Giving advice to your significant other.

• Ytowngirlinfla

  

  So today I got an email from my gf who told me she is going to get an apartment asap with her friend and her friends bf when they get back in a few weeks from being out to sea. Now this friend of hers, well I know also, total shitbag (navy term), don't care for her too much and would hate to see my girl move in with her. Plus I have no idea how the hell she can even afford to split a apartment with 2 other people with utilities. We only make $700 (e3) twice a month. She does not and can't get BAH for you military people who know what I'm talking about. And she has a $300 car payment plus probably $200 in other bills a month.
  
  So I want to email her and tell her nicely she needs to think things through. Every time I do something like this she gets pissed at me, cause I'm trying to be an "adult" and she knows how things go. Remember I'm 30 and she's 19. Anyways should I allow her to learn the hard way and most likely get screwed over or get her all pissed at me and tell her it's a completely bad idea.
• hoops23

  

  Tell her how you feel, but you're 30? No way!
  
  I think you're 25 and lying about your age to sound more seasoned.
• sleeper

  

  You're 30 and banging a 19 year old?
  
  LOL
• hasbeen

  

  sleeper wrote: You're 30 and banging a 19 year old?
  
  LOL

  He's da WOman.
  
  
  As for OP(aka "da WOman"), tell her what you think.
• hoops23

  

  The OP is a woman.
• hasbeen

  

  fixed ^
• Ytowngirlinfla

  

  Yeah I am 30 and am a woman lol. What's wrong with banging a 19 year old?
• hasbeen

  

  Ytowngirlinfla wrote: What's wrong with banging a 19 year old?

  She's not 18 is the only problem.
• tk421

  

  Ytowngirlinfla wrote: Yeah I am 30 and am a woman lol. What's wrong with banging a 19 year old?

  Nothing, we're just jealous. You wouldn't happen to have a web cam, would you?
• Ytowngirlinfla

  

  Haha I have a webcam. But she's in Washington state and I'm in chicago right now.
• september63

  

  What was a sincere question has again turned into lesbians on cam? Where do I sign up?
• Ytowngirlinfla

  

  Lets not turn this into that. It's a serious question. We can get into that later.
• gerb131

  

  Hear that creaking? Its Fab1B's foot kicking the door open.
• sleeper

  

  In all seriousness, you should be able to give advice to your SO without a problem. If you can't at least give advice to your SO, then the relationship probably won't work out.
• Writerbuckeye

  

  You provide (in a nice way) your life's experience with such matters to her, and then you back off and let her go down the crapper, if that's where she wants to go.
  
  Anything else you try to do will be seen as too intrusive in the way of interfering with her choices as an adult.
  
  Besides, these lessons don't work unless you muck through the shit all by yourself.
• september63

  

  I agree with the above advice. I question, is it all about her falling on her face with this move? Or are you a bit jealous of her living with this guy and girl?
• Ytowngirlinfla

  

  no I just think it's stupid. There is no way she can afford it. She'll get in over her head and in the Navy money issues will affect your job and security clearance. I don't care who it is she moves in with. I'm just looking out for her in the long run and I don't want the I should have listened to you later on.
• september63

  

  No jealousies or insecurities whatsoever?
• Cleveland Buck

  

  19 year olds think they know everything no matter you tell them. In reality, they know absolutely nothing, and will be fucking up for years before they figure out that you were right.
  
  Anyway, here's the game plan. Let her fuck up. She is going to do it anyway. Just don't let her know ahead of time that you know she is fucking up. Just act surprised when she is bitching that she has no money or her roommates are animals. That way she can't blame you for not trying to talk her out of it when you knew it was a mistake.
• wes_mantooth

  

  sleeper wrote: You're 30 and banging a 19 year old?
  
  LOL

  Nothing wrong with that.
• Ytowngirlinfla

  

  september63 wrote: No jealousies or insecurities whatsoever?

  Nope no jealousy or anything.
• ernest_t_bass

  

  I guess I'm late to the party, as far as knowing you were a lesbian.
  
  It's kinda cool having two lesbians here. You and mtrulz.
• Ytowngirlinfla

  

  I don't label myself.
• september63

  

  LOL. Oh no you didnt?
• september63

  

  Well................being 30 and dating a 19yr old. These are the issues you will face. Many life experiences you have encountered that will be new to her. IF it is a ralationship that is going to survive, you will give your advice and let her make her own decision?