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would you put an out of town guest in a hotel room?

  • ZWICK 4 PREZ
    Ok here's the situation. My fiancee is maid of honor in her friends wedding next weekend in Atlanta. She talked to her friend last night and her friend informed her that there will no longer beany room at her house with all the family that is coming in, so we'll have to get a hotel room. But she needs her to come wednesday still to help her with the wedding. So thats 4 nights in a hotel at the last minute. And since she doesn't have her dress yet, she wants her to buy another one at a local shop in atlanta just to make sure she has one for the wedding incase the other one doesnt show. These dresses are $300 a piece. We've already spent 650 on plane tickets, 250 on a rental car, now looking at ~$500 for hotel rooms and extra $300 for another dress.....all for the privilage of being ather wedding? I'd at least put an out of town guest in a hotel if I didnt have room for them at my house.
  • BR1986FB
    Screw that. Is she going to ask you to chip in for the cost of the wedding too? Sheesh...
  • j_crazy
    Fuck this bitch.
  • september63
    You think they would put you up in the hotel. Usually when out of towners are coming the bride/groom, at minimum, makes all the arrangements so that everyone is at the same motel. This would also get you reduced rates bc everyone would be staying at the same place.

    Either way you are going to have to roll with it bc this is your fiancee's friend. Suck it up and have a fun weekend.
  • OneBuckeye
    ZWICK 4 PREZ;767222 wrote:Ok here's the situation. My fiancee is maid of honor in her friends wedding next weekend in Atlanta. She talked to her friend last night and her friend informed her that there will no longer beany room at her house with all the family that is coming in, so we'll have to get a hotel room. But she needs her to come wednesday still to help her with the wedding. So thats 4 nights in a hotel at the last minute. And since she doesn't have her dress yet, she wants her to buy another one at a local shop in atlanta just to make sure she has one for the wedding incase the other one doesnt show. These dresses are $300 a piece. We've already spent 650 on plane tickets, 250 on a rental car, now looking at ~$500 for hotel rooms and extra $300 for another dress.....all for the privilage of being ather wedding? I'd at least put an out of town guest in a hotel if I didnt have room for them at my house.

    Was the best man at a wedding at TPC sawgrass... everyone stayed at the hotel and I had to pay for my room. Plus plane tickets etc... Seems to be standard procedure. Although the brides grandparents and mother were the only ones that lived in Jacksonville. I ended up spending at least 800 for just me on that wedding.
  • Manhattan Buckeye
    Was she initially invited to stay with her, if so very rude to withdraw the offer. Otherwise there's no expectation that accomodations are provided. The dress thing is silly, no way should she have to purhcase the other one.
  • ZWICK 4 PREZ
    Manhattan Buckeye;767231 wrote:Was she initially invited to stay with her, if so very rude to withdraw the offer. Otherwise there's no expectation that accomodations are provided. The dress thing is silly, no way should she have to purhcase the other one.

    Yes we were, until last night, staying in their guest room. Now someone else is.
  • OneBuckeye
    ZWICK 4 PREZ;767233 wrote:Yes we were, until last night, staying in their guest room. Now someone else is.

    If that is the case, tell her she can't afford it now and just don't go. That is a shady move.
  • ZWICK 4 PREZ
    OneBuckeye;767230 wrote:Was the best man at a wedding at TPC sawgrass... everyone stayed at the hotel and I had to pay for my room. Plus plane tickets etc... Seems to be standard procedure. Although the brides grandparents and mother were the only ones that lived in Jacksonville. I ended up spending at least 800 for just me on that wedding.

    appreciated.. but this is $800 additional at the last minute to the 900 we've (I've) already spent.
  • OneBuckeye
    ZWICK 4 PREZ;767239 wrote:appreciated.. but this is $800 additional at the last minute to the 900 we've (I've) already spent.

    Granted, I didn't get a rental car, my tux was only 180$ and I split my hotel room with 2 other guys. And my wife hated the bride so she found a way not to go. So it was just me. If my wife went I would be in your same situation. Which totally sucks.
  • ZWICK 4 PREZ
    OneBuckeye;767240 wrote:Granted, I didn't get a rental car, my tux was only 180$ and I split my hotel room with 2 other guys. And my wife hated the bride so she found a way not to go. So it was just me. If my wife went I would be in your same situation. Which totally sucks.

    Yeah I'm going to spend at least $1500 on a girl I've never met before in my life. This is what's not sitting well with me.
  • OneBuckeye
    ZWICK 4 PREZ;767241 wrote:Yeah I'm going to spend at least $1500 on a girl I've never met before in my life. This is what's not sitting well with me.

    I would tell your woman that you aren't going and she is staying at her friends house. Cancel the rental car and have them pick her up from the airport, and cancel your plane ticket if you can. Then go golfing while she's gone. She will understand. Seriously its a waste of money.
  • BR1986FB
    That dress bullshit sounds like your fiancee's friend is one of those high maintenence "Bridezilla's."
  • ZWICK 4 PREZ
    OneBuckeye;767245 wrote:I would tell your woman that you aren't going and she is staying at her friends house. Cancel the rental car and have them pick her up from the airport, and cancel your plane ticket if you can. Then go golfing while she's gone. She will understand. Seriously its a waste of money.

    Can't cancel the plane ticket but the rest are very close to being cancelled lol
  • OneBuckeye
    ZWICK 4 PREZ;767249 wrote:Can't cancel the plane ticket but the rest are very close to being cancelled lol

    Don't forget the "I won't know anybody there" "They are all your old friends" "You will have just as much fun with them without me" lines when trying to get out of it.
  • ZWICK 4 PREZ
    OneBuckeye;767252 wrote:Don't forget the "I won't know anybody there" "They are all your old friends" "You will have just as much fun with them without me" lines when trying to get out of it.

    The problem is she doesn't even want to go and waste the money on it but she won't cancel on her friend.
  • WebFire
    IMO, you shouldn't ask someone to be in your wedding if you can't pay for them to be there. Airfare, hotel, dress. You should at least be able to offer all of that. I'd be pissed to have to pay that much just to be in a wedding.
  • LJ
    Sounds like the bride is being a bridezilla. The choices are obviously she goes and everything will get back to normal after the wedding, or you guys dont go and they will never speak again.
  • LJ
    WebFire;767259 wrote:IMO, you shouldn't ask someone to be in your wedding if you can't pay for them to be there. Airfare, hotel, dress. You should at least be able to offer all of that. I'd be pissed to have to pay that much just to be in a wedding.

    I believe it is customary for the bridesmaids to buy their own dress unless that is their gift from the bride
  • OneBuckeye
    ZWICK 4 PREZ;767255 wrote:The problem is she doesn't even want to go and waste the money on it but she won't cancel on her friend.

    Yeah I didn't want to go and blow a bunch of money and didn't want to cancel on my friend either. That is why my wife and I decided I should go by myself and do it more cheaply. Financially it didn't make sense to spend vacation type money on a freaking weekend wedding.
  • BR1986FB
    WebFire;767259 wrote:IMO, you shouldn't ask someone to be in your wedding if you can't pay for them to be there. Airfare, hotel, dress. You should at least be able to offer all of that. I'd be pissed to have to pay that much just to be in a wedding.

    Girl I used to work with was getting married in the Bahamas and was irked that more people couldn't make it to the wedding. As much as I enjoyed the Bahamas it was still the friggin Bahamas. Can't expect someone to just pull up and leave the country, at their own expense, for a wedding.
  • Manhattan Buckeye
    WebFire;767259 wrote:IMO, you shouldn't ask someone to be in your wedding if you can't pay for them to be there. Airfare, hotel, dress. You should at least be able to offer all of that. I'd be pissed to have to pay that much just to be in a wedding.

    Well that's your opinion but it ain't reality, my wife has been in 4 weddings and we've spent $1,500-$2,000 on each if you add in parties, showers, etc. I've NEVER heard of anyone offering to pay for anyone else except one exception (and that guy was a billionaire, literally). If you can't afford to go to the wedding, you can simply decline the invitation.
  • LJ
    BR1986FB;767264 wrote:Girl I used to work with was getting married in the Bahamas and was irked that more people couldn't make it to the wedding. As much as I enjoyed the Bahamas it was still the friggin Bahamas. Can't expect someone to just pull up and leave the country, at their own expense, for a wedding.

    People who do that are supposed to throw a 2nd small reception in their hometown.
  • ZWICK 4 PREZ
    personally if i invited an out of town guest to stay with me and didnt have room for them, I'd put them in a hotel.
  • ZWICK 4 PREZ
    Manhattan Buckeye;767273 wrote:Well that's your opinion but it ain't reality, my wife has been in 4 weddings and we've spent $1,500-$2,000 on each if you add in parties, showers, etc. I've NEVER heard of anyone offering to pay for anyone else except one exception (and that guy was a billionaire, literally). If you can't afford to go to the wedding, you can simply decline the invitation.

    I don't expect it either. I've already spent $900 on my own knowing I'd have to. The change of plans hotel for $500 and $300 insurance dress is what doesnt sit well with me.