What's it like being married?

• jmog

  Its all about marrying the right person.
  
  I got married a month before I turned 21, I've been married for over 10 years now.
  
  It has been absolutely amazing. Are there ups and downs? Sure, but that's no different than any other relationship.
  
  And for those who keep referring to it as "the same sex every time" are obviously doing it wrong.
  
  I won't, obviously, go into details, but the longer/more comfortable you get with the right woman, the more "exotic" things get brought into the bedroom.
  
  Oh yeah, and no worries of STDs and no condoms=GOAT.
• redstreak one

  

  ^^^^ NO KIDDING on the no condoms thing! Big Time Plus!
• McFly1955

  

  Being married has been great for us.
  
  We began dating at 16, both got a bachelor's degree the same month at age 22, married at 23, now we're 24 with our first baby on the way.
  
  We have a nice house with a little room to grow in, both have good jobs, and really don't get into many disputes any more (been together 7+ years already).
• Devils Advocate

  

  redstreak one wrote: ^^^^ NO KIDDING on the no condoms thing! Big Time Plus!

  WOW... Somebody send this memo to Mrs. Advocate!
• Swamp Fox

  Good most of the time. There are always those moments when you want to kill each other, but they pass and peace and a certain amount of harmony prevails.
• BR1986FB

  Was married three months...overrated. Have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 7+ years and it's much better, IMO. May get married again someday but have no plans to at this point.
• Con_Alma

  If being married is "overrated" and you see things as much better not being married why would you even believe that you may get married again?
• zambrown

  

  I'm looking at a strict analysis of what its like to have to sleep with one person the rest of your life

  If you stay married long enough, you don't even have to do that.
  
  Heretic, you really should try to let those feelings out and express them. I think you have too many repressed thoughts.
  
  NOT! I did LMAO, though. Very succinct and too the point.
• ksig489

  If your concern is more on sex than anything else in a relationship...dont even try it.
  
  Marriage isnt about having sex with the same person every night and never being with anyone else. Marriage is about being with the person that you want to be with above all else. That means just hanging out and watching TV, sitting with them at dinner, even cleaning up after the pets.
  
  I am not married but have lived with my fiance for a year now and we are getting married in July. There is no better feeling than coming home from work and seeing her there. My mood instantly changes to being happy and when I get a big hug and a kiss I forget about all the crap of the work day. I have had a pretty bad year when it comes to work but none of it matters at all because I have her. I have been in what I thought were pretty deep relationships in the past but I never realized how much in love you can be with someone until I got together with my fiance. She is the single most important thing in my life and all I want to do is make her happy. She treats me the exact same way. Getting to go to bed with her every night is a bonus, not a penalty.
  
  That is what being married is like.
• jmog

  ksig489 wrote: If your concern is more on sex than anything else in a relationship...dont even try it.
  
  Marriage isnt about having sex with the same person every night and never being with anyone else. Marriage is about being with the person that you want to be with above all else. That means just hanging out and watching TV, sitting with them at dinner, even cleaning up after the pets.
  
  I am not married but have lived with my fiance for a year now and we are getting married in July. There is no better feeling than coming home from work and seeing her there. My mood instantly changes to being happy and when I get a big hug and a kiss I forget about all the crap of the work day. I have had a pretty bad year when it comes to work but none of it matters at all because I have her. I have been in what I thought were pretty deep relationships in the past but I never realized how much in love you can be with someone until I got together with my fiance. She is the single most important thing in my life and all I want to do is make her happy. She treats me the exact same way. Getting to go to bed with her every night is a bonus, not a penalty.
  
  That is what being married is like.

  This!
• Con_Alma

  That's interesting seeing how the two leading causes of divorce stem from issues surrounding sex and/or money.
  
  One can really enjoy being around one person and just hanging out and watching TV, sitting with them at dinner, even cleaning up after the pets....but if there are problems in the bedroom or a lack of agreement on finances the marriage will most likely not last.
• tk421

  

  Yeah, people who say sex isn't that important in marriage are lying. It's a huge issue, one that like Con said, causes the most divorces after money issues. I'd rather not deal with it, personally. You can still have a relationship like mentioned above without getting married.
• sleeper

  

  Well anyway, the reason I bring this up is there's this chick, she's SUPER hot, like 10/10 super model status(she's also dumb as rocks, but her beauty outweighs that) that I've been hanging out with recently. We've gone out on a few dates, we've cuddled, made out, etc... The problem is, she won't have sex with me because she's waiting for marriage.
  
  So essentially, if this marriage business isn't too much more of a hassle than a regular relationship, why not? I mean weddings can't be THAT expensive and like I said, she's REALLY attractive. Obviously I have a lot to think about, and I'm only about 80% sure she'd even say yes, but I figure if I bought her a nice enough ring, and then just went to vegas and eloped(which would save money on the wedding costs), BOOM, I'm married and we can do the damn thing.
• ksig489

  Wow...you think she is dumb as rocks...until she starts planning the wedding that is THAT expensive. Do you have any idea how much a cake costs for roughly 125 people? Unless you are getting it from Wal-Mart you are looking at about $500. And her dress? She will want the $900 dress. And flowers? And invitations? And the stupid little things to put on the tables at the reception? And the reception hall? And the honeymoon?
  
  If you just want to get laid by a hot chick save yourself a ton of money and move on to another one who isnt waiting. Or just take $100 down to the red light district somewhere.
  
  
  

  tk421 wrote: Yeah, people who say sex isn't that important in marriage are lying. It's a huge issue, one that like Con said, causes the most divorces after money issues. I'd rather not deal with it, personally. You can still have a relationship like mentioned above without getting married.

  I didnt say there was no importance to sexual compatibility...I said if it is your first concern than you shouldnt even try marriage. The people who get divorced over sex shouldnt have been married in the first place. It is not the right reason to get married.
• bamagirl

  sleeper wrote: Well anyway, the reason I bring this up is there's this chick, she's SUPER hot, like 10/10 super model status(she's also dumb as rocks, but her beauty outweighs that) that I've been hanging out with recently. We've gone out on a few dates, we've cuddled, made out, etc... The problem is, she won't have sex with me because she's waiting for marriage.
  
  So essentially, if this marriage business isn't too much more of a hassle than a regular relationship, why not? I mean weddings can't be THAT expensive and like I said, she's REALLY attractive. Obviously I have a lot to think about, and I'm only about 80% sure she'd even say yes, but I figure if I bought her a nice enough ring, and then just went to vegas and eloped(which would save money on the wedding costs), BOOM, I'm married and we can do the damn thing.

  Loving the sarcasm. (At least I praying that is what it truely is) Marriage is competely different than boyfriend and girlfriend. It is supposed to be a LIFE LONG commitment. Marrying for looks isn't going to get you anywhere either, looks don't last.
  
  The reason I can see myself spending the rest of my life with my boyfriend isn't because of his looks. (And don't any one thinking I am saying he is ugly...cause that def isn't the case) Anyway I can see myself spending the rest of my life with him is bottom line he makes me laugh...I know no matter what crap comes along we are going to get through it, if you cannot laugh well you got nothing.
  
  I am sure I am wasting my time but figured it was worth a shot.
• Devils Advocate

  

  I think that THAT is what sleeper is sayin.... Just Sayin
• mattinctown

  sleeper wrote: Well anyway, the reason I bring this up is there's this chick, she's SUPER hot, like 10/10 super model status(she's also dumb as rocks, but her beauty outweighs that) that I've been hanging out with recently. We've gone out on a few dates, we've cuddled, made out, etc... The problem is, she won't have sex with me because she's waiting for marriage.
  
  So essentially, if this marriage business isn't too much more of a hassle than a regular relationship, why not? I mean weddings can't be THAT expensive and like I said, she's REALLY attractive. Obviously I have a lot to think about, and I'm only about 80% sure she'd even say yes, but I figure if I bought her a nice enough ring, and then just went to vegas and eloped(which would save money on the wedding costs), BOOM, I'm married and we can do the damn thing.

  
  If you're being serious, you've got tons to learn. You would propose to someone just to have sex with them because they are hot??? Wow.
• Con_Alma

  ksig489 wrote: .....I said if it is your first concern than you shouldnt even try marriage. The people who get divorced over sex shouldnt have been married in the first place. It is not the right reason to get married.

  Amen to that. I couldn't agree any more.
• ernest_t_bass

  

  Sleeper, I'm laughing my a$$ off at what you've created here. My marriage is what it is. It is my marriage, and it is no ones dang business.
• BigAppleBuckeye

  

  I think a lot of people just settle and wind up getting married out of convenience instead of love, which leads to disaster. I am 34 and have dated my fair share of women, and a few wanted to get married, but I knew that they weren't the one, so I broke it off. I finally met the person who I want to be with, and I have zero doubt that I made the right choice by proposing to her last July.
  
  A lot of people get married based on various pressures, and wind up miserable for it.
• Gblock

  hot chicks aren't always much of a giver in bed...... sleeper so be careful what you wish for.....if your goin into this without test driving the merchandise you better at least like her personality. some of the hottest chicks ive dated didnt really put out that much. obviously before someone says it there are plenty that do, im just sayin
• THE4RINGZ

  

  Marriage is pure bliss on each and every level.
  At least that is my opinion, my wife's might be completely opposite.
• Gblock

  on a side note im getting divorced may 11th...im pretty happy about it. we broke up in 2006, so even though its all friendly this is long overdue. my story is kinda like fab1b...she was 22 i was 28.....got married waay to young and found we couldnt live in the same house.
• berry

  Same as single only with 4 hands.
• Writerbuckeye

  

  sleeper wrote: Well anyway, the reason I bring this up is there's this chick, she's SUPER hot, like 10/10 super model status(she's also dumb as rocks, but her beauty outweighs that) that I've been hanging out with recently. We've gone out on a few dates, we've cuddled, made out, etc... The problem is, she won't have sex with me because she's waiting for marriage.
  
  So essentially, if this marriage business isn't too much more of a hassle than a regular relationship, why not? I mean weddings can't be THAT expensive and like I said, she's REALLY attractive. Obviously I have a lot to think about, and I'm only about 80% sure she'd even say yes, but I figure if I bought her a nice enough ring, and then just went to vegas and eloped(which would save money on the wedding costs), BOOM, I'm married and we can do the damn thing.

  Please do HER a favor and walk away.