Trial Separation

• redstreak one

  

  I have told my wife the only way I am leaving our house is in a body bag! No one will keep me away from my children everyday of the rest of my life. While we have had our problems, we are getting stronger because we love each other and understand that WE are whats best for our children. I agree with the others, I wouldnt be the one leaving the house.
• Cleveland Buck

  

  Cover your ass, hide your money, and don't move out. Let her move out if she wants to. Call a lawyer. See what he suggests you do so you are looked upon more favorably in custody hearings. If you going to go out and get some strange pussy, don't tell her (or anyone) about it.
• JU-ICE

  Do not move out and if she decides to leave, call your attorney ASAP and file residency papers for your kids. The Court will not give you custody if you are living with a friend and same for her. Like the other poster said, be on the offensive, you have no idea what she is thinking/planning and need to protect yourself and your children. I have been through this and she moved out, I have custody of the kids and recieve child support from her.
• Belly35

  

  the problem here is if you agree to this "trial separation" then if it come to a divorce you have no grounds for anything. You are fucked
  
  She cheating ... with your approval ... What kind of plan is that for you mofo
  
  If the kids are important to you ...you better rethink "trail separation" as an opintion.
• majorspark

  

  My dad went through this prior to my parents divorce. You can see the recurring theme many of the posters here have stressed. DO NOT LEAVE YOUR HOME AND CHILDREN. If she wants to leave so be it. My mom wanted the party life and Dad held is ground. He was not about to loose us along with his wife. She left and he was all over securing custody of his children. Dad got custody of his three children ages 3-9-11. We grew up with him and saw Mom every other weekend and alternating holidays and birthdays.
  
  As an adult myself and my brothers relationship with my Dad is much closer than to our mother. It cost my Mom alot. Also you don't want your wife remarrying some fucktard who is able to spend more time with your children than you are able to because you ex is the custodial parent.
• fan_from_texas

  A separation, under the watchful eye of a mental health professional, can be very helpful and is one way to save a marriage. That doesn't seem like what you're describing.
  
  From the sound of it, she wants out, and there's not likely to be a whole lot you can do about it. You can work with a counselor individually, and perhaps suggest that she give it a shot. If her objection is that it's expensive and a waste of time, it's worth noting that counseling is much cheaper than divorce.
• earwig

  Open a checking account in your name only and have your direct deposit from work go to this account. Do NOT open this account in a bank where you have other accounts/joint accounts. Whatever joint accounts you have with her take out half of what ever is there. Cancel any joint credit cards and don't let her run up cc debt in your name.
  
  She wants the trial separation so she moves out, not you. Arrange for daycare for kids while you are at work if you don't have it already.
• thavoice

  If he should move out, would you all advise him to make sure the utilities are switched into her name? I know some, like DP&L power, start to report to the credit agencies if you are slow to payment.
• se-alum

  

  earwig;843365 wrote:Open a checking account in your name only and have your direct deposit from work go to this account. Do NOT open this account in a bank where you have other accounts/joint accounts. Whatever joint accounts you have with her take out half of what ever is there. Cancel any joint credit cards and don't let her run up cc debt in your name.
  
  She wants the trial separation so she moves out, not you. Arrange for daycare for kids while you are at work if you don't have it already.

  
  Solid advice here.
• Cleveland Buck

  

  thavoice;843376 wrote:If he should move out, would you all advise him to make sure the utilities are switched into her name? I know some, like DP&L power, start to report to the credit agencies if you are slow to payment.

  
  He should not move out. Period.
• thavoice

  I know. I am asking if he does though...should he request that?
  Just call it my own personal research
• gerb131

  

  Beat her to the punch.
• derek bomar

  

  well, I would say first to just PIIHB. if that doesn't work, do what everyone else is suggesting.
• justincredible

  

  derek bomar;843603 wrote:well, I would say first to just PIIHB. if that doesn't work, do what everyone else is suggesting.

  
  Sound advice.