posted by O-Trap

Feeling happy about NOT being around my child ... yeah, there was a little guilt about that.

It's called a break.  Parenthood is some tough stuff, ESPECIALLY of a newborn.  It's OK to get away... for both you AND the little tyke.

posted by ernest_t_bass

It's called a break.  Parenthood is some tough stuff, ESPECIALLY of a newborn.  It's OK to get away... for both you AND the little tyke.

Cognitively, I understand that.

Emotionally, I still felt bad about wanting to be away from a little person after just three weeks after we've been trying for her for nine years.  I get it, and I have another break from her (and the wife) in January.  I don't feel bad for taking it.  I feel bad for being glad they're not around.  LOL

posted by Belly35

Getting married begins the journey, having children is the new adventure. This start the morphing that it is no longer about you, being a husband and then a father there is no room for selfcenterness. Wake up now its not about you it's about them and once you understand this its a wonderful, rewarding and powerful modivation.  When you have that spare alone time do something for the family that will make a small difference .. Fix the door, paint the hall, repair the car, clean the carpet, change out the wall sockets time a wasting and there is never enough time. Do this and there is a bigger pay out in the end... Family

We planned for our first kid but that did work miscarriage, this hurt, pain and frustration was devastating. We decided that planning was to much, so we just when back to enjoying each other, having fun and living without that stress to have children..it will happen when it happens and we will embrace Gods plan. 

 

 

I did not do this.

I think rest is a significantly undervalued activity.  I don't do enough of it regularly, so I took that night to do it.  Did go have a cigar with a buddy, but other than that, I just relaxed.

posted by O-Trap

Cognitively, I understand that.

Emotionally, I still felt bad about wanting to be away from a little person after just three weeks after we've been trying for her for nine years.  I get it, and I have another break from her (and the wife) in January.  I don't feel bad for taking it.  I feel bad for being glad they're not around.  LOL

I'm happy every day when I walk out my door and leave the wife at home... lol

posted by ernest_t_bass

I'm happy every day when I walk out my door and leave the wife at home... lol

This feels like experience talking.  LOL

I don't mind being home with my wife.  I do mind working from home with my stay-at-home wife.  She sometimes forgets that I do still have a job, even though I don't leave the house each morning.