Would You Let Your Girl...

• LJ

  

  sherm03 wrote:

  dwccrew wrote: Doesn't the family name end with her regardless? The children bore out of this union will have your last name, correct? Also, I know many women that want their children to have the same last name as them.
  
  Unless the plan would be to give them the hyphenated name as well.

  Exactly. The name ends regardless because our kids will have my last name.

  Are you sure about that?
• dwccrew

  

  Fab4Runner wrote: I would never nót change my name but I also don't have a problem with women who do. Not sure why this would be such a huge issue with some men. And that's a serious question.

  I think it just has to do with tradition.
• Fab4Runner

  

  You could always change your last name to hers...that's still a complete union, lol. I actually do know a man who did this and yes he gets made fun of.
• sherm03

  

  LJ wrote: Are you sure about that?

  LOL. I was until you just asked that. Now it's like 80/20.
• GoChiefs

  

  It would be a huge issue...but I don't think I'd be for it. We never had to worry about it considering my last name is the 5th time my wifes changed her name anyways. Lol
• LJ

  

  Fab4Runner wrote: You could always change your last name to hers...that's still a complete union, lol. I actually do know a man who did this and yes he gets made fun of.

  Do you call him Mrs?
• Apple

  

  You could always take her last name or you could also agree to give your children her last name. There are many ways to keep the options open with regards to the names of your children.
• LJ

  

  sherm03 wrote:

  LJ wrote: Are you sure about that?

  LOL. I was until you just asked that. Now it's like 80/20.

  With her reasoning being what it is, you better double check on that one
• sleeper

  

  Let's be honest here, if she's putting out, does it really matter?
• killdeer

  

  as I said earlier, just combine the names in the name of your progeny...
  i.e., let's say your girl's last name is Michelin, and your last name is Firestone...just name that first-born son Michelin Firestone.
  See, everybody is happy.
• NNN

  

  Just do what my dad did. His maternal grandfather was lamenting the end of the line for the last name, so he offered to change his and my mom's last name for a rather princely sum.
  

  sej wrote: If I continue in my line of work, I will keep my last name professionally without hyphenation. Legally, however, I would likely change my name.

  You're working in porn?
• charliehustle14

  I really wouldn't care.
• ts1227

  

  I see no problem with using both maiden and married last names.
  
  Especially if she has made a name for herself with her maiden name (in something like academia, or her job field, or whatever else), how can you stop her?
• tk421

  

  No one likes my idea of both getting a completely new last name? Is that not the true joining of people into a couple?
• charliehustle14

  Could be just like Jack White and take the name of your wife
• UA5straightin2008

  

  UA5straightin2008 wrote: LOL
  
  my nick name is "eggs" everyone calls me it...ill let you guess my last name

• krambman

  

  dwccrew wrote: Many women I know change their middle name to their maiden name. That way it is still apart of their name, but there is no hyphenation.

  Or she could just keep her maiden name as a second middle name if she doesn't want to drop her middle name. Just have a four word name.
• Gblock

  if you love her and its important to her you should do it.....just my humble opinion
• Heretic

  

  As long as she brings me sandwiches and spreads the legs when I snap my fingers (or preferably both when I snap my fingers...a sandwich is a good treat after I take what's mine), she can call herself whatever she wants.
  
  I'm the picture of class and maturity when it comes to dealing with the female mind.
• sleeper

  

  Heretic wrote: As long as she brings me sandwiches and spreads the legs when I snap my fingers (or preferably both when I snap my fingers...a sandwich is a good treat after I take what's mine), she can call herself whatever she wants.
  
  I'm the picture of class and maturity when it comes to dealing with the female mind.

  I lol'd. So true.
• Swamp Fox

  I would say that "Gblock" has it right. Men and women aren't each other's possessions, they are each other's partners.
• Angel

  I sure hope that you didn't react exactly how your post is worded when she was hinting at hyphenating her name.
  I don't mean to sound harsh, but, she would be smart to think twice about the actual marriage if that is how you said it.
  I understand this is the Freehuddle and guys say things tougher than they might say them in person, but, if you are going into the marriage thinking that you can control her, don't get married.
  Let her be her. I assume that you want to marry her because of who she is, so, let her keep being who she is. If not, your marriage could be doomed from the beginning.
• Con_Alma

  My "girl" is my wife and it's called her last name for a reason.
• iluvz

  No way would I ever consider changing my name if I got married again. Then again, I won't ever get married again, so its really a non issue. I think its ridiculous that men think they have some devine right for a woman to change her name. What are you giving of yourself that's of equal value as half of who you identify yourself as? If you need a piece of paper, or for a woman to change her name to solidify your relationship, or for her to 'prove' her love for you, or for you to feel secure with her, you already have a fatal flaw.
• Con_Alma

  ^^^^
  
  No that's not it at all. Good God! ...talk about an overreaction!