The legality of polyamorous marriage ... what say you?

• O-Trap

  

  I have a friend who just told his parents (and several friends, myself included) that he's in a polyamorous relationship. Apparently, he and another guy are dating a girl, and they all live together (Three's Company?), including her little girl from a previous marriage (to none of the current parties). The guys aren't "together," but they're both together with the girl.
  
  I then ran across an article posted on Facebook about such a couple.
  
  http://losangeles.cbslocal.com/2012/02/14/1-woman-2-men-in-a-polyamorous-relationship-raising-a-child-in-topanga/
  
  So, is there any reason they, as well as the couple in this article, shouldn't be allowed to get married?
• gut

  Sounds like the girl found herself two halves to make 1 guy capable of supporting her and her baby.
  
  There's something extremely wrong about two guys sharing a girlfriend....what is it, like even/odd days where she sleeps? Seems like multiple ways this would end badly.
  
  On the other hand, Seinfeld did once address the merits of such an arrangement.
• gport_tennis

  Guy #1 is basically a live in nanny. Girl basically said she is not sexually attracted to him, she just likes coming home to a clean house. Guy #2 is for sex, money, and enjoyment & he don't have to deal with feelings.
  
  Guy #1 is getting hosed
• sleeper

  

  I don't have an issue with it but I also think its weird. I also feel the same way about homosexuality but since we live in a world where everything gay is considered "normal" I don't express that opinion anywhere I'm not anonymous.
• jmog

  I have the same view on this as I do homosexuality.
  
  I believe it to be morally wrong, but there are a few things:
  1. I don't judge them for what they are doing.
  2. I don't think the government should tell them they aren't allowed to do it.
  3. If the government eventually allows poly-amorous marriages, churches/clergy who don't agree with it can not be forced to perform ceremonies.
• O-Trap

  

  gport_tennis;1596518 wrote:Guy #1 is basically a live in nanny. Girl basically said she is not sexually attracted to him, she just likes coming home to a clean house. Guy #2 is for sex, money, and enjoyment & he don't have to deal with feelings.
  
  Guy #1 is getting hosed

  I actually asked how the bedroom arrangements work. Apparently, they both get some regularly, but never at the same time.
  
  Also, as I understand it, all of them have jobs.
  

  ccrunner609;1596521 wrote:guy #1 is likely gay under that scenerio

  I've known him for years, and if he's gay, he's done a pretty good job faking straight all this time.
• QuakerOats

  Nothing strange at all. Hell, throw in a transgender and a billy goat and they'd have a normal family in California.
• Heretic

  

  QuakerOats;1596719 wrote:Nothing strange at all. Hell, throw in a transgender and a billy goat and they'd have a normal family in California.

  And then throw out everything but the billy goat and add a hillbilly and they'd have your house!
• gport_tennis

  O-Trap;1596716 wrote:I actually asked how the bedroom arrangements work. Apparently, they both get some regularly, but never at the same time.
  
  Also, as I understand it, all of them have jobs.
  
  
  
  I've known him for years, and if he's gay, he's done a pretty good job faking straight all this time.

  Talking about the article, not or friend
• O-Trap

  

  gport_tennis;1596741 wrote:Talking about the article, not or friend

  My mistake.
• Midstate01

  

  Is this what that breaking Benjamin song is about??
• Glory Days

  

  why not just get a few more people involved and have a whole married community!
• gut

  O-Trap;1596716 wrote:Apparently, they both get some regularly, but never at the same time.

  They both better have a lot of confidence in what they get done in the bedroom. Unless they're both closet cuckolds, I'm just not sure how that could work in the long-run. I might understand how people can have an open relationship, but I don't get how someone shares their gf in a one-way monogamous relationship.
  
  Must be some interesting dinner conversations "You let him do WHAT?!?? Why don't you ever let me do that?"
• cruiser_96

  

  Is it at this point that the "Define Marriage or Else" crowd earns their justification? I only ask because when "they" said that this would be the result of not defining marriage as one man/one woman, "they" were scoffed at and mocked, stating, "That will never happen!"
  
  Whatevs.
• Footwedge

  I guess sloppy seconds is not a problem here
• IggyPride00

  

  QuakerOats;1596719 wrote:Nothing strange at all. Hell, throw in a transgender and a billy goat and they'd have a normal family in California.

  Best post this thread. Reps to you.