Parenting/Divorce

• Little Danny

  

  So today I went out on a bicycle ride with my 12 year old. As a background, his mom and I have been divorced for 10 years. They live a couple hours away so I only have him every other weekend. My relationship with his mother post divorce has been very hostile even up to today. She has been very rude to my family members, has repeatedly talked bad about me to him, has never involved me with his school and other extracirricular activities (I have had to make the habit of getting involved myself- calling teachers, coaches, etc.). Each weekend she interrogates my son about what happened at my house and has always made a point of throwing it back in my face. For instance, once I sent him to his room for throwing a fit when he did not like our dinner choice. He told his mom and she made a point of calling me and telling me how horrible of a parent/person I was for making him eat something he did not like.
  
  So today we went on a bike ride. My son was in rare form today. For some reason he just was not having a good day on the bike. He was lagging behind and refusing to keep up (I was coasting for the most part). I tried to give him a tip to help him ride better when he started yelling "He was not listening to me" and covering his ears. I grabbed him by the collar and told to stop being such a little a-hole and listen to me(in full disclosure, it has been a rough weekend on a personal level for other reasons). Of course, he vowed to tell his mother and that he was never coming back.
  
  Moral to the story.... if you have kids, don't get divorced. Better yet, just stay single and live in your parents basement. Life will be a heck of a lot stressful
• justincredible

  

  That sucks, man. Sounds like she is doing a number on your kid.
• Little Danny

  

  ^^ I know. That part has been the most hurtful. I can take the jabs at me, but it sucks when my kid is in the middle or other family members get hurt.
• WebFire

  That sucks dude. That would so tough to deal with.
• DeyDurkie5

  

  smoke a joint
• BAMABUCK

  Wrong on so many levels(your x). Stick with him. Boys need Dads. With out you she will ruin his chances of being a man. No books,no advice, just the best you can do is all you can do.
• derek bomar

  

  he'll come around. stick with it. and fuck her friends.
• Tigerfan00

  

  thavoice, this is your future. by the way is he still around?
• ernest_t_bass

  

  Write everything down. Take her back to court for custody.
• Pick6

  

  sorry to hear that things are still like that after all of this time.
  
  My parents got divorced 7th going into 8th grade. They were hostile towards each other at first, which I guess is normal. But now I get along with both my step mom and dad and all of their families have accepted me and seem to treat me just as even as their real family. Parents and step parents also get along well now.
  
  I'd imagine my situation is better than mosts.
• redstreak one

  

  Keep on loving him and keep being interested and keep being the bigger person. Your son knows you are just looking out for him, but a 12 year old will always take the path of least resistance. It will take years, but once your son gets to the age where he can appreciate what you do, you will reap the rewards.
• iluvz

  Im a divorced mother of 2 boys, and women like that make me absolutely sick. Good luck!
• iluvz

  redstreak one;1120090 wrote:Keep on loving him and keep being interested and keep being the bigger person. Your son knows you are just looking out for him, but a 12 year old will always take the path of least resistance. It will take years, but once your son gets to the age where he can appreciate what you do, you will reap the rewards.

  This. He will realize one day... Little comfort now I know but is exactly what ppl kept telling me. (moms aren't the only ones who play these games with kids. My ex was a master at it)
• fan_from_texas

  redstreak one;1120090 wrote:Keep on loving him and keep being interested and keep being the bigger person. Your son knows you are just looking out for him, but a 12 year old will always take the path of least resistance. It will take years, but once your son gets to the age where he can appreciate what you do, you will reap the rewards.

  
  This. Divorce is tough on kids. Just keep doing the right thing, and it'll pay off in the long run.