Can we talk

• Belly35

  

  In the Belly family very little is keep a secret. We talk as a family and when there is family problem the kids knew of the situation. From major problems, to where to go on vacation or grandma death we talked. It didn’t matter want age they where, we talked, as they grew older they shared in the process and ask question. Years, years ago I quit my job and started a business I told the kids that things would change and they would have to help. I know that sound heavy for kids 11, 9, 7 but each in some way they showed support. I think this was good for our family.
  
  How did your parent handle this?
  
  As parents and or to be parent do you discuss or will you talk major problems and family decision with your children?
  
  Secondary question: Where did your family discussion take place?
  
  We have two places the family room or back room eating area.
• Steel Valley Football

  Families don't talk these days like when I was young. The world is a big mess now.
• Con_Alma

  Now that they are young adults we discuss most everything with them. We view "problems" as teachable moments. When family decisions have to be made they collectively have 49% of the decision.
• Belly35

  

  Steel Valley Football;1229724 wrote:Families don't talk these days like when I was young. The world is a big mess now.

  Note: "Belly Family" which indicates present time and a few year back. This is not about my childhood of the 50,60,70,
  
  The world a big mess now.... From watching a video I wonder why?
• Belly35

  

  Con_Alma;1229725 wrote:Now that they are young adults we discuss most everything with them. We view "problems" as teachable moments. When family decisions have to be made they collectively have 49% of the decision.

  Question: "young adults" what age would that be?
  
  I agree with the teachable moment. We felt that at a early age sharing those issue would also bring a understanding that they are part of the family and later a reality of real issue that family and personal issue and a good support system to handle problems.
• dlazz

  My family doesn't talk.
  
  We text.
• Con_Alma

  Belly35;1229734 wrote:Question: "young adults" what age would that be?
  
  I agree with the teachable moment. We felt that at a early age sharing those issue would also bring a understanding that they are part of the family and later a reality of real issue that family and personal issue and a good support system to handle problems.

  High School.
• I Wear Pants

  Steel Valley Football;1229724 wrote:Families don't talk these days like when I was young. The world is a big mess now.

  Bullshit.
• Steel Valley Football

  I Wear Pants;1229983 wrote:Bull****.

  
  It's true. The end is near.
  
  
  
  Sincerely,
  
  Belly.
• tcarrier32

  

  Steel Valley Football;1229724 wrote:Families don't talk these days like when I was young. The world is a big mess now.

  I'll bite...
  
  I'm a rather young dude. My parents didn't do the family sit down thing, as my sister was too young to actually grasp any situation. They had no problem being very blunt with me though. I have to assume its fairly common.
• Pick6

  

  There hasnt been a nuke dropped,6 million people killed in a genocide, or a great depression in my lifetime. I find it hard to believe we are that much of a mess right now.
• j_crazy

  

  Baby boomers are the reason. Well, them and evangelical politicians. Adding God to our money and the pledge of allegiance was the start of the downfall.
• Steel Valley Football

  tcarrier32;1230043 wrote:I'll bite...
  
  I'm a rather young dude. My parents didn't do the family sit down thing, as my sister was too young to actually grasp any situation. They had no problem being very blunt with me though. I have to assume its fairly common.

  Sorry, I was being sarcastic to Belly who thinks everything was better when he was young and that the world has gone to pot.
• Steel Valley Football

  Pick6;1230047 wrote:There hasnt been a nuke dropped,6 million people killed in a genocide, or a great depression in my lifetime. I find it hard to believe we are that much of a mess right now.

  You are currently in the worst economic situation in 75 yrs and it was caused by greed within the banking/system with almost no punishment from their actions. You have every right to be worried. Public complacency such as yours is what's scary to many.
• O-Trap

  

  Let's try to keep this from being a political discussion.
• Steel Valley Football

  O-Trap;1230450 wrote:Let's try to keep this from being a political discussion.

  It is what it is. He mentioned the state of our society, economic and otherwise.
• Pick6

  

  Steel Valley Football;1230436 wrote:You are currently in the worst economic situation in 75 yrs and it was caused by greed within the banking/system with almost no punishment from their actions. You have every right to be worried. Public complacency such as yours is what's scary to many.

  I'm aware. The GDP/debt ratio has been worse before and we came back from it. Was the economic situation caused by greed from the banks, or the irresponsible citizens of the country who took out loans that they could not afford?
• O-Trap

  

  Steel Valley Football;1230466 wrote:It is what it is. He mentioned the state of our society, economic and otherwise.

  Sure, but that discussion is meant for a different forum.
  

  Pick6;1230469 wrote:I'm aware. The GDP/debt ratio has been worse before and we came back from it. Was the economic situation caused by greed from the banks, or the irresponsible citizens of the country who took out loans that they could not afford?

  I don't think it's an either/or situation.
• Pick6

  

  O-Trap;1230473 wrote:
  
  
  I don't think it's an either/or situation.

  I agree. Was just pointing out that there are two sides to it. Its easy for us to put all of the blame on those "too big to fail" corporations instead of take come accountability for ourselves as well.
• Steel Valley Football

  Pick6;1230469 wrote:I'm aware. The GDP/debt ratio has been worse before and we came back from it. Was the economic situation caused by greed from the banks, or the irresponsible citizens of the country who took out loans that they could not afford?

  
  Let's compare it to a very basic concept:
  
  Should parents (banks/govt) allow small children (uneducated borrowers) to chase balloons (houses) in busy street traffic or should parents make rules to ensure the children don't go into the street hurt themselves?
  
  The children know they can be hurt in the street but the lure of the balloons clouds their minds. Especially when there are clowns (loan originators/mortgage brokers) in the street encouraging them to chase the balloons.
  
  
• Steel Valley Football

  Pick6;1230475 wrote:I agree. Was just pointing out that there are two sides to it. Its easy for us to put all of the blame on those "too big to fail" corporations instead of take come accountability for ourselves as well.

  It's those of us who did not default on our home loans who are angry at the rules that allowed the lending system to ruin the housing market.
• xKoToVxSyNdRoMe

  

  Steel Valley Football;1229724 wrote:Families don't talk these days like when I was young. The world is a big mess now.

  
• Steel Valley Football

  You do, indeed, see. See, you do.
  
  
  
• gut

  I think some of the blame would fall on the decline of the nuclear family, and to lesser extent the rise of fast foods. Perhaps even more so is the number of high school kids that have jobs now. All of that takes away from the traditional sit-down dinner where families discussed much of this. Especially in the critical and formative high school years, I wonder how many families still regularly sit down for dinner?
• Pick6

  

  gut;1230572 wrote:I think some of the blame would fall on the decline of the nuclear family, and to lesser extent the rise of fast foods. Perhaps even more so is the number of high school kids that have jobs now. All of that takes away from the traditional sit-down dinner where families discussed much of this. Especially in the critical and formative high school years, I wonder how many families still regularly sit down for dinner?

  back in the "good ol days" high school kids didnt have jobs, junior high kids did.