Is there a tactful way to tell a woman this and not get slapped?

• thavoice

  That if they would drop about 20-30 then they would absolutely stunning and ya would go on more dates with her?
  
  Just wondering......
• wes_mantooth

  

  Yeah.....just feed her a tapeworm....problem solved.
• ridgerunner88

  I'm guessing you're a big time player.
• ZWICK 4 PREZ

  

  just slap her then tell her. Then she'll know her place.
• Mooney44Cards

  

  Pull this one: "I'm just not attracted to you. That doesn't mean I COULDN'T be attracted to you, but as it is right now I'm not."
  
  If she's smart she'll get the hint.
• thavoice

  ridgerunner88 wrote: I'm guessing you're a big time player.

  not really. Just gettin tired of datin women 10-12 years younger who are hight maintenance. ONe i am talking about would be perfect...if she dropped the lbs
• enigmaax

  You would go on "more" dates...or you would go on "a" date? Or you would be more likely to admit to your friends that you've been nailing her?
• Fab1b

  

  I can't think of a safe way to do that!
• thavoice

  Are you T H E enigma?
  Went out once...friend set me up who is kind of on the shit list for it but hey......extremely pretty but, you know.
• ss7

  There is no way for that conversation to go well.
• CenterBHSFan

  

  
  
  
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• Mooney44Cards

  

  As for a more technical answer: Over the phone.
  
  Seriously, she can't slap you over the phone.
  
  Or yell it to her from really far away.
• dazedconfused

  

  get her addicted to cocaine - those lbs will start flying off...but then you'll have a whole host of additional problems
• enigmaax

  thavoice wrote: Are you T H E enigma?
  Went out once...friend set me up who is kind of on the shit list for it but hey......extremely pretty but, you know.

  Gotcha. I met a girl online once who was characterized from her pics was really pretty but "goes a little back and forth". On our date, she was a little "forth". But being that no one would ever really see her or know.....you know. When she asked if I wanted to go out again, I said, "Sure, let me know when you come back." I don't think she knew what I meant and I just didn't answer her calls after that.
  
  The thing is, even if you handled that conversation perfectly and she wasn't offended, are you really going to wait around for a year on the chance that she might actually drop that much?
• Upper90

  I guess, I don't know why it HAS to be said. Just don't date her?
  
  I dunno. There's no good/polite/respectful way to say that without hurting her, so it probably could go without being said. JMO.
• heel023

  

  I don't see a very good ending to this.
• butkus51

  Never a god way to say it. the only thing you could tactfully do, if you really like her, is get her interested in some sort of exercise you both like. Biking, walking, heading to the local Y....something like that.
  
  
  Or.......and I have seen this..........Take her out and pay some dude you know that she doesn't to act like a drunken stooge and say it for you.
• Cleveland Buck

  

  butkus51 wrote: Or.......and I have seen this..........Take her out and pay some dude you know that she doesn't to act like a drunken stooge and say it for you.

  This is brilliant. I am ashamed I didn't come up with it. Here's your gameplan.
• newarkcatholicfan

  

  No.
• BGbobcat4life

  What u should do is get a football helmet and wear it then tell her to lose weight that way if she slaps you, you will not feel it. You also might want to get a cup just incase she goes below the belt
• dancinbear

  maybe when your friend set you up, he didn't know you were so shallow......
• mexappeal12

  

  If you don't have any weight to lose then you might be able to get away with it. I know that if someone else is fit they will most likely want to be with someone who is fit. If you need to lose some weight then I do not see how you can tell her without looking like a shallow jerk. On the other hand, you could tell her and maybe she will lose weight and be perfect for the next guy. Either way the most polite way to do it is to start working out with her or ask her if she likes to go on walks... most likely the only way she will get the hint without being super offended.
• royal_k

  

  Welcome mexappeal12. Love your avatar!
• charliehustle14

  Working out together is a pretty novel idea.