What are the rules for fighting one of your friends?

• GoChiefs

  

  2quik4u wrote: you never heard of beating it out of them?

  Heard it? I'VE TRIED IT! Lol
• 2quik4u

  

  GoChiefs wrote:

  2quik4u wrote: you never heard of beating it out of them?

  Heard it? I'VE TRIED IT! Lol

  haha
• Timber

  Rather than kicking his ass (which would feel good,) I think it would be better to talk to him.
  1. If you want to cut him loose from your life, tell him why he can no longer be a negative drain on your life. And give him a lucid well thought out list of reasons why you are cutting him loose.
  2. If you want to salvage the relationship, tell him why you are struggling dealing with his issues and how it negatively impacts your life. Also provide another list of requirements necessary for him to maintain a relationship with you. If he fails, he can no longer be in your life.
  You need to decide what you want to do.
  Best wishes... It is never easy, but nothing in life worth a damn comes easy.
• Trueblue23

  

  No snow we go! wrote: Rather than kicking his ass (which would feel good,) I think it would be better to talk to him.
  1. If you want to cut him loose from your life, tell him why he can no longer be a negative drain on your life. And give him a lucid well thought out list of reasons why you are cutting him loose.
  2. If you want to salvage the relationship, tell him why you are struggling dealing with his issues and how it negatively impacts your life. Also provide another list of requirements necessary for him to maintain a relationship with you. If he fails, he can no longer be in your life.
  You need to decide what you want to do.
  Best wishes... It is never easy, but nothing in life worth a damn comes easy.

  He wont even answer his phone, I've left him about a dozen msgs.
• Fab1b

  

  That may be all you need to know then bro, he doesn't even have the balls to talk with you over the phone.
• Timber

  Trueblue23 wrote:

  No snow we go! wrote: Rather than kicking his ass (which would feel good,) I think it would be better to talk to him.
  1. If you want to cut him loose from your life, tell him why he can no longer be a negative drain on your life. And give him a lucid well thought out list of reasons why you are cutting him loose.
  2. If you want to salvage the relationship, tell him why you are struggling dealing with his issues and how it negatively impacts your life. Also provide another list of requirements necessary for him to maintain a relationship with you. If he fails, he can no longer be in your life.
  You need to decide what you want to do.
  Best wishes... It is never easy, but nothing in life worth a damn comes easy.

  He wont even answer his phone, I've left him about a dozen msgs.

  In that case:
  1. See above #1
  2. Put the list of reasons in your phone, or somewhere handy... (just so you don't forget any) so the next time you see him you can tell him to pound salt... and these are the reasons why.
  3. Wish him well and tell him Goodbye.
  4. Carry on with your life... cut him loose.......
• Trueblue23

  

  Fab1b wrote: That may be all you need to know then bro, he doesn't even have the balls to talk with you over the phone.

  Yep, exactly.
  
  Thanks for helpin out bro
• mtrulz

  If they hit a girl.
• Fab1b

  

  Like hitting your mother?
• Rotinaj

  

  Just put a claymore right in front of his bedroom door. That should do the trick.
• mtrulz

  Family, friend, or girlfriend.
  
  If anyone hit my girlfriend or made her cry, they'd get the worst ass kicking.
• Fab1b

  

  Trulz I hear ya man
• I Wear Pants

  If there is a dispute as to who gets to ride shotgun then there shall be a 3 round MMA match with the gloves that are kept in the trunk.
• Firad

  

  Trueblue23 wrote: Firad knows this guy, and he probably knows who I'm talking about from this thread.

  Yeah man I know who you're talkin about. That's too bad it's come to this. I remember you being good to him in high school. I know it'll be hard to cut all ties, especially in WCH, but they may be for the best.
• mtrulz

  Fab1b wrote: Trulz I hear ya man

  Thatta boy!
• Strapping Young Lad

  

  Trueblue23 wrote:

  Fab1b wrote: Sometimes you have to cut your losses and walk away. If this cat was like a brother to you ne wouldn't do whatever it is he has been doing to push you this far!!

  Thanks Fab.
  
  It sucks because I think of my good friends as family, and it sucks to lose a brother. This dude is basically a piece of shit though. He has screwed himself, his mom and his grandparents over financially. He is 21 years old and about to file bankruptcy.

  I've had this problem and have had to burn those bridges. Completely cut him off. It's hard to do, emotionally , but you can't let someone take advantage of you.
  
  I've had to let a friend go more than once. Sometimes they'll see the error of their ways, eventually, and perhaps someday the friendship can be renewed.
• BoatShoes

  The Rules? To crush him, to see him driven before you and to hear the lamentations of his woman.
• Anna-Town

  I've punched friends before and they've punched me ....
  
  Our deal has been keeping each other's ego's in check ...
  
  Every once in a while I need brought back down to reality and I know that they do too. We get wild, and the next day we tell each other thanks, shank hands and move on. It's an unspoken rule that works out very well.
  
  

  Fab1b wrote: Let me share a little something with you about this situation, I had to cut my ties with my real brother and that hurt my friend. My brother can't get off the drugs and it ended up costing him his family. A few years ago when my ex wife and I split I took the opportunity, against my better judgement to let my troubled brother move in with me. I thought I could fix the problem. I did for a short period of time, I had him working, paying his bills, hanging with my friends, etc....for about 5 - 6 months. Had his drug use mainly down to pot and that was keeping him out of trouble. Well one weekend he brings this chick home and they don't leave his bedroom for 3 days straight, I know right then something is up. After those three days he stayed confined to his room with this chick, wasn't going to work, stopped paying his bills. Stole from my mother (who at the time was killing herself between her full time job and caring for my very ill father who was slowly dying) and stole from me. Then he took off, didn't hear from him for weeks sometimes months. Wouldn't visit my father, etc....Then in Oct 06 my father passed and we had no way of contacting him. Well my sister shot off an email and he showed back up with this chick, but the first question was about insurance money! I loved my brother to death but I had to cut all ties from him, I couldn't do it anymore and my poor mother damn sure didn't need the stress and I wanted to kill him for the pain he causes. Getting my mother to cut ties was the hardest part, I mean how does a mother do that, but she had too. I haven't talked to my brother since Beanie Wells scored the opening TD in the OSU/LSU championship game when he called me out the blue right after that TD. I don't and won't talk to him ever again. That wasn't my true brother in my eyes, my friends I grew up with my whole life, they are my brothers!! I share this because I know where you are at my friend, but cutting the losses sometimes is what has to be done!

  WOW Fab, I've lurked, and respected your posts for quite a while, but I cannot imagine doing this, and really really respect you now.
  
  I cannot imagine having to go through all of that at once. Hopefully I will never have to cross a bridge like that in my life ... but if I do I ask for strength like yours.
• UA5straightin2008

  

  Fab1b wrote: Let me share a little something with you about this situation, I had to cut my ties with my real brother and that hurt my friend. My brother can't get off the drugs and it ended up costing him his family. A few years ago when my ex wife and I split I took the opportunity, against my better judgement to let my troubled brother move in with me. I thought I could fix the problem. I did for a short period of time, I had him working, paying his bills, hanging with my friends, etc....for about 5 - 6 months. Had his drug use mainly down to pot and that was keeping him out of trouble. Well one weekend he brings this chick home and they don't leave his bedroom for 3 days straight, I know right then something is up. After those three days he stayed confined to his room with this chick, wasn't going to work, stopped paying his bills. Stole from my mother (who at the time was killing herself between her full time job and caring for my very ill father who was slowly dying) and stole from me. Then he took off, didn't hear from him for weeks sometimes months. Wouldn't visit my father, etc....Then in Oct 06 my father passed and we had no way of contacting him. Well my sister shot off an email and he showed back up with this chick, but the first question was about insurance money! I loved my brother to death but I had to cut all ties from him, I couldn't do it anymore and my poor mother damn sure didn't need the stress and I wanted to kill him for the pain he causes. Getting my mother to cut ties was the hardest part, I mean how does a mother do that, but she had too. I haven't talked to my brother since Beanie Wells scored the opening TD in the OSU/LSU championship game when he called me out the blue right after that TD. I don't and won't talk to him ever again. That wasn't my true brother in my eyes, my friends I grew up with my whole life, they are my brothers!! I share this because I know where you are at my friend, but cutting the losses sometimes is what has to be done!

  some strong stuff in here, you did what you had to do
• Red_Skin_Pride

  

  mtrulz wrote: If they hit a girl.

  Shit mt, I hit your mom a BUNCH of times last night
• Swamp Fox

  First of all, some very powerful stuff Fab. You went far above the call of duty to try and help your brother. Tragically, some people simply can't be helped regardless of the extremes we sometimes go to in trying to help. Particularly when the person is someone as close as a brother. I have no story quite as compelling and sad as yours. In my case, considering where I am in life, rules that used to apply having to do with fighting don't apply in most cases. Some of my friends are no longer here to fight with. I've never been much of a fighter anyway. I think that if we must fight, we should reserve our fighting for our enemies.
• BuckeyeBlue

  

  If they're a good enough friend and really need an ass whooping, they'll be big enough afterwords to realize they were being a douche. I've been put in check, and had to put friends back in check a few times.
• GoChiefs

  

  mtrulz wrote: If they hit a girl.

  We agree on something! :@