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Ethics question

  • pmoney25
    So if you remember my trial separation thread. Well things have got a little better, however today I kinda snooped through my wifes phone(bad I know) but found some suspicious messages that sseem weird but arent clear.

    Not sure if I should confront or ignore cause I could be wrong and what I did was wrong.
  • SportsAndLady
    I feel like the OC has the worst wives ever
  • Raw Dawgin' it
    Telling her you snooped will automatically make her go on the defensive and do the woman thing and turn the attack on you for being suspicious. Even if she is doing something wrong, she won't admit it and will just use you snooping as an excuse to deflect the attack back on you. It's a lose lose for you.

    I would write the number down in the phone, find out who he is and what her relationship is with him before you do anything. If she is cheating, definitely contact a lawyer and move you assets before you serve her notice.
  • password
    pmoney25;882206 wrote:So if you remember my trial separation thread. Well things have got a little better, however today I kinda snooped through my wifes phone(bad I know) but found some suspicious messages that sseem weird but arent clear.

    Not sure if I should confront or ignore cause I could be wrong and what I did was wrong.
    Are you married to thavoice?
  • pmoney25
    I know the guy, he is a tool to say the least. Scrawny little turd. They have worked together for awhile. When I get some time ill post the messages and you can see if im crazy or not to be suspicious
  • SportsAndLady
    Just post em now..are they that long?
  • THE4RINGZ
    Two words......

    Drive-by Divorce
  • O-Trap
    I can't say I'd be asking ethical questions here. You'll get one of the following answers, without any substantiation:

    - You're right.
    - You're wrong.
    - Upper deck her.
    - Do her best friend/sister/mother/etc.
    - Srs bznss
    - Cool story bro.
  • Glory Days
    O-Trap;882657 wrote:I can't say I'd be asking ethical questions here. You'll get one of the following answers, without any substantiation:

    - You're right.
    - You're wrong.
    - Upper deck her.
    - Do her best friend/sister/mother/etc.
    - Srs bznss
    - Cool story bro.
    kids these days arent using "curbstomp" anymore?
  • friendfromlowry
    Do whatever you need to do to "investigate" on your own. Bringing it up to her will be nothing but bad news.
  • pmoney25
    Saying things like, thanks for dinner, I feel sick now im laying in the living room with panties on. After going out saying she was going to his house instead of coming home. The thing is none of his responses seem as strange. More like a friend on his responses. God this sucks.
  • GoPens
    O-Trap;882657 wrote:I can't say I'd be asking ethical questions here. You'll get one of the following answers, without any substantiation:

    - You're right.
    - You're wrong.
    - Upper deck her.
    - Do her best friend/sister/mother/etc.
    - Srs bznss
    - Cool story bro.
    You forgot PIIHB.
  • GoPens
    Seriously though...sounds like a lawyer or private investigator is needed before confronting her.
  • O-Trap
    GoPens;882746 wrote:You forgot PIIHB.

    I knew I was forgetting something.
    GoPens;882748 wrote:Seriously though...sounds like a lawyer or private investigator is needed before confronting her.
    I agree that a PI would be good.
  • ManO'War
    Woman don't tell their male "friends" that they are laying on the floor with their panties on.

    Don't be naive. Get out now.
  • Sykotyk
    Men do not have platonic friends. They just have women they haven't f***ed yet.
  • LJ
    pmoney25;882743 wrote:Saying things like, thanks for dinner, I feel sick now im laying in the living room with panties on. After going out saying she was going to his house instead of coming home. The thing is none of his responses seem as strange. More like a friend on his responses. God this sucks.

    Is he gay? If not run
  • like_that
    Sykotyk;882862 wrote:Men do not have platonic friends. They just have women they haven't f***ed yet.
    This.
  • dwccrew
    Dude, you just need to face it and realize your wife is banging this other guy. Contact a lawyer as others have said and move any assets you have. Divorce is imminent.
  • Heelz
    3 words for ya

    ANGRY.BUTT.SEX
  • O-Trap
    If the texts from the guy sound non-explicit, I'm saying he's either (a) scared of you, or (b) not interested. If a woman says she's laying around in her panties, and a guy is interested, his texts don't stay Rated-G.

    However, it probably DOES mean that she wants his peen. I hate to say it, but it's true.
  • tigerballonline
    Heres the thing, if you are married, you have a right to know what each other is doing. If she cannot share everything, even before marriage, it is doomed. Some people have a messed up idea of what marriage is, and that is why the divorce rate is at over 50%.
  • se-alum
    tigerballonline;883713 wrote:Heres the thing, if you are married, you have a right to know what each other is doing. If she cannot share everything, even before marriage, it is doomed. Some people have a messed up idea of what marriage is, and that is why the divorce rate is at over 50%.
    I agree with this. Nothing should be hidden in a good marriage. I wouldn't care if my wife picked up my phone and went through it, and I wouldn't be around if she wouldn't let me do the same.
  • Heretic
    After reading some of these relationship threads, I've come to the conclusion that more people on this site need to look into two little words: DOMESTIC ABUSE.

  • justincredible
    Heretic;884016 wrote:After reading some of these relationship threads, I've come to the conclusion that more people on this site need to look into two little words: DOMESTIC ABUSE.

    It works for my wife and I.