Question for married huddlers

• FatHobbit

  

  Sleepers thread got me thinking. What do you wish you knew before you got married, that you know now? If you were going to do it over again, what would you ask, or try to understand first?
• THE4RINGZ

  

  One of the keys to marriage is being mature enough to handle the challenges life brings on a day to day basis. Knowing what I know now I would still do it, it is good to have someone to get through all those challenges together with.
• power i

  

  I wish I would have known that he likes his sandwiches with mustard, not mayo.
• CenterBHSFan

  

  When I was in my very early 20's, I asked my granny about marriage.
  
  Me: "How did you/grandpap manage the death do us part thing?"
  Her: "We never hated each other at the same time."
• WebFire

  power i wrote: I wish I would have known that he likes his sandwiches with mustard, not mayo.

  Hahahaha
• Con_Alma

  I am glad I was able to learn things together with my wife. Part of the rewards of marriage is experiencing growth with your spouse. I don't think I would change that at all.
  
  Going in I knew what I knew and learned and grew together through experience the things I didn't know. That's a true contribution to the strength of our present relationship.
• ernest_t_bass

  

  Been through some rough spells that I wish we would have hashed out b/f we were married. Just to get some of those things out in the open before.
• fortfan

  I didn't know anything before I was married-and I don't need to know anything now, because my wife knows everything and is always right!
• vball10set

  CenterBHSFan wrote: When I was in my very early 20's, I asked my granny about marriage.
  
  Me: "How did you/grandpap manage the death do us part thing?"
  Her: "We never hated each other at the same time."

  I like this....it goes along with "never go to bed mad at each other",although that's very hard to do!!!
• SnotBubbles

  I wish I had known my wife was such a bitch.
  
  /thread.
• FatHobbit

  

  SnotBubbles wrote: I wish I had known my wife was such a bitch.
  
  /thread.

  So was she a bitch before you married her and you just didn't see it, or did she turn into a bitch after you were married?
• SnotBubbles

  I was actually just joking.
  
  But, I will say, that after I married her...she did get a lot more bitchy. However, it's not like I've never given her any reason to be a bitch (sarcasm).
  
  People say who say women don't change after they get married are liars. Both men and women change.
  
  If your reason behind starting the thread is because you are considering getting married...the only advice I can offer is to make sure (110%) that she is the one. I also suggest "living in sin." I did for a year, I pretty much knew what I was getting. If you have any doubt...you will be miserable at some point in your marriage.
• FatHobbit

  

  SnotBubbles wrote: I was actually just joking.
  
  But, I will say, that after I married her...she did get a lot more bitchy. However, it's not like I've never given her any reason to be a bitch (sarcasm).
  
  People say who say women don't change after they get married are liars. Both men and women change.
  
  If your reason behind starting the thread is because you are considering getting married...the only advice I can offer is to make sure (110%) that she is the one. I also suggest "living in sin." I did for a year, I pretty much knew what I was getting. If you have any doubt...you will be miserable at some point in your marriage.

  I didn't mean to call your wife a bitch. (I kinda thought you were joking, but I wasn't sure.)
  
  I remember a quote from somewhere that women expect men to change after they are married and they are dissapointed when they don't. Men expect women to stay the same, and they are dissapointed that they change.
  
  I'm engaged now, and already some things have changed. I have a feeling there are a lot of things both of us don't even see coming. I just wondered what other people ran into.
• Thunder70

  

  I wish I better understood (note, not completely understand) how women handled problems and I wish I was in a better financial position (both in quantity and in knowledge).
• Belly35

  

  Every day even now after 39 years of marriage is a discovery time. I never know nor does she know but something will happen or we will do something and it will be something we did know about each other.
  Those little discoveries just makes me say WOW what a interesting person I married and that is a good feeling. Yesterday I discovered she likes McDonald Coffee.... Hell I alway thought she liked StarBucks
  First we never go to McDonald for anything and Second she does not drink much coffee ...good news is McDonald is cheaper than Starbucks my lucky day
• SnotBubbles

  FatHobbit wrote: I didn't mean to call your wife a bitch. (I kinda thought you were joking, but I wasn't sure.)
  
  I remember a quote from somewhere that women expect men to change after they are married and they are dissapointed when they don't. Men expect women to stay the same, and they are dissapointed that they change.
  
  I'm engaged now, and already some things have changed. I have a feeling there are a lot of things both of us don't even see coming. I just wondered what other people ran into.

  Haha...I know man. Even if you did...I wouldn't be angry or completely disagree with you.
  
  Like I said...just make sure before you take the plunge. People will tell you that everything will change. You will believe, "no, not to me...she's different." Then about 2-3 years down the road...you'll realize people were right. So you HAVE to be 100% sure that you love her before you do it. Only true love can weather the test of marriage, and it can easily turn into a disaster.
• CinciX12

  

  Do you think that its better to be with someone that is very similar to yourself or different?
  
  I think that for dating the answer is different than yourself, but for a marriage it would make more sense to actually have a lot in common and be similar. Easier to avoid fights basically.
• CenterBHSFan

  

  The thing to remember is that people DO change, it doesn't matter if they admit it or not.
  Events in life happen, and people must adapt to them. It could be finances, locations (home), kids, jobs, deaths, etc. Those stimulants demand change in one form or another or the person(s) life becomes retarded in growth, learning, whatever.
• Ghmothwdwhso

  I knew I married Ms. right, I just didn't know her first name was always.
  
  Credit: Rodney Dangerfield and probably others.