Dealing with ex's who can't let go

• ZWICK 4 PREZ

  

  I guess this post is more of just validating my opinion.
  A girl I've been talking to has an ex husband. Shes 25 and they were married for 2 years. No kids, no house, no money... it was a pretty easy divorce.. for her. He calls her constantly. Tonight he called 6 times in 10 minutes and left 2 voicemails. I answered for her the last time and he just hung up. She catches him outside of her apartment... she thinks shes seen him outside of her work... dudes a stalker, plain and simple. I told her she needs to get a restraining order and she says hes harmless so shes not worried about it. I'm worried shes going to find out differently one day. Plus I'm not sure of the law exactly, but I think something has to happen to get a restraining order.. but I'm not sure. I'm sure he knows where I live cuz he's prolly followed here her. He knows my car obviously cuz he knows when I'm there. He may be "harmless" but I'm not sure u can ever be really sure.
• gerb131

  

  TPO time.
• ZWICK 4 PREZ

  

  I agree. I think if she doesn't I'm just going to cut it off b/c I don't wanna deal with it.
• DeyDurkie5

  

  Murder her.
• ZWICK 4 PREZ

  

  Other thing is she says shes not worried about it cuz hes harmless, but she hates to be alone at night.. so what is it really?
• dat dude

  Actually, she should pursue a civil stalking order. Given the circumstances you provided, she would probably meet the burden. If he will not consent to the order, then she will need to attend a hearing and present evidence regarding his behavior. There is no filing fee for a civil stalking order and she can be provided court appointed counsel if she qualifies. If not, she should seek advice from an attorney and get one filed. Its a fairly simple process.
• Timber

  You might wanna have someone start your car for you... and test the blinkers each time you go to leave.
  Have you ever seen... Charles Bronson in...The Mechanic??
  
  Don't mean to joke about a serious situation, but I thought it would be OK...
  
  Good Luck with this... stalker dude.
• ZWICK 4 PREZ

  

  No snow we go! wrote: You might wanna have someone start your car for you... and test the blinkers each time you go to leave.
  Have you ever seen... Charles Bronson in...The Mechanic??
  
  Don't mean to joke about a serious situation, but I thought it would be OK...
  
  Good Luck with this... stalker dude.

  lol no its cool.. like I said I ain't sweatin it b/c I'm not going to deal with it. It's her prerogative obviously, but I ain't puttin up with his shit.
• Fab1b

  

  Zwick its you dating her?.....Dude man I'm sorry I'll let go now. Thought I recognized your car from the huddle. Just to let you know though dude, she farts, alot!!!!
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
• Cleveland Buck

  

  She's fucking him. Just move on to the next one if it bothers you.
• ZWICK 4 PREZ

  

  Cleveland Buck wrote: She's fucking him. Just move on to the next one if it bothers you.

  she can fuck him all she wants as long as he aint an annoying little bitch when I'm around.
• Cleveland Buck

  

  That's the thing. He is going to be. It's the typical ex situation. When she started fucking him again he assumed everything was the same as when they were married, so if he knows you are there he is going to be a bitch.
• ZWICK 4 PREZ

  

  The problem with that logic would be he wouldn't be stalking her if he was still hittin it.
• CinciX12

  

  You'd think he wouldn't put in as much effort if it was a regular thing. My guess is they slept together once a little while ago and she told him it wasn't happening twice. So thats when he started doing all this.
  
  I think you called it though, she doesn't like to be alone so when you're not there she ends up calling him. I definitely don't think he would keep doing all of this unless she was leading him on a little bit. Granted there are some fucked up people in the world who might.
• dwccrew

  

  CinciX12 wrote: You'd think he wouldn't put in as much effort if it was a regular thing. My guess is they slept together once a little while ago and she told him it wasn't happening twice. So thats when he started doing all this.
  
  I think you called it though, she doesn't like to be alone so when you're not there she ends up calling him. I definitely don't think he would keep doing all of this unless she was leading him on a little bit. Granted there are some fucked up people in the world who might.

  This pretty much sums up my thoughts on the situation. Get rid of her Zwick. Who needs a woman with luggage?
• Glory Days

  

  Do his mom.
• Cleveland Buck

  

  Who knows what the guy is thinking? Maybe he wants to get married again. Who gives a fuck? He wouldn't be around at all if he wasn't hitting it. If you want to share the pussy and deal with the drama, then that is up to you. This is why there is no reason to speak to a woman after you hit it once, unless she is rich.
• Darkon

  

  First the muslim chick and now this? HAHAHAHA
• 4cards

  

  ...More details about the divorce would help, like did he beat her, drink up all the money, have a job???? If so she should get a court order issued against him.
  
  If it was just that argued and fought then with her being just 25 (not sure of his age), I'll bet she still wants him around.
• ZWICK 4 PREZ

  

  4cards wrote: ...More details about the divorce would help, like did he beat her, drink up all the money, have a job???? If so she should get a court order issued against him.
  
  If it was just that argued and fought then with her being just 25 (not sure of his age), I'll bet she still wants him around.

  I dunno the circumstances and really don't care to. It's none of my business.
• power i

  

  Has she told him to stop? If she has and he's still bugging her, the guy ain't right in the head and she needs to call the cops and let them know what's going on even if they can't do anything. If she hasn't told him to leave her alone she A) needs to or B) doesn't want him to.
• ZWICK 4 PREZ

  

  power i wrote: Has she told him to stop? If she has and he's still bugging her, the guy ain't right in the head and she needs to call the cops and let them know what's going on even if they can't do anything. If she hasn't told him to leave her alone she A) needs to or B) doesn't want him to.

  Only thing I know about their situation was from August of last year till January of this year she moved to Wisconson with her aunt b/c he wouldn't leave her alone. She tells me she isn't afraid of him but she moved for 5 months to get away so I dunno if shes just trying to reassure me or what. He's found out again where she lives and she assumes its thru mutal friends. So I dunno their whole ordeal.
• CenterBHSFan

  

  Dump her.
  
  She's playing the role cleverly.
• THE4RINGZ

  

  Dude you need to find a different dating site, obviously the one you are using isn't attracting the kind of chicks you need.
• ZWICK 4 PREZ

  

  The dating site I use is called barley house in Akron or First Friday in Canton.