"The Talk" - Parenting

• Fly4Fun

  

  So the big dreaded discussion for parents and kids alike used to be about sex. Interestingly I don't ever recall having that conversation with my parents and I turned out fine. No unwanted children running around, no diseases, but also am not abstinent by any means... but that's really besides the point.
  
  Did your parents ever have a talk with you about the internet and permanency of it? It seems to be something that needs to be discussed with kids now a days as anything put out there is out there forever. There are no take-backs.
  
  What used to be a fleeting moment of flashing someone is now something that's probably being recorded and will be posted. The consequences of youthful indiscretion are now more serious than ever.
  
  The reason I bring this up is this story regarding the Canadian teenager Amanda Todd.
  
  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/10/16/amanda-todd-bully-anonymous-suicide_n_1969792.html
  
  
  I have a similar (but overall less harmful story) from college. I was in a fraternity in which most of the baseball players joined. And we supported each others sports teams generally so we went to cheer on others at their respective sporting events. And at baseball games in general we would heckle a lot as it is more acceptable in that sport than say a swim meet or track meet. With the heckling we would research the players on the other team and create "cheat sheets" for the games that had embarrassing information on the players to yell out and make jokes about during the game to get under their skin.
  
  One of the guys on a visiting team had at one point sent out nude pictures of his an ex-girlfriend (We got this information from someone at the opposing school). So during the game we brought that up a few times referencing her name and sordid pictures (I forget what was specifically said). Anyways, after the game it gets back to us that apparently he got back together with his gf after that incident and they were dating again and in a close relationship as both that girl and her mother were at the game to support the boyfriend. And apparently we reduced her to tears and the mother was fuming (we weren't aware of this as 1, we were drunk, and 2 the visitors sit in a different area).
  
  But to bring it home, it seems that in conjunction with "The Talk" there seems to be a modern day need for parents to address the internet and the permanency that it can add to seemingly harmless situations.
  
  Did anyones parents ever talk to them about the internet?
  
  Have any parents here had that conversation with their kids?
• SnotBubbles

  

  The internet wasn' really big when I was in school. It really took off after 2000. So no, there wasn't any talk.
  
  I used to try and seduce girls in the Yahoo chat room my Senior year though. I'd change the background to black, the font to yellow (and call it candle light) and then type song lyrics.....lol.....it was so fucking gay. Amazingly it never worked. Bitches.
• Commander of Awesome

  

  Fly4Fun;1296621 wrote:So the big dreaded discussion for parents and kids alike used to be about sex. Interestingly I don't ever recall having that conversation with my parents and I turned out fine. No unwanted children running around, no diseases, but also am not abstinent by any means... but that's really besides the point.
  

  This needed to be said. Congrats on the humblebrag.
• gorocks99

  

  The talk around the internet needs to center around the fact that anything you put online does not go away. Ever. Think about it any time you're going to post something to MyBook or FaceSpace.
  
  That. Shit. Does. Not. Go. Away.
  
  Parents (and kids, but mostly parents) need to know that nowadays. I fear many do not, or just don't care enough.
• Commander of Awesome

  

  I smh at people who create accounts for their kids. That is something I will never do. It's beyond dumb.
• SnotBubbles

  

  Hey girl...let me light a candle.
  
  There we go girl. How about some tunes to ease the mood.
  
  "I'll make love to you, like you want me to, and I'll hold you tight....baby all through the night I'll make love....."
  
• SnotBubbles

  

  gorocks99;1296632 wrote:The talk around the internet needs to center around the fact that anything you put online does not go away. Ever. Think about it any time you're going to post something to MyBook or FaceSpace.
  
  That. Shit. Does. Not. Go. Away.
  
  Parents (and kids, but mostly parents) need to know that nowadays. I fear many do not, or just don't care enough.

  It's Facebook and Myspace. Geez dude...get with the 19th century.
• gorocks99

  

  SnotBubbles;1296637 wrote:Hey girl...let me light a candle.
  
  There we go girl. How about some tunes to ease the mood.
  
  "I'll make love to you, like you want me to, and I'll hold you tight....baby all through the night I'll make love....."
  

  wat
• Fly4Fun

  

  SnotBubbles;1296625 wrote: I used to try and seduce girls in the Yahoo chat room my Senior year though. I'd change the background to black, the font to yellow (and call it candle light) and then type song lyrics.....lol.....it was so fucking gay. Amazingly it never worked. Bitches.

  Why is this not surprising?
• SnotBubbles

  

  Fly4Fun;1296646 wrote:Why is this not surprising?

  I'm not sure.
• FatHobbit

  

  Fly4Fun;1296621 wrote:What used to be a fleeting moment of flashing someone is now something that's probably being recorded and will be posted. The consequences of youthful indiscretion are now more serious than ever.

  This part of your post need to be emphasized. I agree with the rest, but this part is really important.
• Pick6

  

  Parents never gave me the talk. I did have sex-ed in 7th grade though.I think my mom likes to pretend I'm some angel. Its like dont ask dont tell with her. One friend in high school took my phone and "accidently" texted my mom saying "I want to fuck you so bad right now". He supposedly thought it was my girlfriend. It didnt go over well with the mother. I tell my dad about girls I bang all the time. Have been lucky to avoid the dreaded pregnancy/STD epidemic it seems most of my classmates have had (mostly pregnancy).
  
  I "sexted" a lot in high school. There was a girl or two who had their boob pics forwarded to a lot of people. I never had a dick-pic get spread, but I do know one of my exes showed it to her friends. Have laid off the whole sexting thing in college for some reason.
• jmog

  Literally the "talk" with my parents was 1 week before I got married (age 20) my dad looked at me and said "don't hurt her, and she's on the pill right?"
  
  I had somewhat of a "talk" with my two oldest sons, talked about sexuality (hetero and homo) and truthfully how babies are made, etc. They are 11 and 9.
  
  My youngest is too young.
  
  I will have more of a details including diseases, pregnancies, contraception, etc as they become teenagers.
  
  It was definitely the most difficult thing to talk to your own kids about for sure.
• redstreak one

  

  My dads talk was pretty much, this is how sex works, and if you get her pregnant your working and taking care of the baby! lol
• tk421

  

  no talk here, my "dad" skipped before that. Mom hasn't ever said anything about sex or relationships to me ever, I think.
• LJ

  

  No talk, we had cable
• pmoney25

  

  SnotBubbles;1296625 wrote:The internet wasn' really big when I was in school. It really took off after 2000. So no, there wasn't any talk.
  
  I used to try and seduce girls in the Yahoo chat room my Senior year though. I'd change the background to black, the font to yellow (and call it candle light) and then type song lyrics.....lol.....it was so ****ing gay. Amazingly it never worked. Bitches.

  
  A/S/L
• like_that

  

  Fly4Fun;1296621 wrote:So the big dreaded discussion for parents and kids alike used to be about sex. Interestingly I don't ever recall having that conversation with my parents and I turned out fine. No unwanted children running around, no diseases, but also am not abstinent by any means... but that's really besides the point.
  
  Did your parents ever have a talk with you about the internet and permanency of it? It seems to be something that needs to be discussed with kids now a days as anything put out there is out there forever. There are no take-backs.
  
  What used to be a fleeting moment of flashing someone is now something that's probably being recorded and will be posted. The consequences of youthful indiscretion are now more serious than ever.
  
  The reason I bring this up is this story regarding the Canadian teenager Amanda Todd.
  
  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/10/16/amanda-todd-bully-anonymous-suicide_n_1969792.html
  
  
  I have a similar (but overall less harmful story) from college. I was in a fraternity in which most of the baseball players joined. And we supported each others sports teams generally so we went to cheer on others at their respective sporting events. And at baseball games in general we would heckle a lot as it is more acceptable in that sport than say a swim meet or track meet. With the heckling we would research the players on the other team and create "cheat sheets" for the games that had embarrassing information on the players to yell out and make jokes about during the game to get under their skin.
  
  One of the guys on a visiting team had at one point sent out nude pictures of his an ex-girlfriend (We got this information from someone at the opposing school). So during the game we brought that up a few times referencing her name and sordid pictures (I forget what was specifically said). Anyways, after the game it gets back to us that apparently he got back together with his gf after that incident and they were dating again and in a close relationship as both that girl and her mother were at the game to support the boyfriend. And apparently we reduced her to tears and the mother was fuming (we weren't aware of this as 1, we were drunk, and 2 the visitors sit in a different area).
  
  But to bring it home, it seems that in conjunction with "The Talk" there seems to be a modern day need for parents to address the internet and the permanency that it can add to seemingly harmless situations.
  
  Did anyones parents ever talk to them about the internet?
  
  Have any parents here had that conversation with their kids?

  Your story is hypocrisy at its finest. Glad you told it, I think less of you even more as a mod. Thanks.
• Ironman92

  

  I had a 4th grade student, who's mom refuses to have him tested even after years of being recommended, try to get me to friend him on FB.
  
  The kid reads about 10 words a minute and mom refuses to get him the help he needs....but he has FB.
• hasbeen

  

  I never had the talk. Had a couple "raincoat" talks with dad, though.
• gorocks99

  

  ccrunner609;1297936 wrote:I heard it my junior year when my mom walked in on me banging a girl.

  I hope you made and maintained eye contact with her to establish your dominance.
• hasbeen

  

  ccrunner609;1297939 wrote:dont remember much about the details.....but I know one thing, mom walking into the room didnt slow me down any. I just kept going till she walked out.

  
  You badass you.
• vball10set

  ccrunner609;1297936 wrote:I heard it my junior year when my mom walked in on me banging a girl. Even though I lost my virginity about 3 years earlier and banged most of my sisters' friends by that time......

  good god, cc, does it never end?