Sorry need to vent, family can suck you know!!

• Fab1b

  

  Ok I have shared many times my relationship with my brother, if you haven't read that before just know there is no relationship. My brother decided to take a life of heavy drugs and bouncing in and out of prison and made my mom's life hell whlie my dad was dying, ok that is the jist of that.
  
  I also have a sister, who in the smarts department isn't too far behind my brother. Now we weren't raised this way at all and I don't understand it in the least. My sister and her piece of shit man just popped out their 3rd baby, neither one of them can ever hold a job, hell if they are even working at all. They live off the system and drain my mom for everything they can (of course she is kind of an enabler and I have shared my thoughts with her several times over, my mom that is). They are in their young 30's, no 401Ks, no pensions, no education, he just got a job willing to bet it will last only a few months before he decides to get fired or just quit and do nothing. My sister has had a few stable jobs in the past but after sometime will mange to fuck them up and lose her job as well. Well the last job was stripping (save it guys I know what is coming from you bastard OC'ers) well anyways, after just having the 3rd kid which I am still pissed about but again forgiving enough to see my nieces and my sister when possible she calls me tonight to tell me she is going back to work. I say finally the kids will have medical benefits, dah dah dah, so I say to my sister where did you get a job at? The reply, you guessed it going back to stripping. I am beyond furious. I fucking lost it on her! I can't stand to see family live like this.
  
  Now some of you know I am not an angel but the worst thing I do is the green. I hardly even drink. I have a career and make a good living. I mean is it that fucking hard to live like a decent human being, if anything for your kids? These guys have nothing, my nieces don't stand a damn chance! On top of this I am at my office when I get this news and now I want to go postal!
  
  Sorry so long had to vent and you guys are always good at cheering a brother up here!!
• wildcats20

  

  tldr
• j_crazy

  

  Regarding your sister:
  Take. Them. Off.
• sleeper

  

  Your sister is a terrible person.
  
  Hope this helps.
• se-alum

  

  Tell her you want custody of the kids, so you can give them the life they deserve.
• I Wear Pants

  Should be "I hardly even drank" as I'm sure you're about to become a raging alcoholic from the shear stupidity of your family.
• OneBuckeye

  

  and you are thought she would change? Not gonna happen.
• chicago510

  

  Thats what always pisses me off. If you want to live a shitty life, so be it, but don't subject multiple kids to your shitty lifestyle.
  
  And I get one kid might be an accident, but 3 kids is not when you don't have the means to support them.
• I Am Ahab

  Fuck her sister, piihb, coolstory brah. What am I forgetting?
  
  But seriously. I agree wich ya man. When you have kids you need to suck it up and set an example. You don't have to earn a shit ton of money. Just provide and maintain a stable environment. Bouncing from job to job and stripping ain't the way to go.
  
  However, in the end it's their lives. Maintain a relationship with them so you can be so
  E kind of positive influence in those kids lives.
• september63

  

  Atleast she isnt asking you for money.
• Trueblue23

  

  I feel your pain on this Fab, well kind of at least.
  
  It's awful seeing someone you love destroy their life like that.
• DeadliestWarrior34

  

  I Am Ahab;955588 wrote:Fuck her sister, piihb, coolstory brah. What am I forgetting?

  Upperdeck her,
  (Insert shitty advice here)
  Hope this helps
• Tiger2003

  

  Pics of your sister?
• Fab1b

  

  se-alum;955576 wrote:Tell her you want custody of the kids, so you can give them the life they deserve.

  I don't want kids, I want my life not happening.
• Fab1b

  

  september63;955591 wrote:Atleast she isnt asking you for money.

  She fucking knows better, but my mom is the problem in that department! I only buy for the kids, and that is b-days, christmas, a few surprises here and there, and some times when my mom pleads for some help for them. I don't want to do it, I have my own life (call it selfish, etc...but I don't want kids and I'm not raising anyone elses)!
• Fab1b

  

  Assholes but expected and funny, and yes I'd post the same to you all!
• se-alum

  

  Fab1b;955607 wrote:I don't want kids, I want my life not happening.

  You're not THAT concerned about their well being then. I don't want kids right now either, but if I could give my nieces and nephews a better life than they have now, I would do it in a heartbeat.
• Fab1b

  

  se-alum;955617 wrote:You're not THAT concerned about their well being then. I don't want kids right now either, but if I could give my nieces and nephews a better life than they have now, I would do it in a heartbeat.

  Wrong, it isn't like they are disabled, dead, blah blah blah, they are perfectly capable of getting jobs and doing what is right. I will not take over for someone no matter who it is because they are too fucking lazy or whaever! I DON'T want kids, plain and simple, it is my life and I work to damn hard to deal with others problems, yes even if it is family! One other reason I don't have kids is because I am a single guy that lives very comfortably on my salary, just the GF and I, but could I take on and raise 3 kids and then be financially stable no fucking way. One maybe. So still not fair to the kids! I am not traditional, I am my own man. I do what is right for me first, others second, maybe selfish but at the end of the day you can only help yourself first! So yes that may sound shallow to some but I refuse to take my life off its course for others stupidity no matter how close they are. What about my dreams, goals, etc.....?
  
  I didn't mean to make it sound like my nieces don't have clothes or shelter or food. They go to school, they live in a house, its actually not a bad place if my sister and her man weren't such slobs. They have transportation, toys, etc.....but its the future that worries me and not just theirs, my sisters.
  
  Se-Alum I do understand what you are saying and yes again I said what I am saying may sound shallow but that is how I have chosen to live my life. I don't give into others. I chose not to have kids and its just that damn simple. Now would the circumstances change say if my sister (god forbid I am not this mad) died or something tragic happened well absolutley. But until that happens I will continue to stuff it down their throats until they do what is right!
• Speedofsand

  

  Steal her phone and post pics. Tell her there is big money at Lollipops during races and bike week.
  
  
  
  3 kids =
  
• Skyhook79

  

  se-alum;955617 wrote:You're not THAT concerned about their well being then. I don't want kids right now either, but if I could give my nieces and nephews a better life than they have now, I would do it in a heartbeat.

  Thats fine but unless his sister is going to sign her kids over to him or Family Services step in its not going to happen. But you are right about Fab not being that concerned about their well being if he thinks they would be an inconveinence on his life.
  If I were in your shoes I would pray about it. If your not a praying person I would suggest giving it a try, it certainly isn't any worse advice then the ones you have already received.
• I Wear Pants

  Yes I'm sure praying about it is going to make his sister stop being a stupid bitch.
• Fab1b

  

  I don't do relgion either, sorry praying is the way of saying your doing something when you really aren't. Praying isn't going to get my sister a real job with benefits, her hitting the bricks and putting in applications will! Sorry if that offends anyone but if you want to talk relgion then stand to hear the other side!
  
  Also Skyhook read this for an above post of mine:
  One other reason I don't have kids is because I am a single guy that lives very comfortably on my salary, just the GF and I, but could I take on and raise 3 kids and then be financially stable no fucking way. One maybe. So still not fair to the kids!
  
  My thought and damn sure wish others followed it is if you can't afford kids don't freaking have them, as I feel I can't afford them so therefore I don't and they are not a burden on your tax dollars!
• sleeper

  

  I Wear Pants;955639 wrote:Yes I'm sure praying about it is going to make his sister stop being a stupid bitch.

  LOL
• Ghmothwdwhso

  Fab1b;955622 wrote:Wrong, it isn't like they are disabled, dead, blah blah blah, they are perfectly capable of getting jobs and doing what is right. I will not take over for someone no matter who it is because they are too ****ing lazy or whaever! I DON'T want kids, plain and simple, it is my life and I work to damn hard to deal with others problems, yes even if it is family! One other reason I don't have kids is because I am a single guy that lives very comfortably on my salary, just the GF and I, but could I take on and raise 3 kids and then be financially stable no ****ing way. One maybe. So still not fair to the kids! I am not traditional, I am my own man. I do what is right for me first, others second, maybe selfish but at the end of the day you can only help yourself first! So yes that may sound shallow to some but I refuse to take my life off its course for others stupidity no matter how close they are. What about my dreams, goals, etc.....?
  
  I didn't mean to make it sound like my nieces don't have clothes or shelter or food. They go to school, they live in a house, its actually not a bad place if my sister and her man weren't such slobs. They have transportation, toys, etc.....but its the future that worries me and not just theirs, my sisters.
  
  Se-Alum I do understand what you are saying and yes again I said what I am saying may sound shallow but that is how I have chosen to live my life. I don't give into others. I chose not to have kids and its just that damn simple. Now would the circumstances change say if my sister (god forbid I am not this mad) died or something tragic happened well absolutley. But until that happens I will continue to stuff it down their throats until they do what is right!

  I see you as one selfish bastard.
  
  Be part of the solution, instead of whining, on-line, to people who don't give a shit.
  
  I would suggest that you go support (I'm not talking finances) your nephew(s)/niece(s) so they have a positive influence in their lives (since you claim their parents aren't). Unfortunately, I don't think you are capable of doing the job, or aren't willing to do the job.
  
  Grow up!
• Fab1b

  

  Ghmothwdwhso;955687 wrote:I see you as one selfish bastard.
  
  Be part of the solution, instead of whining, on-line, to people who don't give a shit.
  
  I would suggest that you go support (I'm not talking finances) your nephew(s)/niece(s) so they have a positive influence in their lives (since you claim their parents aren't). Unfortunately, I don't think you are capable of doing the job, or aren't willing to do the job.
  
  Grow up!

  
  Yeah noted! See didn't ask for advice knew exactly what I was getting here, even mentioned it in the op. However that is what is great about this place, this. Doesn't bother me as you don't know me and I provide support. Your opinion is just as welcome as mine. Don't think I don't spend time with my nieces or even my sister for that matter, the point is I can't take where they are at or how they live and I blew up, most likely alot on here would do as well.