An acceptable "number" of partners?

• Trueblue23

  

  Looooong story short.
  
  I have a friend back home who has been talking to a girl he met about a month or so ago. He says she's cool, chill, the whole nine yards. She wants to start dating, and he does too... but she's been around the block. They never had a sit down, come to Jesus talk about it all, but it's a girl that sorta has that reputation I guess. He says she's changed and all that stuff, but he can't get it out of his mind. One of his biggest hang ups is that she's been with two of his friends (that he is aware of. Maybe 3).
  
  
  Is there, in the eyes of the almighty Chatter of Ohio, a number of dudes a chick can hook up with before she is permanently damaged goods?
  
  
  And for the record.. I told the dude that as long as she is clean, who cares. She isn't from our town, so it's not like everyone would even know.
• Trueblue23

  

  Obviously should've been in the Serious Business forum.
• Terry_Tate

  

  If she's ever been a prostitute then maybe this could actually work in the Pro Sports forum.
• Pick6

  

  First off, I couldnt get into a relationship with a girl who has hooked up with a friend, let alone multiple friends.
  
  I was actually having this discussion with a good friend the other day. He wants to find someone like his ex. Good girl, virgin or been with very few people, etc. I think that is a real long shot in our demographic of colleged-aged/just out of college chicks. I also bring up the fact that he is a hypocrite for it being okay that he has been with a bunch of people, but not okay if a girl has.
  
  My stance is that I would prefer to get in a relationship with somebody who hasnt been around the block. However, it would be hypocritical for it to be a deal breaker for me as well. So, when I get in that position, I dont think I am going to bring it up (and hope she doesnt) for a few reasons... I, and Im sure most guys, can tell if a girl is a whore by the way she carries herself. Im not attracted to those girls anyways (in a sense of getting into a relationship). Also, what does the past matter if she has changed and doesnt have the clap or whatever? Worrying about how many people a girl was with is probably something I cared more about in high school. I obviously have my preferences, but I also try to be a realist.
• sleeper

  

  I really don't care. I've been around the block probably more than most women could ever be.
• Laley23

  

  Not sure on a number, but the friends thing would be a no no. Id get with a girl who has been with my friends, but never date.
  
  As long as a girl isnt a total slut who was having a ton of 1 nighters in college, I wouldnt have an issue. If you had a reason to be with multiple guys, Im fine (aka, got to know them and it wasnt a 1 time thing).
• OSH

  

  I am glad I married a girl who wasn't dealing with this crap. The fact that these questions have to be asked is proof enough for me that it ain't worth it to sleep around.
• O-Trap

  

  I don't think there is a number. People grow up at different times. As long as the person has matured beyond it, I don't see the issue.
• TedSheckler

  

  38
• Devils Advocate

  

  I gots to know, Did Wes put you up to this?
• Raw Dawgin' it

  

  clean and not a virgin and I'm down. Don't want someone who has something I can catch and don't want someone who doesn't know what they're doing or what they like.
  
  This girl can probably suck the chrome off a trailer hitch.
• ernest_t_bass

  

  TedSheckler;1377281 wrote:38

  
  Disgusting. No way I'd be with a chick who did more than 37.
• Raw Dawgin' it

  

  ernest_t_bass;1377290 wrote:Disgusting. No way I'd be with a chick who did more than 37.

  I'm not sure I could bang a chick if she's been with a bunch of black guys, but I guess I could make exceptions.
• Belly35

  

  Is there a double standard between a girl and a guy? How many girls has he been with?
  One thing about friends and girls there always seems to be misleading truth, a little false bragging so the best thing is to know want is truthful and what is not.
• hasbeen

  

  Raw Dawgin' it;1377288 wrote:
  This girl can probably suck the chrome off a trailer hitch.

  Shell suck the grandkids out of you.
  

  Belly35;1377297 wrote:Is there a double standard between a girl and a guy?

  
  Yes.
  
  I never understand why people start relationships with asking these questions. The past is the past.
• like_that

  

  I try not to play into the double standard. It's a sneaky **** block for guys.
  
  As long as she isn't a complete whore (when I say complete whore I'm not speaking # of partners, in speaking about who goes about it) idgaf. If I valie most of what she is (physically/intellectual/emotional) then I'm not going to be a QQing little bitch because she slept with other guys before I met her.
• Raw Dawgin' it

  

  hasbeen;1377298 wrote:I never understand why people start relationships with asking these questions. The past is the past.

  Unless you have AIDS.
  
  Who deleted my comment? What was so bad about it? Who here wants to be with a girl after a few black guys turn a girl into the grand canyon?
• like_that

  

  Raw Dawgin' it;1377303 wrote:Unless you have AIDS.
  
  Who deleted my comment? What was so bad about it? Who here wants to be with a girl after a few black guys turn a girl into the grand canyon?

  
  I'm sure etb cried about it.
• Automatik

  

  Don't ask, don't tell. I'd rather not dig in her past and I sure as hell don't want her digging in mine. If she's clean and we are hitting it off, it's all good.
• Gblock

  imo guys who worry about that are insecure about their own performance. they like girls who havent been with many guys and have no idea what good sex is like. they probably figure if her number is high she has been laid very well more than a few times and they are scared to compete.
  
  as far as what would i do. My number has been higher than every girl ive ever been with and its not even close so it would be pretty hypocritical to judge her. being with a lot of guys does not necessarily equal cheating..
• like_that

  

  Automatik;1377308 wrote:Don't ask, don't tell. I'd rather not dig in her past and I sure as hell don't want her digging in mine. If she's clean and we are hitting it off, it's all good.

  Yeah, If I don't know anything, I follow this same policy. Nothing good can come out of it. If a girl asks me, I typically lie. I learned my lesson the hard way when my ex asked me, and she ended up crying lolfail.
• Sonofanump

  Very odd, RDI makes good points about STDs and cavern wall size.
• Pick6

  

  like_that;1377319 wrote:Yeah, If I don't know anything, I follow this same policy. Nothing good can come out of it. If a girl asks me, I typically lie. I learned my lesson the hard way when my ex asked me, and she ended up crying lolfail.

  Ive even lied about mine before and got kicked out of bed naked LOLFAIL.
• like_that

  

  Pick6;1377342 wrote:Ive even lied about mine before and got kicked out of bed naked LOLFAIL.

  lol that's pretty bad, but fuck that ****. She obviously needed to grow up. I usually just say 3. It seems to be the dream # for girls.
• Raw Dawgin' it

  

  Pick6;1377342 wrote:Ive even lied about mine before and got kicked out of bed naked LOLFAIL.

  Anything over 1 will probably cause problems.