Sending text messages to the wrong person....or spelled wrong text

• like_that

  

  Raw Dawgin' it;740307 wrote:Depending on how old the phone there is a text limit in the inbox and messages need to be deleted. My old flip phone was like this. Also, i delete irrelevant text messages so it being deleted on the phone but showing up on the bill is normal. Also, didn't you say you don't have a cell phone?

  
  
  Even if the inbox wasn't full the daughter is not going to confess to the parent that she was up to no good lol. She is gonna say nothing is going on, and also think how it is stupid and creepy how her father/mother is checking the dates of all her texts and make sure those dates match the texts currently on her phone.
• FatHobbit

  

  sleeper;740289 wrote:That's fine. Like I said, I had one parent try to control my life and another that let me make all the mistakes in the world. Now that I'm grown, can you guess which parent I don't talk too?

  
  This explains a lot.
• majorspark

  

  sleeper;740337 wrote:You're naive if you really think you are preventing dangerous behavior or that you're overprotective and controlling nature is what is causing him to "change". He's the same guy, but he's gotten a thousand times better at being dishonest while making the same mistakes he would make if you hadn't intervened. Like I said, you've effectively destroyed your relationship with your son, while at the same time opening him up to greater risks that he will take when he finally gets free from your oppressive reign.

  Actually our relationship has gotten better. His mistakes have prompted many intimate discussions on becoming a man and his responsibilites he will hold in adult life. He knows I love and care for him and do not want to see his actions result in physical or mentall harm to himself or others. He realizes lying does not pay and is trying to build the trust that he lost. In turn I will allow him more responsibility. We have an understanding that if he gets his grades up to C level, does not lie to us, and shows respect for his authorities, he will have his drivers license this summer and can enjoy that privilege to its fullest. As a parent you have to find the proper balance. I am not crushing him under my iron fist, but lovingly showing him through my authority over him how to behave responsibly.
  
  I am sorry you had a bad relationship with your parents to the point you will not even speak to one of them. I hope you get over that before you have children of your own. Resenting your parents and not forgiving them for their mistakes will cloud your judement as a parent.
• Gblock

  i think both sides have good points...the answer is probably something in the middle. sleeper do you think you might change your view somewhat when you are a parent? i think it would be easier for me to give my sons more freedom than a daughter but we'll see. ive heard that once you become a parent, what you thought you would do changes drastically from what you actually do.
• sleeper

  

  FatHobbit;740371 wrote:This explains a lot.

  I lol'd.
  

  majorspark;740437 wrote:Actually our relationship has gotten better. His mistakes have prompted many intimate discussions on becoming a man and his responsibilites he will hold in adult life. He knows I love and care for him and do not want to see his actions result in physical or mentall harm to himself or others. He realizes lying does not pay and is trying to build the trust that he lost. In turn I will allow him more responsibility. We have an understanding that if he gets his grades up to C level, does not lie to us, and shows respect for his authorities, he will have his drivers license this summer and can enjoy that privilege to its fullest. As a parent you have to find the proper balance. I am not crushing him under my iron fist, but lovingly showing him through my authority over him how to behave responsibly.
  
  I am sorry you had a bad relationship with your parents to the point you will not even speak to one of them. I hope you get over that before you have children of your own. Resenting your parents and not forgiving them for their mistakes will cloud your judement as a parent.

  You've been hoodwinked. Talk to me in a few years when he goes off to college(although with barely getting C's he's destined for mediocrity anyway) and fucks up when it actually matters. Will you still have succeeded as a parent? No, you will have failed and it will be your fault.
  

  Gblock;740494 wrote:i think both sides have good points...the answer is probably something in the middle. sleeper do you think you might change your view somewhat when you are a parent? i think it would be easier for me to give my sons more freedom than a daughter but we'll see. ive heard that once you become a parent, what you thought you would do changes drastically from what you actually do.

  No, I doubt my views change. I refuse to shelter my children and pretend my actions, for the most part, are going to stop them from doing what they are going to find a way to do anyway. The best you can do as a parent is teach them at a young age how to act, guide them through their life, and when they fuck up, use that as a lesson for future reference.