When is marriage off the table

• Belly35

  

  I’m happily married but if something would happen to my wife at 66 years old … Why would I want to marry again? I can cook, clean, repair, wash cloths the only thing required is (friends with benefits). I like being alone at times and enjoy the freedom of doing what I want by myself ... I'm not sure anyother women would except that behaviore.
  
  I will not be getting remarried ...
  
  We have already provided a list of items that each daughter will receive at the time of our death so there is no family keepsakes lost.
  I have a friend 59 years old going on wife number three, taken for a ride on wife number # 2 , kids hated her, part of the kids inheritance and moms items lost she die and many of those items when to her kids. Now wife number # 3 is not much better and the kids are pissed …
  
  Should parents get remarried or is there an age point when it not a good idea for both the remaining parent and family?
• MontyBrunswick

  

  Nobody would want to marry your dumbass anyway
• Fab4Runner

  

  Belly35;1743148 wrote:I’m happily married but if something would happen to my wife at 66 years old … Why would I want to marry again? I can cook, clean, repair, wash cloths the only thing required is (friends with benefits). I like being alone at times and enjoy the freedom of doing what I want by myself ... I'm not sure anyother women would except that behaviore.
  
  I will not be getting remarried ...
  
  We have already provided a list of items that each daughter will receive at the time of our death so there is no family keepsakes lost.
  I have a friend 59 years old going on wife number three, taken for a ride on wife number # 2 , kids hated her, part of the kids inheritance and moms items lost she die and many of those items when to her kids. Now wife number # 3 is not much better and the kids are pissed …
  
  Should parents get remarried or is there an age point when it not a good idea for both the remaining parent and family?

  I think it's up to the couple, and what their kids or anyone else think doesn't matter at all.
• Heretic

  

  Fab4Runner;1743153 wrote:I think it's up to the couple, and what their kids or anyone else think doesn't matter at all.

  Yeah. If your spouse dies and you don't want to remarry, don't. If you do, go for it. Anyone else's opinion is irrelevant. You have a kid who's all like, "But mom/dad, I don't think you should get married again!", just say, "That's nice. And I don't think you're going to be in my will tomorrow."
  
  Problem solved.
• iclfan2

  

  I think it's weird for people over 50 to get remarried after a divorce. What's the point? Have another potential woman take half ur crap? Even worse if they have a 2nd actual wedding at that age.
  
  
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• Fab4Runner

  

  iclfan2;1743162 wrote:I think it's weird for people over 50 to get remarried after a divorce. What's the point? Have another potential woman take half ur crap? Even worse if they have a 2nd actual wedding at that age.
  
  
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  I think it's great. I would rather do that than become a jaded, bitter Betty who doesn't believe in happiness or love.
• j_crazy

  

  if my wife kicks it now, i'm done. i'm only getting married 1 time. there is also like a 90% chance no woman other than my wife would want to fuck me, let alone only fuck me. so.... yeah i struck gold 1 time, don't need to open up a new mine once this one closes.
• wildcats20

  

  iclfan2;1743162 wrote:I think it's weird for people over 50 to get remarried after a divorce. What's the point? Have another potential woman take half ur crap? Even worse if they have a 2nd actual wedding at that age.
  
  
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  My dad turns 62 this year and is recently engaged. My parents got divorced 7 years ago. They both have had s/o's in that time. I never expected either to get remarried, but I never ruled it out. He found someone who makes him happy and who he wants to spend his remaining years with. I don't understand the issue?
• Zoltan

  wildcats20;1743176 wrote:My dad turns 62 this year and is recently engaged. My parents got divorced 7 years ago. They both have had s/o's in that time. I never expected either to get remarried, but I never ruled it out. He found someone who makes him happy and who he wants to spend his remaining years with. I don't understand the issue?

  Think the point is go spend your remaining years with them, but don't get married. Keep it off the books so to speak, so you don't open yourself up to financial risk.
  
  My grandpa got remarried in his 70's after his wife of 50+ years passed away. All my aunts/uncles didn't really like her, but supported him. It did cause some problems when he passed.
• iclfan2

  

  Zoltan;1743183 wrote:Think the point is go spend your remaining years with them, but don't get married. Keep it off the books so to speak, so you don't open yourself up to financial risk.

  Basically this, and the fact that when you die, your kids are going to have to figure out the estate with some person they may or may not have a relationship with. My wife's dad got remarried at 58ish a year after his divorce. Had a whole wedding and everything. My wife almost didn't go. It was just a mess, and for what reason? "love"?
  
  
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• MontyBrunswick

  

  Zoltan;1743183 wrote: Keep it off the books so to speak, so you don't open yourself up to financial risk.

  One could make that argument about marriage in general.
• Fab4Runner

  

  iclfan2;1743201 wrote:Basically this, and the fact that when you die, your kids are going to have to figure out the estate with some person they may or may not have a relationship with. My wife's dad got remarried at 58ish a year after his divorce. Had a whole wedding and everything. My wife almost didn't go. It was just a mess, and for what reason? "love"?
  
  
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  Again, none of that really matters. And what my parents decide to do with their money when they pass away is also none of my concern. If they leave me stuff, great! If not, their choice.
• FatHobbit

  

  If my wife were to pass away or divorce me I don't think I would get remarried. But then again I never thought I would get married in the first place. (I didn't get married until I was 36.)
  
  My mom was married to my dad for 34 years before they got divorced. She remarried about 3 years ago. I think it will probably complicate the financial situation because he has 3 kids and multiple grandkids but it makes her happy so I was all for it. I was even in her wedding with my wife and daughter.
• OSH

  

  I doubt I'd remarry again. I love my wife, couldn't imagine being with anyone but her.
  
  I don't want to complicate anything else again or short-change any other woman who couldn't be my wife. I think I got the mentality from my grandma, who hasn't ever remarried and my grandpa died in 1989. She loved him. She never could be with anyone else but him. She loves talking about him and bringing up the times they shared.
• Commander of Awesome

  

  If the question is marriage, the answer is it's never on the table for me. Only incentive for me is tax breaks. If the question is long term partner, never off the table far as I'm concerned long as you're happy.
• SportsAndLady

  

  Commander of Awesome;1743217 wrote:If the question is marriage, the answer is it's never on the table for me. .

  It's legal at the federal level now buddy, you're good to go.
• Commander of Awesome

  

  SportsAndLady;1743220 wrote:It's legal at the federal level now buddy, you're good to go.

  That's what you decided to go with there tubby? Stealing fail material from your dumbass brother? You're usually better than this.
• SportsAndLady

  

  Commander of Awesome;1743221 wrote:That's what you decided to go with there tubby? Stealing fail material from your dumbass brother? You're usually better than this.

  You know you laughed
• Uz2Bon36

  

  I've never understood why some people feel like they must always be in a relationship. Break up and immediately start looking for somebody new.
  
  Hey dumbass, you've never been in a relationship more than a few years and even divorced twice. It's you, not them!
• friendfromlowry

  Belly35;1743148 wrote:Should parents get remarried or is there an age point when it not a good idea for both the remaining parent and family?

  I'm failing to think of an example where the decision is up to anyone but the parent and their partner. As for me, getting remarried is not something I'd be too eager to do, if at all. IMO, a fancy, elaborate wedding with hundred(s) of guests is something you should only do once in life. A second wedding later should be lower key.
• Tiernan

  Wow S&L and COA really going at it over multiple threads...this is getting good.
• DeyDurkie5

  

  Commander of Awesome;1743221 wrote:That's what you decided to go with there tubby? Stealing fail material from your dumbass brother? You're usually better than this.

  Hey my material is not fail