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Long Distance Relationships

  • GoChiefs
    ZWICK 4 PREZ wrote: He's right. She's down for anything.
    Fact.
  • Apple
    It's all good! just razzin ya!
  • ZWICK 4 PREZ
    i know
  • sleeper
    Ytowngirlinfla wrote: Yeah I'm really not digging the text, pic mail, phone call thing. It's like a tease and you can only talk/text so much of the same shit over and over again.
    Sounds like a boring relationship, you should probably just break it off and go meet someone more interesting.

    Or on second thought seems like you two are a perfect match, just don't have kids, please.
  • Ytowngirlinfla
    sleeper wrote:
    Ytowngirlinfla wrote: Yeah I'm really not digging the text, pic mail, phone call thing. It's like a tease and you can only talk/text so much of the same shit over and over again.
    Sounds like a boring relationship, you should probably just break it off and go meet someone more interesting.

    Or on second thought seems like you two are a perfect match, just don't have kids, please.
    Well sleeper what else can you do when your apart other than talk on the phone and web cam. I mean things are interesting, it's just holidays are hard.
  • BORIStheCrusher
    I was in a long distance relationship for 3 years, I lived in AZ, gf in OH. We agreed that if it didn't work than so be it, but we at least wanted to try. We talked on the phone everyday, she came out and visited me a couple times, I came back a few times. We just took it one day at a time and eventually got used to it, and now we're back living together.
  • ernest_t_bass
    darbypitcher22 wrote: You know, I'm starting to wonder if I'll ever marry at all. I wanna coach, not sure I'll ever find a woman that understands the time away from home that is needed and involved with the profession, and if you're in the right place at the right time, moving up the ladder can involve a lot of bouncing around to other places... May just pay to be a bachelor and do whatever when I have free time away from stuff.
    I coach, and I haven't found too many (if any) young wives who like the whole coaching gig.

    When I met my wife, I was coaching HS Football, Jr. High Basketball, HS Softball, was refereeing about 50+ Jr. High - Varsity basketball games in the Winter, refereed about 3-4 Summer basketball tournaments, and golfed 3-5 times per week.

    Now, on my own doing (mostly) I volunteer for football (10% of the time I used to put in), no longer coach basketball, Head Softball Coach, only ref about 30 games (add tournaments), ref two summer tournaments, and golf about 1 time per month.

    I gave all that up... and sometimes I still feel like it's not enough.
  • Swamp Fox
    My wife and I were in a long distance "relationship" for 8 years. The reason I put relationship in quotes is that we were 12 when it began and 19 when it became a "same town" relationship. During that almost 8 year period of separation, we actually saw each other twice. When I returned, we had exchanged many letters, a few phone calls, but nothing person to person. That, of course would change and one year later we were married. I guess it worked out ok because she has allowed me to do the job I love for over 40 years and she also has never demanded that I grow up. Men usually don't grow up entirely, but some wives constantly tell their childish husbands to grow up. My wife doesn't. I guess she figures it would be futile and she raised our four boys while I was coaching and teaching. She did a great job and I still haven't grown up. A very special woman, indeed!
  • dancinbear
    darbypitcher22 wrote: Well maybe you don't but probably 25% of married men would LOVE that arrangement provided they could keep their mouths shut.

    I agree with the whole golfing when you want to thing
    And 90% of statistics are made up on the spot.


    I should have voted for you Darby.
  • dancinbear
    ernest_t_bass wrote:
    darbypitcher22 wrote: You know, I'm starting to wonder if I'll ever marry at all. I wanna coach, not sure I'll ever find a woman that understands the time away from home that is needed and involved with the profession, and if you're in the right place at the right time, moving up the ladder can involve a lot of bouncing around to other places... May just pay to be a bachelor and do whatever when I have free time away from stuff.
    I coach, and I haven't found too many (if any) young wives who like the whole coaching gig.

    When I met my wife, I was coaching HS Football, Jr. High Basketball, HS Softball, was refereeing about 50+ Jr. High - Varsity basketball games in the Winter, refereed about 3-4 Summer basketball tournaments, and golfed 3-5 times per week.

    Now, on my own doing (mostly) I volunteer for football (10% of the time I used to put in), no longer coach basketball, Head Softball Coach, only ref about 30 games (add tournaments), ref two summer tournaments, and golf about 1 time per month.

    I gave all that up... and sometimes I still feel like it's not enough.

    My fiance is a farmer and is NEVER home. 8 months out of the year he's gone early and comes home when I'm sleeping. I see him on the weekends and during the week if I go out to the field and ride with him or haul a load somewhere with him. In the winter he hauls fertilizer for a company in Toledo and works 7pm-3am.....I see him for maybe an hour a day. I coach high school softball, so when that starts, I'll be lucky to see him during the week at all!

    AND we have a great relationship!! :) I miss him of course, and wish I could see him more, but we appreciate our time together more. We both have our things we do and our independence. Nobody is sitting at home waiting for the other.
  • Laley23
    I was in a long distance relationship for 3.5 years out of a 5 year relationship. She was in college in Chicago and I was in college in Bloomington. It was the best 5 years of my life (to this point), but DAMN, it was a lot of work.

    We both loved each other, so it worked. No offense, but you've only been dating for 6 months, im not sure you can survive a long distance relationship when the start of it hasnt been very long.
  • Ytowngirlinfla
    It may not have been very long but we have lived together every day plus 2 months prior to the relationship starting. We were together almost all the time, so it's a little different than just casual dating.
  • darbypitcher22
    ernest,

    very few? how about NONE of the young women I know are willing to work with taht lol
  • Cat Food Flambe'
    Y-Town - my wife and I did the LTR for four and a half years. Other that the first two months, we never lived in the same time zone until we got married. I lived in Columbus and Boston (or on the road somewhere) - she lived in Atlanta, Salt Lake City, or Louisville KY. We saw each about twice a quarter while I was in college, and about once a week for the last year (she acquired enough seniority at the airline to get off of the flight attendant's "extra board" and could get regular days off)

    The only way we survived was by not going exclusive until we actually got engaged (six months before we got married). In reality, I really didn't want to date all that much for the last year or so - I was pretty well hooked on her.

    We've been married for 28 years - it's worth waiting for if it's the real thing.
  • sleeper
    Ytowngirlinfla wrote:
    sleeper wrote:
    Ytowngirlinfla wrote: Yeah I'm really not digging the text, pic mail, phone call thing. It's like a tease and you can only talk/text so much of the same shit over and over again.
    Sounds like a boring relationship, you should probably just break it off and go meet someone more interesting.

    Or on second thought seems like you two are a perfect match, just don't have kids, please.
    Well sleeper what else can you do when your apart other than talk on the phone and web cam. I mean things are interesting, it's just holidays are hard.
    Yeah I know I was just giving you a hard time. Seriously though, if you don't get stationed with him, you need to break it off. I don't think he'll be that upset given that situation, because I can guarantee you he is thinking about all this just as much as you are.
  • Sage
    Darby, girls aren't down with it because you look like sperm.

    This thread makes me want to throw my BlackBerry into my toaster.

    What a bunch of sissies. Every dude in a long distancer has cheated. Every one. And if they havent--- their girl was getting her vagina smashed into an alternate dimension.

    SMH.
  • Sage
    Also, I would love to see Darby as a coach. That would be high comedy.

    Judging by his posts, itd probably include advice like "Try to keep your eye on the ball" and "If you beat the throw to second, you will be called safe."

    I can also see him interjecting himself at any given time to voice his opinion---even if its just to let his team know he doesn't have an opinion.

    Darby coaching and with a girl thatd be content to have his penis in her for eternity. LOL. Bout OD'd on laughter there.
  • Def Leopard
    darbypitcher22 wrote: Well maybe you don't but probably 25% of married men would LOVE that arrangement provided they could keep their mouths shut.

    I agree with the whole golfing when you want to thing
    Darby, you continue to prove what a clueless little boy you are.
  • Apple
    Sage wrote: Darby, girls aren't down with it because you look like sperm.

    This thread makes me want to throw my BlackBerry into my toaster.

    What a bunch of sissies. Every dude in a long distancer has cheated. Every one. And if they havent--- their girl was getting her vagina smashed into an alternate dimension.

    SMH.
    Sage, I can attest that you are wrong.
  • darbypitcher22
    Sage,

    why the need to get so damn personal all the time?
  • ernest_t_bass
    darbypitcher22 wrote: Sage,

    why the need to get so damn personal all the time?
    LOL... why the need to TAKE IT so personal all the time?
  • darbypitcher22
    I'm just saying, the guy doesn't know anybody here personally(or very few) yet needs to come on here and basically bash anybody and anything that goes against his personal ideas....wtf?
  • ernest_t_bass
    He does it to get a rise out of people, the very rise that he seems to be getting out of you. It is an internet message board. He's not standing outside your door, threatening your existence, is he?
  • Fab4Runner
    Because it's funny and entertaining. I bet you find it (or have at least once) comical when he rips on someone else.
  • Tiernan
    The fact that Sage has that dumbass Brownie logo as his avatar is reason enough he should never be allowed to rip on anybody at anytime...but back to the thread...

    Your both in the NAVY for gods sake...see the world, experience life, do the dew...etc, etc. If its meant to be it will happen down the road but don't clip this young buck's wings in his prime and don't hinder your own ability to get drunk and laid in every dingy port bar from Zanzibar to Shanghai.