's a Type A and said that...then I would be very concerned.
  • power i
    No reason to converse with an ex unless children are involved.
  • ss7
    Ytowngirlinfla wrote: Oh yeah I was in the room for one convo about 2 months ago when they said "I miss you too". I was like WTF why would you say that to an ex. I got the we are friends BS.
    At this point, I would have snapped. There is no excuse for that shit. I've been through this. You better put an end to it fast. If he has a problem with it, you will see where his commitment lies.

    Guys aren't texting and being friends with girls unless they want to have sex with them. That's why guys don't have "best" girl friends, unless they are gay.
  • capninsano
    ss7 wrote:
    Ytowngirlinfla wrote: Oh yeah I was in the room for one convo about 2 months ago when they said "I miss you too". I was like WTF why would you say that to an ex. I got the we are friends BS.
    At this point, I would have snapped. There is no excuse for that shit. I've been through this. You better put an end to it fast. If he has a problem with it, you will see where his commitment lies.

    Guys aren't texting and being friends with girls unless they want to have sex with them. That's why guys don't have "best" girl friends, unless they are gay.
    QFT
  • capninsano
    ss7 wrote:
    Ytowngirlinfla wrote: Oh yeah I was in the room for one convo about 2 months ago when they said "I miss you too". I was like WTF why would you say that to an ex. I got the we are friends BS.
    At this point, I would have snapped. There is no excuse for that shit. I've been through this. You better put an end to it fast. If he has a problem with it, you will see where his commitment lies.

    Guys aren't texting and being friends with girls unless they want to have sex with them. That's why guys don't have "best" girl friends, unless they are gay.
    QFT again. Ladies burn this into your head
  • Nate
    What's QFT?
  • capninsano
    Quote for truth.
  • Cleveland Buck
    ss7 wrote:
    Ytowngirlinfla wrote: Oh yeah I was in the room for one convo about 2 months ago when they said "I miss you too". I was like WTF why would you say that to an ex. I got the we are friends BS.
    At this point, I would have snapped. There is no excuse for that shit. I've been through this. You better put an end to it fast. If he has a problem with it, you will see where his commitment lies.

    Guys aren't texting and being friends with girls unless they want to have sex with them. That's why guys don't have "best" girl friends, unless they are gay.
    Here is your correct answer.
  • Ytowngirlinfla
    Yeah especially since it's actually my gf getting calls and texts from a lot of guys. I know they don't give a shit how she's doing they just want to hook up. So I spilled the truth on freehuddle :)
  • thavoice
    hey girl....how ya been? Hit me up sometime.....
  • dwccrew
    Sorry to tell ya, he's cheating on ya.
  • newarkcatholicfan
    dwccrew wrote: Sorry to tell ya, he's cheating on ya.
    DING DING DING We have a winner.:cool:
  • Fab4Runner
    I am friends with all of my ex boyfriends. I make sure a guy knows this before I even try to date him. It's not as if we talk all the time...but a convo here and there is bound to happen. If the new dude isn't okay with it...well that sucks.
  • mucalum49
    Cleveland Buck wrote:
    ss7 wrote:
    Ytowngirlinfla wrote: Oh yeah I was in the room for one convo about 2 months ago when they said "I miss you too". I was like WTF why would you say that to an ex. I got the we are friends BS.
    At this point, I would have snapped. There is no excuse for that shit. I've been through this. You better put an end to it fast. If he has a problem with it, you will see where his commitment lies.

    Guys aren't texting and being friends with girls unless they want to have sex with them. That's why guys don't have "best" girl friends, unless they are gay.
    Here is your correct answer.
    Might lose my man card on this one but currently I would say my best (or maybe just closest) friend is a girl. Due to circumstances of my closest guy friends moving away for college, work, military I have started hanging out with these 2 girls I know. At no point have I ever wanted to sleep with them. The one actually has a boyfriend.
  • dwccrew
    newarkcatholicfan wrote:
    dwccrew wrote: Sorry to tell ya, he's cheating on ya.
    DING DING DING We have a winner.:cool:
    I win? Sweet


    Fab4Runner wrote: I am friends with all of my ex boyfriends. I make sure a guy knows this before I even try to date him. It's not as if we talk all the time...but a convo here and there is bound to happen. If the new dude isn't okay with it...well that sucks.

    I think the difference is that you occasionally talk to them, whereas her current is doing it more often and saying that he misses her. Sounds like their is still something there.

    My GF and I are friends with some of our ex's and we have no problems with it. We don't talk with them alot and we trust each other.