Your dad

• Tiernan

  I think of my Dad often when my own son does something I'm proud of him about. I tell him his Grannpa would have loved to have seen that.
• queencitybuckeye

  Died at 62. Great to everyone except his family.
• wes_mantooth

  

  My dad was awesome but died of cancer at the age of 50.
• OSH

  

  Automatik;1269848 wrote:My dad is 53 and a ****ing boss. He's the hardest working man I know. We have almost the exact same mannerisms, some even say it's a bit creepy.

  I think this sums up my dad and I as well.
  
  My mom and grandma call me "Al Jr." after my dad. They say I am the exact same. He's the man though. Works full-time in a factory, then farms, and supports the family in everything they do. He also beat cancer.
  
  :thumbup:
  
  edit: Not a slam on those who never beat cancer...just thrilled he did. Cancer sucks.
• se-alum

  

  My dad is 54. Great person, provider, and giver. He was diagnosed and beat cancer about 7 years ago. Hardest time of my life!
• Iliketurtles

  

  My dad died december last year... He had came up to Ohio last summer to try and create a relationship with me. Before then I had not seen or talked to him since I was 7(18 years) and he really wasn't a part of my life before then either. For the 7 months he was living with my mom and I and never spoke to him. Then one day I decided to talk to him and basically said I had made some dinner and he was welcome to it. 3 days later he died. Somedays I wish I would have tried to talk to him sooner. Other days I'm glad hes gone as hes not a burden to my mom anymore.
• BigAppleBuckeye

  

  My dad was a good man who passed away last Friday just 3-1/2 weeks after being diagnosed with cancer. I will miss him immensely, still dealing with the loss. But for what its worth, the silliness on this site has helped ease me back into a sense of normalcy. Thank you for that ...
• justincredible

  

  BigAppleBuckeye;1270008 wrote:My dad was a good man who passed away last Friday just 3-1/2 weeks after being diagnosed with cancer. I will miss him immensely, still dealing with the loss. But for what its worth, the silliness on this site has helped ease me back into a sense of normalcy. Thank you for that ...

  Wow, really sorry to hear this. Glad the site has been able to help you towards getting back to normal, even if just a little.
• GoChiefs

  

  vball10set;1269840 wrote:The best thing to do in cases like this is to pay it forward, and make sure your son/daughter never has to say this about their father

  Reps. My father and I didn't have the best relationship growing up, mainly because we are both too damn stubborn. He worked away out of state all week and was only home on the weekends. So all through my childhood, he never attended any events of mine like sports, banquets, etc. For the longest time, that bothered the hell out of me and there was a lot of animosity towards him because of it. Granted, I know he worked hard to provide for us, but even on the weekends, he did nothing, mainly because he had to do yard work, shit around the house, etc.
  
  I, of course, have since moved out, so the stubbornness doesn't effect us and we have a good relationship. I became a father, provider, and became old enough to realize why he did the things he did while I was a child. The fact that I now live two and a half hours away and see him once a month probably helps our relationship out a lot too, though.
  
  I was able to legally adopt my son when he was 5 years old. Knowing how I felt growing up, that's something he will never have to worry about. That is one thing I thank my dad for, because of his "not being there", I know that my son will never have that feeling. I will lose my job before I miss anything big of his. I am there to support him, no matter what it is. So because of my dad, my son and I have a great relationship.
• Fab4Runner

  

  BigAppleBuckeye;1270008 wrote:My dad was a good man who passed away last Friday just 3-1/2 weeks after being diagnosed with cancer. I will miss him immensely, still dealing with the loss. But for what its worth, the silliness on this site has helped ease me back into a sense of normalcy. Thank you for that ...

  Sorry for your loss. And that goes for everyone who has lost a parent. I can't even imagine.
  
  My dad is 62. We have a pretty good relationship considering I only lived with him full time for two years and I don't even remember them since I was a baby. He has OCD and is pretty high strung, which probably would have been annoying had I lived with him growing up. Now it's something I love about him. He gets along better with my brother, but they have much more in common. My dad was an Army Ranger who served in Vietnam and my brother is currently in the Army and has served in Iraq and Afghanistan.
  
  I should probably put more of an effort into seeing him and talking to him. He lives 90 minutes away and I genuinely hate talking on the phone, but hearing stories from some of you actually makes it even more apparent that I suck and need to do better.
• ohiobucks1

  

  My dad is 59 and the best man I know. President of a big corporation which he worked his way up through. He's a true leader in the community and believes his goal on earth is to benefit as many others as he can.
  
  
  Truly a good man.
• Tiernan

  ^^^
  Go Chiefs I've given you alot of shit but we have something in common. I adopted my oldest daughter when she was 4 and even though her Mom and I divorced later she has always been "my little girl" and considered the big sister to my other two kids from my next wife. One of my kids was 16 before he realized she wasn't from his Mom. I've tried to make her life as seamless as possible in being accepted as part of me and the rewards she has given me in return are beyond anything I'm worthy of.
  
  
  You're still a NASCAR lovin redneck but I respect you a just little more now for taking another man's kid under your wing.
• Sonofanump

  Dad was 18 when I was born, so a generation gap is not much between us. Still talk to him alot. Live in same town. Played softball with him up until 4 years ago when we both gave it up.
  
  He is an football umpire, so we talk alot of football shop.
• Curly J

  

  My Dad was always Dad. He passed away 8 years ago when he was 60. I'm thankful I didn't have the life he had. His father died when he was only 5 and he grew up in an Masonic Orphanage after his father passed. (even though he had 9 Brothers and Sisters)
• Enforcer

  

  Ive lost both of My Dads in the last 7 years. My Grandfather who Raised Me died 7 years ago from Lung Cancer, He was the greatest Man Ive ever known, My Dad who I had a good relationship with died 3 years ago at the age of 49 to a Heart Attack. Miss them both daily
• HitsRus

  

  I lost my dad 2 years ago at age 87. He was a great role model and I learned alot from him by example...both good and bad. Sometimes I wonder if in his final days, i got through enough to him to let him know how great he was and how much I really loved him.
• gport_tennis

  My real dad I have only I've for 4 years. My dad (step-dad) kicked me out a month after graduation. My mom asked for a divorce middle of my senior year. I thought we had a good relationship, but apparently that was only because he married my mother. 2 weeks after I graduated high school he told me he would not cosine my student loan. about 2 weeks after that he said I was costing him too much money and I needed to find somewhere else to live.
  
  I work my last 2 years of high school, paid for my own car and food. so he was Full of Shit.
  I even tryed having lunch with him a few times about a year or so after he kicked me out. he No showed everyone.
• End of Line

  

  Dad is 50. Hardest working person I know and I've tried to mold my work ethic after his. Even when my parents divorced when I was 6, I lived with my mom but my Dad did everything for me more son than my mom. We've had our issues like any family relationship but he's my best friend who I talk to about anything. We also share the same mannerisms which some find odd but I think it's pretty cool.
  
  One of the reasons I think the two of us have such a strong bond is that my Dads, Dad, was never around even when he was born. He's only seen him three times in his life. He hasn't spoken to him in 8 years. He wanted to be there for me unlike his dad
• BR1986FB

  Not sure how old my father is but he's somewhere in his late 70's. Haven't spoken with him in probably 20 years.
• BRF

  

  Looks like this thread is helping heal some relationships on the OC.
  
  I was 22 when my 51 year old father killed himself. Had to become a man quicker. He was a good man and I'm not as kind to others as he was, mostly because I don't take as much crap from people as he did.
• GoChiefs

  

  Tiernan;1270031 wrote:^^^
  Go Chiefs I've given you alot of shit but we have something in common. I adopted my oldest daughter when she was 4 and even though her Mom and I divorced later she has always been "my little girl" and considered the big sister to my other two kids from my next wife. One of my kids was 16 before he realized she wasn't from his Mom. I've tried to make her life as seamless as possible in being accepted as part of me and the rewards she has given me in return are beyond anything I'm worthy of.
  
  
  You're still a NASCAR lovin redneck but I respect you a just little more now for taking another man's kid under your wing.

  Much respect to you as well. I hear all the time "Oh, it must have been so hard to love another man's child". I tell them all the time how wrong they are. I love my child. It's been a lot easier since his "sperm donor" isn't in the picture. He's never once met him. Ditched her when he found out she was pregnant. She found out later already had 9 kids from 8 different women. I started dating my wife when my son was 6 months old, so I've been the only man in his life, and he's the only one I know. We will tell him eventually, when he's older, but right now, he is unaware.
  
  Props to you for sticking around in her life even after you divorced. :thumbup:
  
  NASCAR lovin' redneck? Thank you for the compliment!
• vball10set

  BR1986FB;1270170 wrote:Not sure how old my father is but he's somewhere in his late 70's. Haven't spoken with him in probably 20 years.

  Sorry to sound preachy, but gotta' say it--try reaching out to him, 'cause you may regret it someday if you don't
• RedRider1

  

  Best thread in a while on this site.
  
  My dad will be 66 in November and in good health....very thankful for that...but coming to grips with the reality that he's closer to 70 than he is 60. I remember teasing him when he turned 50...doesn't seem that long ago.
  
  He's a humble & gentle man who never thinks of himself first. He worked 2 jobs just to have some extra money to take my brother & I to a movie & the family out to dinner a few times a month.
  
  We lost my brother on July 18, 1998 (he was 18) in a car accident and then dad lost his dad 6 months later, then dad & mom divorced a year or so after that. That accident just unravelled our whole family.
  
  To say the few years after the accident sucked would not do it justice. Dad pulled through and met a great lady & is happier than he's ever been but the scars are still there.
  
  He's wanting to retire next year and I'm hoping he gets to hang around to enjoy the fruits of all his hard work for so many years. My wife & I are blessed with 3 children & he loves spending time with them.
  
  Hope he can be there when they play sports, go to the prom & all the other milestones they'll go through.
  
  Thoughts go out to those on this thread who have lost or never got to know their father.
  
  Again...great thread.
• fish82

  

  Dad turns 70 this Saturday. Kickass father, kickass husband to my mom, and general all around great guy. Driving up Saturday to deliver a fifth of his most favorite single malt.
• Trueblue23

  

  I think alot of us here can relate to this..
  
  "Ain't nobody tell us it was fair, no love for my daddy cause the coward wasn't there. He passed away and I didnt cry, cause my anger wouldn't let me feel for a stranger. They say I'm young and I'm heartless, but all along I was lookin for a father he was gone.". -2Pac. One of my favorite songs of alltime.
  
  My biological dad was a pos. He didn't really come around until my mom passed away when I was 11. We had a small fall out when I was 12 because I refused to call my step dad by his first name when I was around bio dad. He passed away when I was 14, my step dad took me to his funeral and stayed with me the whole time. Shows there's a HUGE difference in "biological father" and "father".