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Should I let my 19 yr old son date a 15 yr old?

  • queencitybuckeye
    Raw Dawgin' it;1224111 wrote:This goes back to the old saying "if there's grass on the field..." right?
    Old enough to bleed, old enough to breed.
  • Raw Dawgin' it
    jmog;1224122 wrote:The culture nowadays you don't really want grass on the field do you?
    depends how much - if it's like the putting greens that's ok, but i don't want something out of control. And I'm going to hell for typing this in a thread about a 15yo girl....
  • O-Trap
    Raw Dawgin' it;1224129 wrote:depends how much - if it's like the putting greens that's ok, but i don't want something out of control. And I'm going to hell for typing this in a thread about a 15yo girl....
    If it's "Welcome to the Jungle" down there ... it's a problem.
  • Belly35
    queencitybuckeye;1224127 wrote:That he identified the girl's father by name made me wonder if this was a reference to something I missed in current culture (which would be 99% of it).
    SVF was referring to Jim as himself ..... this has to be a brother -sister relationship problem :rolleyes:
  • vball10set
    Belly35;1224081 wrote:Want your kids a loser .. send his happy ass to the military .. he will learn to grow the **** up
    The military prolly wouldn't take him, Belly, but that sure would be his best option.
  • Belly35
    vball10set;1224138 wrote:The military prolly wouldn't take him, Belly, but that sure would be his best option.
    The French take anyone :laugh:
  • 4cards
    Steel Valley Football;1224093 wrote:Thanks for your opinions. He a stupid son of a bitch. He doesn't even have a drivers license.[/QUOTE]

    ...Sounds like your pissed that you have to drop off & her Dad has to pickup!;)
  • I Wear Pants
    If this isn't some troll I find it hilarious/sad that you think you can let or not let your 19 year old son do anything. You can't. You can approve or disapprove and if the latter you can stop providing certain benefits to him such as paying for things (you noted kicking him out of the house as an option), etc. But you really can't make a grown ass adult do anything they don't want to do.
  • Steel Valley Football
    He's in big trouble now. That little fucker goes and puts a video of me on the damn internet. I really hope Jim doesn't see this.



    [video]http://m.worldstarhiphop.com/video.php?v=wshh9ECB9S10VEfawg63[/video]
  • Steel Valley Football
    I Wear Pants;1224151 wrote:If this isn't some troll I find it hilarious/sad that you think you can let or not let your 19 year old son do anything. You can't. You can approve or disapprove and if the latter you can stop providing certain benefits to him such as paying for things (you noted kicking him out of the house as an option), etc. But you really can't make a grown ass adult do anything they don't want to do.
    This is good advice. You are totally right. Thank you.
  • Tigerfan00
    ernest_t_bass;1224087 wrote:Tagteam


    So how do they get to each others houses if neither drives and what job are you dropping him off at?

    Also, is she black?
  • Steel Valley Football
    justincredible;1224118 wrote:I don't think SVF has a 19 year old son.

    He's my adopted son. I love him like he's my own though.
  • I Wear Pants
    Steel Valley Football;1224162 wrote:This is good advice. You are totally right. Thank you.
    Yeah I mean, I'm not saying you should kick him out or anything (that's entirely up to you), but just make it very clear to him that you think this is a fucking stupid idea and why. Really all you can do about it.
  • Steel Valley Football
    Tigerfan00;1224167 wrote:

    So how do they get to each others houses if neither drives and what job are you dropping him off at?

    Also, is she black?

    He is black. He's really light-skinned black though.
  • Tigerfan00
    Steel Valley Football;1224161 wrote:He's in big trouble now. That little fucker goes and puts a video of me on the damn internet. I really hope Jim doesn't see this.



    [video]http://m.worldstarhiphop.com/video.php?v=wshh9ECB9S10VEfawg63[/video]
    Anyone else notice the video was submitted by JJ.

    Now that I see who your son is, I think ETB will be able to help you out
  • Steel Valley Football
    JJ is my nickname. Ask Justin.
  • Enforcer
    I call BS on the whole story
  • vball10set
    Enforcer;1224200 wrote:I call BS on the whole story
    :thumbup:
  • Steel Valley Football
    Enforcer;1224200 wrote:I call BS on the whole story

    Well I posted the video. See for yourself.
  • password
    I think you need to tell him to become a member on the OC, we have lots of questions that only he can answer, unless you have slept with her also. Make sure you tell him he will have submit some pics of the girl to help verify your story.
  • Tigerfan00
    Steel Valley Football;1224161 wrote:He's in big trouble now. That little fucker goes and puts a video of me on the damn internet. I really hope Jim doesn't see this.



    [video]http://m.worldstarhiphop.com/video.php?v=wshh9ECB9S10VEfawg63[/video]
    You clearly said that he posted the video.
  • TedSheckler
    Worst thread ever.
  • gut
    As was mentioned, all you can really do is put the fear of God into him about what can happen with flitty young girls, especially ones with strongly disapproving fathers. For starters, he should impose a TRO on himself - no contact - until she's 16. Even then, any relationship that starts before she's 18 exposes him to a whole different order of potential problems/accusations. People have been prosecuted after-the-fact when it's "proven" a relationship started before the age of consent.

    And when it comes to allegations of sexual abuse, women are prone to lying for a variety of reasons (it's estimated up to 50% of college rape accusations are lies or mistaken identity), but the younger they are the more likely to lie for vindictive or other reasons.

    My personal perspective is I think of this in terms of a 19 yr-old being a fresh/soph in college and dating a fresh/soph in highschool. Maybe a senior in highschool (usually because they were dating before he/she left for college) but otherwise it's kind of really weird. I wouldn't even be too comfortable with my freshman daughter dating a jr/sr 3 years older in college.

    Besides the fact unless he's extremely hard-up, I can't imagine a 19 yr old WANTING to date a 15 yr old. Unless she looks like Kate Upton then this board would say it's all good.
  • GOONx19
    No. The rule is divide by two and add 7. If you're 19, they should be 17 (16 if they're really hot). If you're 24, they should be 19. And so on.
  • Steel Valley Football
    TedSheckler;1224222 wrote:Worst thread ever.

    I know. My bald head and goatee look terrible in the video.

    Fab1b, help?